is it against the rules to kiss on the first date even if you both feel that strong connection? how about deep kissing on the second date?

first of all we spoke
your scent upon my pillow
and then i say goodbye
to your whispers in my dreams

and then our lips will part
in my mind and in my heart
'cuz your kiss
went deeper than my sleep...*

now, THAT's a first date kiss

((*lyrics from bare noize ~ medison ft. skrein))

nice but it don't answer mah questions! lol

If you think you are both ready for a first kiss on the first date, there is no one sitting behind you smacking you an the back of the head if you do....and if there is, maybe you shouldn't have brought along a chaperone.

sure it does, mah answers in there

i can see me doing that to my kid.. but i'd only smack 'em if they dont lol

I think it depends on how well the date went and if you and your date has a mutual connection to want to kiss on a first date. Or...if you want to start off slow, you can kiss her on the cheek or forehead...see how she reacts...and go from there. Hey, she may kiss you first before you can even answer the question in your head! Best wishes...that's my 2 cents.

I'd be aching to play tonsil hockey beneath the moonlight.But hey!that's just me.

agreed... but yeah... well this matter has already been established in this relationship im in but i just wanted some input.. we did on the second "date" kickin it playing some video games lol

Hummm lets see two consenting adults out on a date things are going so good that one decides to lay a kiss on the other...... should he or shouldn't he?????? Hell go for it the worse she could do is slap ya or pull away or say it's too soon................until you do you will never know....

No matter what everyone else says each person is going to be different and take the situation different.

You just have to go with the moment if the connection is really there then the kiss will happen.... Just don't think just because the kiss happen you can go the next step....... some things do take a little more time.....

AGREED!!! I even stated to her that "just because what happened happened we won't let it hinder our progression in this relationship" and she completely agreed with me.

Ok here's an interesting conondrum..

What about sex on the second "date"? once again if the feeling is strong enough, and it feels right, and you feel right with this person. 1 night stands not counted because i do want to persue a long lasting relationship with this person.

Party Foul, Red Flag X 2, someone call the dating police.
Someone wants a kiss on the first date!!!!!!!!!


It is really between the two adults.

... no i was just asking input from other people on what maybe you would have done in the situation...

Rules? What rules? Is there a book I should have read?

Don't worry about what 'they' say; do what seems right.

I generally had a no kissing rule on the first date.....and most times the second date too. In general....most times.......women seem to appreciate that, evidence that I am not just looking to get laid.

However, I did not follow that rule on my last first date.....or the last second date. We are still a couple over a yr. later. So maybe I should have considered it a policy rather than a hard and fast rule.

It really does depend on the people involved and the situation.

Why not????

If your both adults and ya wanna kiss......


Go for it!!!!!!

i'm still waiting for the conundrum, interesting or otherwise.

you are asking questions that can only be answered by the "two" people involved here. not all situations are the same. let things take their natural course, do not set a scale or you may be asking for trouble and lead yourself to disappointment.

... -sigh- things have already taken their coarse.. I was more asking opinions on the subject to help me justify the actions of the two of us to see if maybe we went a little too fast... i was not asking if there was some bullcrap rule, i know people are human and anything can happen.. (you should see my arguements in the topic "define love") it was more of a way too feel somewhat at ease with myself so i didn't feel like it was "rushed" or "forced" forward in anyway...

situation first date: hanging out with some friends at dennys, she went home and i went home... both "unsatisfied"

second 'date': hung out at my house, played some video games, made her dinner, made a bet that i could pass a challenge on the game, I won, got a kiss, small kiss turned into deep kissing, which lead to more...

HAPPY! now you cann all just have a blast either tearing me down or building me up doesn't matter.. i was only asking for my justification.



I'm sorry.. I shouldnt have snapped.. and im not going to delete all that which is typed because i had maybe 15 typos i had to back up n delete.. no jokes if there are any more in there

-Nyko-


P.S. FYI our third time hangin out is gunna be tomorrow at like 8 AM till about 6:30pm

no need to get all twisted...you asked a question and you received answers. did i miss the part where you stated that you only cared to see the ones that help you justify your actions?

i really don't see where anyone could have offended you anyway.

look, there is no one true answer to this. people do what they feel is right for the situation they are in, if you now feel that you may have moved too quickly, chances are that you have...