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..She has passed on to you an STD that she didnt know about either.. An STD that was from an ex years ago.. You both are victims, in other words..Will this be a reason for you to break up with your girlfriend (for guys)? Will you hate your girlfriend for this?
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Assuming the story is accurate... nbd.
It's all part of modern life... 
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If I were to have a girlfriend, odds are against her being able to pass on to me an std,lol
but for arguments sake,, if I were a MALE,,,I would not hold that against her if I trusted that she didnt know and it was from a previous relationship |
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Assuming the story is accurate... nbd. It's all part of modern life... what's nbd by the way |
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Assuming the story is accurate... nbd. It's all part of modern life... what's nbd by the way sorry... i've fallen into computerese nbd=no big deal |
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Assuming the story is accurate... nbd. It's all part of modern life... NBD......oh well she gave me aids, better luck next time. It's just a part of life.....SURE! What kind of std did you get? Are there kinds of sexual disease you can get from non sexual activities? Needles...blood borne...ect. Best thing is both get tested together if you think your relationship might go that far. One night stands...indiscrimate sex, well if that's your lifestyle - russian roulette! Ron |
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If I were to have a girlfriend, odds are against her being able to pass on to me an std,lol but for arguments sake,, if I were a MALE,,,I would not hold that against her if I trusted that she didnt know and it was from a previous relationship actually female to female transmission of STDs are just as real a threat as male to female or female to male...soooooo...NOBODY is really safe... as for the OP..guess it all depends on the relationship, frankly one would think that in this day and age, all of that is already discussed up front...if you are single and sexually active and not getting tested every six months, you´re putting everyone at risk and that is not ok... |
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Assuming the story is accurate... nbd. It's all part of modern life... NBD......oh well she gave me aids, better luck next time. It's just a part of life.....SURE! What kind of std did you get? Are there kinds of sexual disease you can get from non sexual activities? Needles...blood borne...ect. Best thing is both get tested together if you think your relationship might go that far. One night stands...indiscrimate sex, well if that's your lifestyle - russian roulette! Ron not me! Silly! |
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I'd be just a little pizzed off........
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Assuming the story is accurate... nbd. It's all part of modern life... NBD......oh well she gave me aids, better luck next time. It's just a part of life.....SURE! What kind of std did you get? Are there kinds of sexual disease you can get from non sexual activities? Needles...blood borne...ect. Best thing is both get tested together if you think your relationship might go that far. One night stands...indiscrimate sex, well if that's your lifestyle - russian roulette! Ron Good points Ron... however. If she contract an STD unwittingly from some... she made a bad move. If I then contracted from her.. I made a bad move. Where's my motivation to be angry at her? Hell yeah I'd be unhappy about getting the disease... but it's no more her fault than it is mine. So back to the OP... Will I break up with her because of it? NO. Will I hate her because of it. NO. As grounds for breaking up our relationship it is, no big deal. |
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Edited by
leveller1
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Wed 09/22/10 04:57 AM
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"Ron
Good points Ron... however. If she contract an STD unwittingly from some... she made a bad move. If I then contracted from her.. I made a bad move. Where's my motivation to be angry at her? Hell yeah I'd be unhappy about getting the disease... but it's no more her fault than it is mine. So back to the OP... Will I break up with her because of it? NO. Will I hate her because of it. NO. As grounds for breaking up our relationship it is, no big deal. " What he said .... |
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No.....
Just turn med time into bonding time.... 
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I would loose respect for them, as well as be angry at myself. loose repect for them becuase they do not have good judgement as well as poor decision making skills, and angry at myself for showing the same lack of judgement and poor decision making skills!
All in all, it would suck, and likely be a negative situation. I am unsure if it would be a relationship killer for me, I guess it would depend upon the specific STD (i.e. if it's cureable or not, or deadly or not)... *sigh* $.02 
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I would loose respect for them, as well as be angry at myself. loose repect for them becuase they do not have good judgement as well as poor decision making skills, and angry at myself for showing the same lack of judgement and poor decision making skills! All in all, it would suck, and likely be a negative situation. I am unsure if it would be a relationship killer for me, I guess it would depend upon the specific STD (i.e. if it's cureable or not, or deadly or not)... *sigh* $.02 Dude - as far as I know, people don't generally go about with some sort of notice strung about their neck (or stamped upon their undercarriage) offering a full STD risk assessment. Obviously, one helpful rule might equate to numbers of previous partners - although even that fails to take into account a whole plethora of other factors such as whether or not they routinely use precautions, are or have been regularly tested etc. The fact is that it only takes one slip up - with the truth being that whenever we get all intimate with another person, we are (in STD terms) effectively having said intimate encounter with every partner they've had over the last 10 years or so: (including their partner's previous ones too ..... come to consider it ... uuurrgggh!) At the end of the day - stuff happens and their is no real point in getting all hung up about it. |
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Since the OP stated that we would both have been unknowing victims, then the only thing that we did wrong was not be smarter about being tested first. If it is curable, we take the meds and it is over. If it is uncurable the damage is done and getting upset or destroying our relationship is not going to change the outcome. I will still have the STD forever. However, look at the positive side, Probably never going to have to worry about the other cheating and because we share this together maybe our bond would grow even stronger.
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nothing like a nice herpie to ruin the party
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I would loose respect for them, as well as be angry at myself. loose repect for them becuase they do not have good judgement as well as poor decision making skills, and angry at myself for showing the same lack of judgement and poor decision making skills! All in all, it would suck, and likely be a negative situation. I am unsure if it would be a relationship killer for me, I guess it would depend upon the specific STD (i.e. if it's cureable or not, or deadly or not)... *sigh* $.02 Dude - as far as I know, people don't generally go about with some sort of notice strung about their neck (or stamped upon their undercarriage) offering a full STD risk assessment. Obviously, one helpful rule might equate to numbers of previous partners - although even that fails to take into account a whole plethora of other factors such as whether or not they routinely use precautions, are or have been regularly tested etc. The fact is that it only takes one slip up - with the truth being that whenever we get all intimate with another person, we are (in STD terms) effectively having said intimate encounter with every partner they've had over the last 10 years or so: (including their partner's previous ones too ..... come to consider it ... uuurrgggh!) At the end of the day - stuff happens and their is no real point in getting all hung up about it. interesting... so you just throw yourself out into new situations, enveloped in a cloak of ignorance - hoping for the best, and accepting whatever happens to you as ok? That may work for you, but that is not how I choose to live my life... I was stating my opinion, and how I think I would react... I am sure most have their own take on their own life... as it should be... best of luck to you! $.02
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Since the OP stated that we would both have been unknowing victims, then the only thing that we did wrong was not be smarter about being tested first. If it is curable, we take the meds and it is over. If it is uncurable the damage is done and getting upset or destroying our relationship is not going to change the outcome. I will still have the STD forever. However, look at the positive side, Probably never going to have to worry about the other cheating and because we share this together maybe our bond would grow even stronger. confession: the sexiest partner I ever had totally floored me when he took me on a surprise date to visit the cilnic with him and get his testing results,,,,he said he wanted me to feel safe and secure that he was responsible and I was not at risk with him,,,,he hadnt made a move up until after THAT date and he spoke to me openly and regularly about what he liked most in an in intimate encounter and what I could expect |
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Since the OP stated that we would both have been unknowing victims, then the only thing that we did wrong was not be smarter about being tested first. If it is curable, we take the meds and it is over. If it is uncurable the damage is done and getting upset or destroying our relationship is not going to change the outcome. I will still have the STD forever. However, look at the positive side, Probably never going to have to worry about the other cheating and because we share this together maybe our bond would grow even stronger. confession: the sexiest partner I ever had totally floored me when he took me on a surprise date to visit the cilnic with him and get his testing results,,,,he said he wanted me to feel safe and secure that he was responsible and I was not at risk with him,,,,he hadnt made a move up until after THAT date and he spoke to me openly and regularly about what he liked most in an in intimate encounter and what I could expect now THATS how you do it..!!
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Edited by
shaneavery
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Wed 09/22/10 09:48 PM
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hell no, this is the time when love will rely be needed.
imagine how she would feel learning she has some disease and has to face her boyfriend or husband, if anything i would probly pay more attention to making sure she is not overwelmed with guilt. and i would be looking out for ways to show her i realy love her. i know what it is like to have a disease and be alone, i say if you found love and you know you have it KEEP IT AT ALL COST.maxtek73 fan of yahoo |
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