if you were a single mother of a year and a half old baby would you invite a man over to your place on a Saturday evening only having met this man one time for about an hour or so?, or would you want to get to know the man a bit better before doing such a thing?

depends on the man...
friendships can be formed quickly when there is a connection, time is not a factor, the essense of the person is the factor.

too many unknown factors here for you to get an unbiased opinion. can we have her side of the story?

I have no kids myself, what I would do is meet in public a few times even more than a few times, when it comes to kids I would take no chances, safety comes first, just my thoughts

Even without a child that wouldn't happen.

I agree. This man is a stranger to me (and to her for the most part), and my concern is for her son. She doesn't seem to show the same concern. I wouldn't be making such a big issue out of this if she were single and not caring for a child.

I was a single parent for ten years and dated a few men during that time. For several reasons I dated...you know hired a sitter and went out on a date. Partly for safety reasons concerning my son, as he got older the issue of bonding added to the mix and also partly because it was rare for me to go out without my son, just be in grown up company. Also I wanted to get to know 'my date' a bit before even thinking about child oriented outings, shared meals etc etc.

I can't answer really the situation you ask about with out a bit more info but I do hope the mother knows what she is doing. Unfortunately bad things do happen to good people and there are a lot of crazies out there!

Im not trusting enough to allow aman at my home that soon,,,,with or without child

I agree...He could be nice at first and then do a turn-around and be someone else. Our Children are our lifes,don't take chances with their.

i have 2 babies... i would not let a new man into my life, for the simple fact that if their dad had someone new in his life i would want to meet her before she met my kids. also a baby can not say so if someone hurts them. and not knowing how long the relationship may last, i wouldn't want my kids to get attached and have the man up and leave one day...

if i wanted to be with a man i would keep it separate for a long time

I just dont think two hours is long enough to judge someones character


if anyone sees For Colored Girls, they might see what I mean,,far too risky

I would deffinately not invite him over! Not that I think it's impossible to meet a decent person, but with kids you have to be so careful! The statistics of children being molested, or abused are something like 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 6 boys!

LOL nobody comes to my home without I know them really well, my children are 10 to 21 but nobody goes near them if I am not 100% sure that they are safe. Although there are 4 boys and most of them are bigger then me one is 130 kilos and stronger than most men, so they would probably be ok. But no a stranger could never go near my children.

No i wouldnt bring a guy who i just met to my house ?
Unless i found out he is some what related to me ...like a long last Cousin.

I agree!

I would not even go out with someone in public that I have known for only a few short hours. I have to talk to someone for a long time before I even agree to meet them far away from my home. I would NEVER invite them into my home unless I knew I was going to have a LTR with them.
I have dated men before that my boys had no clue I even dated. I will NOT include my boys in my relationships. I always wait until I know I want to be with this person for a long time. There are way to many crazy people out there to bring into my children's lives.

think of a mix between color purple and steel magnolias,,,,,its based off of a book and touches on VERY sad and ADULT situations,,,

I'm a single mum of 2(girls) & i respect my kids. I wouldn't try such even if we've known for 2 months. I can allow the man in my home/near my kids if we have intention of getting hooked. In essence. It's better we meet outside my house.

No way.. not for at least a good 4-5 months.