it would seem remiss not to notice that many men have "female friends", for the admiration that a women can provide, sometimes the greater admiration of "sex" wanted, but, willing to settle for something rather than nothing.

likewise, many women have many male "friends", for the admiration male's naturally provide to a women, and will forgo the greater admiration of "sex", rather than settle for nothing.

a "i'll scratch your back if you scratch mind"...

for who would really be around anyone, unless their was basic admiration?

is it thought that the "need" for admiration in annother, means they care about self?

such be the grand illusion.

hence why it was once said, if one have "one" true friend, in it's lifetime, it be lucky.

anytime one wants a larger scratch than what is willing to be given back, touble in the "small reality" of the self opportunist.

then trouble in the paradise or hell of the "friends zone"...

not a bad deal, for all desires are are being equally met?

it may appear as such, but why then such drama in random cases, seeming to have no common denominator, or seeming to, if using COMPARISON of another's experiences to gain insight.

awh, the self opportunist perception be so small, the cannot see the "action" never belie the truest motive and intent, and being they always stare at the "physical action" of ALL THINGS, trying to decide and determine the true motive, they access incorrectly time and time again, hence, history, or the same thing, in varied degree's, happening over and again...

some coming to realize such, simply revert to singular life, forgoing the "possible" reoccurence of past days, and other's become more reckless throwing all caution to the wind with self abandon.

the more as days progress, the least past tactic's that "guide" in interaction will be successful, and so greater comes to be the "single's" group, and the "cautionless" group...

even in past days, before the population has increased to "collective energy thresholds, it twas very random and seldom that these "two" in the friend zone could maintain, balancing the unspoken desires of both, and only could, if ALL involved spoke all wants in total honesty, or respected the other enough not to persue them...

however, it cannot be missed, that each day, respect for the "want" of other's as equal to self want declines...

for the mentality of the "primitive" take what one want, becomes more increasingly accepted as "good" belief and fair to the taker...

so, in present days, not to be confused with yesterday, since nothing stays the same, or it exist not...

if the accumulative self interest of ONE, has been smothered, or ignored, or restrained, in the hopes of working toward a "greater involvement", then when any day comes that such "possible" is realized as TOTALLY "impossible", of course, a sad day for ONE...

ah, but perhaps for even two, lol...

for what and how do human's react, when and if they feel as if they have sacrificed, and given, and worked, and committed "some" unto another, to get back what they want for themself?

FRUSTRATION INDEED.

for the sight they have given, and shall NOT RECIEVE, deals the irrational death blow to more and momre each day...

alas, they were but only "self opportunists", and when opportunity be taken from them, even if all along they were told with plain speak such would not be provided, they can still become bitter, angered, and even enraged...

for they never actually believed the words the other spoke, but rather only looked for ways to surmount them, believing themself able to "change" the desired outcome...

and in these days of the supreme "self supremacist" attitude, such can indeed create the "drama", the jerry springer mentality, of the volatile words and actions that come forth, even unto sadly possible fatal results for some.

the more human's endorse such opportunistic methods of behaviour as acceptable as a whole, the greater the collective energy of such, this easily reverting back some and more to primitive instinct of "insistence and demand for self", primitive as even a child, for even a child must forsake such notion's to walk "balanced" within society, or a place of many...

the more such collective energy of the "self want as supreme" be embraced, the more it shall "engulf" the self opportunist, even they themself wondering later why the **** the acted out so irrationally, and even against what they declared and "thought" and convinced themself they loved...

ah, for indeed, these stuck their head into the collective bitterness and resentment of not just themself, but into the collective bitterness and resentment of the collective entire energy of the world at large.

indeed, as each day progress, and the accumulative collective energy of the world become's all the more "accusing", against what does not give, or agree with self, hence therefore the more "quick to anger", all shall somehow sense themself becoming...

easily provoked, irritable, more brain fog, less ability to focus, less ability to communicate intricate thought and feelings...

so, the "surface" world of the "ego" alone speaks and acts...

and ego protected create more ego...

and ego endorsed, create more ego manic mentality, so more ego words and actions...

such shall create increasingly the elimination of the ability to choose and decide with carefree abandonment who and what one involve itself with, for the entire most perception of the mass embraced, has come to be thru a dark negative conundrum, accessing what provide not to self as more sinister, and unfair, and therefore somehow a quicker assessment of such as an enemey of self.

these such innner workings of the human consciousness shall be overlooked most by what "stare at itself", for the perception of taken into the brain, for what only looks to see how "all things shall effect self, be a smaller and smaller perception, therefore becoming more and more desperate with the less that self can get or find for itself...

therefore the "self opportunist" that be the weakest in physical strength and mental strength, becomes the one most vulnerbale, being taken unaware as to why more and more are reacting so volatile to the same things that in past days wself could have spoken and done with no problem...

due to all these things as one, the ability of the collective mass to handle environmental situation's with calm and rational thought deduction shall decrease.

it be most unwise to assume that what worked yesterday shall work today, as yesterday IS NEVER THE SAME AS TODAY, even though to the self opportunist and self preservationist it appear so.

everything is shifting and morphing and evolving right under one's feet, even thought no thought be given to it, and as well, all be evolving in the air, where the collective energy that human's create themself travels as an invisible hand, such altering and morphing and evolving the "feelings" that shape each mortal being, even surprising with unpleasant surprises those most who but stare at themself.

welcome to primetime.

once cent

I have a bunch of girls that are friends. Mostly women I work with. Some go as far back as High School. That’s half the problem with meeting potential new partners They just don't get it... That were just friends and I refuse to not continue the friendships with them.
Can some of ladies explain why guys can't have girls as strictly friends?

Hey Guys......if you liked a girl alot and she doesn't feel the same but really values your friendship....could you be her friend?

can a guy go into a women's locker room and not get a chubby? if yes, then they can probably handle the friends zone.

well actually, I have found that going out to listen to my friends' band play with another male friend as my bud, spelled DOOM for my chances to meet anyone else cuzall the guys there -including one of the band members I "liked" thought we were a couple...

Hey Guys......if you liked a girl alot and she doesn't feel the same but really values your friendship....could you be her friend?

if another be important, than as well, all the bases that create all unhappiness for any be important as well.

what is a "friend"?

one who is willing to "give to another"?

such seems to be the most common notion in this "modern" society.

"willing" is but WANTING to do so, IF SELF CAN SEE A POSSIBILITY, OF SELF WISHES BEING CREATED OR GIVEN, or to have IT'S OWN BACK SCRATCHED, WHEN "ITSELF" DEEM THE TIME HAS COME?

lol...

to "WANT" to make another's agenda, another's WANT'S, another's aspiration's and persuit of happiness, as important as self's?

can such actually exist?

if self has TWO primary root "drives", or MOTIVE'S, this in itself create self's own CONFLICT OF INTEREST?

like a banker loaning to his own family, is deemed a conflict of interest?

because the self WILL NOT BE WITHOUT BIAS?

a constant tug of war, would be induced in the self, BY HAVING "TWO" DIFFERENT MOTIVE'S, one of SELF WANT AS SUPREME, and another as "ANOTHER'S WANT AS SUPREME"?

no human is supposed to see it's OWN WANT, OR THE "WANT" OF ANOTHER AS SUPREME TO START WITH, as it be imposssible, LEST TWO WERE IDENTICAL?

but the notion has come to be believed, that ONESELF BE "LOVED", BY WHAT "WANT" THE EXACT SAME THING AS SELF, AT EACH TIME SELF WANT IT, WHEN SELF WANT IT, HOW SELF WANT IT...

it is sheer delusion, AS NO TWO ENTITIES ARE EXACT?

so no wonder "love" be dying, lol...

it dosen't exist, LEST there be only ONE want that could be supreme, and this COULD NOT IN REALITY OCCUR, UNLESS BOTH SET OF "IDEAL'S", WANTS, DEFINITION'S OF "HAPPY" FOR BOTH, WERE THE "SAME", at all times?

but do not these change each day, as self progress in EXPERIENCE AS REALITY LIVED OUT?

so, WANTS CHANGE AS WELL, AND ARE SUPPOSED TO, if self is LEARNING ANYTHING?

it seems only knowing such things, wwould be the only way or actuality of TWO SETS OF "WANT'S" TRAVELING IN THE "SAME DIRECTION"...

yea, for a while, self will 'sacrifice', some of it's WANT'S, if it gets something in return, BUT THIS ONLY CREATES A "BROKERING BUSINESS", of each giving caring, affection, admiration, trust, honesty, communication, IF IT CAN BE SEEN SUCH WILL "BENEFIT SELF"...

lol...

if athe day comes, as it HAS TO, since ALL ARE MORPHING, WITH REALITY LIVED, that it can be seen, or KNOWN, that giving any such things, WILL NOT GET SELF A GOOD RETURN FOR ITSELF, then such things will no longer be "given" FROM PERSPECTIVE LOVER, and so as such, each actually coming to see in REALITY, who actually loved them, BEYOND WHAT THEY "LOVED TO GET FOR THEMSELF"...

the very words "i love you", has come to mean, I LOVE WHAT YOU DO FOR ME, LOL...

but the moment you don't, YOU DON'T "LOVE ME", lol...

the words in present society mentality, are the most manipluative, as these words have the LARGEST STEEL BRAIDED CABLE TIED TO THEM, if they are spoken because SELF EXPECTS THE SAME IN RETURN, IT ITSELF BE THE SLIGHTED, OR THE VICTIM.

to love another as a friend, is to SET THEM FREE, TO ENCOURAGE THEM, TO PERSUE "THEIR WANTS", regardless of what SELF WANTS BE.

Hey Guys......if you liked a girl alot and she doesn't feel the same but really values your friendship....could you be her friend?