I am huge on first impressions. I find that I can summarize a person very quickly. If a person gives a bad first impression, there is no second chance in my world. I need to meet people who are positive, extroverts and intelligent. I ALWAYS give a good first impression, unless I decide I don't like the person, but that doesn't mean I'm noticed or admired. I like to stay below the radar. It's hard to say what a person should or shouldn't do, there are so many things. My big ones would have to be manners, intellect, humour, honesty and realism. If I do not see any one or combo of these traits, I usually separate myself. I'm extremely picky about who I keep around me, that's not to say that I think I'm better than anyone, but we all have that choice.

WOW eklectek what a great answer.
And I am positive that a first impression decides if you want to give them a second chance. I mean do you really want to talk to someone who was an obnoxious, rude, arrogant jerk the first time you met? If you want a second meeting with someoen you shoudl try and be friendly, interesting, polite, and engaging in both personality and conversation.

I am huge on first impressions. I find that I can summarize a person very quickly. If a person gives a bad first impression, there is no second chance in my world. I need to meet people who are positive, extroverts and intelligent. I ALWAYS give a good first impression, unless I decide I don't like the person, but that doesn't mean I'm noticed or admired. I like to stay below the radar. It's hard to say what a person should or shouldn't do, there are so many things. My big ones would have to be manners, intellect, humour, honesty and realism. If I do not see any one or combo of these traits, I usually separate myself. I'm extremely picky about who I keep around me, that's not to say that I think I'm better than anyone, but we all have that choice.

I am huge on first impressions. I find that I can summarize a person very quickly. If a person gives a bad first impression, there is no second chance in my world. I need to meet people who are positive, extroverts and intelligent. I ALWAYS give a good first impression, unless I decide I don't like the person, but that doesn't mean I'm noticed or admired. I like to stay below the radar. It's hard to say what a person should or shouldn't do, there are so many things. My big ones would have to be manners, intellect, humour, honesty and realism. If I do not see any one or combo of these traits, I usually separate myself. I'm extremely picky about who I keep around me, that's not to say that I think I'm better than anyone, but we all have that choice.

"Do you think that first impression will cause the person to instantly
decide if you get a second chance? And do you base first impression's?
If so what are some of the things that others should do or say or not
say on the first meeting in order for a possible second meeting"

First impressions is not concrete factual information of whether or not a person is positive or negative. If we base first impressions as concrete or factual we are setting ourselves up and applying the judgment bias syndrome.

First impressions is a small of many ways we can gain information on whether there is chemistry, attraction, substance and or stability in a person. In order to receive concrete factual information about a person we must allow time, effort, and openness to lead the way, because our own perceptions can lead us into bias thinking.

First impressions are important to me, however not the bottom line.

Alina

I can totally see how this opinion/thought is relevant. Good answer! Me...I'm a little more reliant on the first impression. I believe the first meeting, and the first kiss will tell you everything you need to know about the person/relationship.
EK

Yes in part some things are obvious, however there are so many variables, a person could be nervous, shy, timid, and so on... Tell me something can an employer know an applicant is a good worker by the interview (NO), not at all....same principle different action for this reason they have a probation period.

Alina

YES! An employer is able to size a potential employee up during the first interview. To me what we are disagreeing on is the variables. Nervous shy and timid are not traits of professional success. It is the extrovert that stands out. Introverts blend with the majority of people. My martial arts teacher taught me that ANYBODY can become an extrovert when they REALLY want something. I feel the employment example wasn't a good one.

I have been performing interviews for many years and have been involved in the HR arena for quite sometime. No employer can size up an employee and give it 100%. You know why, an applicant will present his career attributes, meaning skills, education, and so on, so he may qualify to do the job, however may not qualify on his personal attributes and we have no way of sizing that up....how can you detect a work bully not until he/she starts bullying other employees.

I myself have been conducting interviews for years...I could tell a person if they could hack it in my regiment in 0.1 seconds. And FYI it is up to the employer to ask questions outside the realm of education and professional experience. HR can definitely be a tough job, but If I can do it on a federal/international level, than any employer/HR rep can do it. You just have to have the right people skills, and most important, you have to ask the right questions.

I find first impressions unreliable. A person of true worth hardly shows it to a stranger. Ever inspected a gem? Shiny never was good for much.

You are wise beyond your years young lady........

I find first impressions unreliable. A person of true worth hardly shows it to a stranger. Ever inspected a gem? Shiny never was good for much.