if a guy tells you that he picked up another woman then he clearly do not care about your feelings or he has a death wish but either way it's a red flag .....don't walk or take the train.....Run ...unless of course you like that type of drama

Yeah I'm gonna have to go with the group on this one. A lot of times online friendships don't translate to real life ones. People sometimes have a different personality when they have the luxury of being behind a monitor.

i dont necessarily think he is trying to hurt her feelings.. maybe so or could be.. but doesnt sound like it.. i think he cant communicate to her by being blunt.. a lot of times this occurs when someone doesnt want to hurt your feelings..

It's weird because we were both the people who we said we were. And had a blast. I'm not saying it just because I did. He even told me that the whole time he was with me he didn't think about past relationships he was just happy with me.

That's what I was afraid of.. What really disappointed me was that he was the one looking for a relationship and I wasn't but really started to think there was something there. He was even showing me to his friends and everything..? Now all of a sudden he doesn't want any kind of commitment??

Ugh... Not impressed..

Ok. Were you two dating (after you spent time with him)? Did you both decide to become bf/gf? If so, then yeah, him hitting on other women is totally not cool. Now, if you two were not bf/gf, or exclusive dating, or whatever, then he really didn't do anything wrong.

To answer your question though, he is not grieving. You don't grieve by picking up a chick. You might go get drunk and then stumble into meeting a woman and then going home and getting laid. But really...how many times does that REALLY happen? I'm grieveing, so I went out and pick this hot chick up and banged her. Sorry. Not happening.

And then you have to factor in that some people are just plain weird. I gave up on thinking all people think rationally a loooooooong time ago.

I went to go meet a guy I met on here and we were really for it being the first meeting and everything but I thought we seem to really hit it off. Excluding how shy and nervous we were. There was a family emergency andthings didn't go so well. He lost a family member the day after I left and we still talk but we seem so distant compared to a month ago.

He even told me how girls hit on him so much now which never use to happen and how he likes it. He even picked up a girl once and said he never does that? But even if your seeing someone I don't feel you should be picking up another girl? The distance for us is only an hour but neither one of us drives. So we have to go by train.

We use to take an interest in each others lives and now I feel it's a one way street. Can this change with time as it could be just because he is grieving??

Chelsea it's time to cut & run - doesn't sound like he's any great catch anyway if he doesn't know better than to talk to you about other women he's dating. I think that it is mean to do that to you & u can do waaaaaaaaay lots better than that nonsense -as u r very cute!