So this is a thread about any experiences that you might have that you want to share for us all to learn from.

I'll lead with: Girls can be strange, so take it cool.

In high school I was in class with a girl, and from the word go she was hating on me. For 3yrs it didn't matter what I said or did, she was there trying to get me down.
About 10 months after graduation she came down into the shop I had opened, chatted like nothing ever happened and ended up asking what I was doing that day. Uhm, I replied, I'm going home, catch a shower and probably watch a movie. Ah, but could she come. Uhhhhm, sure, I replied, not feeling sure at all.
As we arrived she said she would actually like to have a shower too, and while she was taking it I scratched my head wondering wtf. Well, being sort of a gent I prepared a light snack and pulled out a movie and then, when she came out, I went to take a shower of my own.
When I came out she was lying naked in my bed...
Let's just say the rest is history and add that I was no less puzzled when she left later that evening.

This wasn't the first or the last of a series of experiences that have caused me to give up trying understanding the female. She is wonderful, complex, beautiful, completely crazy, utterly tantalizing and follows some obscure law that is way beyond me.

With a woman anything can happen, so be cool, open and never hold a grudge.

Any comments are welcome, and of course, do share anything that comes to mind.

Teenage girls are really fickle B, Nice story though. And nice to know you were such a sweetheart even back then in the horny teenage years you tried to behave.

sorry But can;t really share any stories
Warning though-- BEWARE of scammers- if its too goof to be true- It most likely is.
And if you cheat on someone--Don't have the audacity to be upset when they try and move on with their lives and get over it.
Much love to all Minglers!

High school? Any experiences related to high school are not germane to adult life. By the time a person is out of high school they aren't the same person anymore.

Guys can be just as fickle as women.

MMmmmmmelody, love your hair Nice to see you

as a woman, and a voice of experience I will give you my two cents worth on this girl, and well, how I believe girls think. The girl that gave you hell in high school did so because she liked you and wanted you to realize that... then when you opened up your own shop she seen you as successful and didn't want you to get interested in any other girl so she pulled out all the stops by coming on the way she did. Not positive of your age now or the age of the girls you are dealing with, but girls, just like guys mature slow when it comes to really knowing how to communicate, so sexual communication seems to be univeral regardless of the age and the easiest to express. The younger the guy that looks professional, the faster a girl will be willing to express her interest in you... hope this helps in your quest to try to understand women.

lol yeah, true that people change a lot over time. One of the reasons I told this story is because it is extreme. However, I think you're wrong about high school life have no relevance to what you call adult life - in my experience there's something to be gained everywhere, from observing small children solving conflicts to reflecting about the turmoil of teenage life. But one's got to be open

I agree that guys can be just as fickle as women!!! I was merely starting out with one experience, hoping to get the ball rolling. I'm inviting you to elaborate on your point of view.

Thank you for your insight; you seem to understand where she's coming from very well... However I am quite at peace with having no quest to try to understand women. Life is too short

But I can surmise you've got some experiences where guys weren't the best communicators. Thanks for sharing.
I think it is partly because guys and gals tend to view communication as to different things, and that often leads to misunderstanding... for example, some guys prefer not to talk, but will rather show what they feel, whereas for most women (in my experience) putting words to feelings are very important. And instead of accepting each others differences of nature, they each become frustrated that the other doesn't conform to their way of doing things.

And this is also why I no longer try to understand. I find that acceptance is the way to go.
To explain, it's like saying, I want to understand that storm. Phuck that shyte (in my humble opinion) I need to take measurements in dealing with that storm, but I cannot until I accept that storm as it is, regardless of my understanding the effect of butterfly wings causing it half a century ago.

Hi Mike!!! It's always wonderful to see you too!!

This chick in high school use to always come up to me and talk about orgies. I just laughed and thought she was some crazed Christian chick. Turns out years later, I see her on the stage....of a strip club, and WOW! She had developed. So I quickly asked her out, and she looked at me and reminded me of how I use to ignore her back in high school. I said, well yeah...cause you were fugly. But hey....we are adults now. That's the past. She then told me she was a stripper with a heart of gold, and that I would never get her in bed. Chicks man. You would think she would still want me after all these years. But nooooo. She has to turn into a hot stripper with a heart of gold....and a blow habit. I was aroused!

Anyways, I'm rambling. Moral of the story here. Never ignore a chick who, in high school, says the word orgies.

Oh how I have missed you Goofer!!!

Ok so one time at band camp ...

you know that once i acted like that girl on your story. i was a teenager and was going to a concert with a group of friends when i meet this guy.
i dont know why but he made such an impact in me that i got scared of my fellings i guess. i hated that he made me so vulnerable.
he came talk to me and i was such a *****. i remember i was terrible.
but he didnt gave up. and after some time we ended up together and dated for 2 years.
so what i think is that people have strange behavior when they are scared.

You can't make this stuff up! Oh wait...yes you can!

Thanks for that Stefy, very good point. Feeling vulnerable scares the living crap out of people in general I think. But it's still odd, self-contradicting behavior (that of course is designed to protect ourselves, but still...) So we push away what we desire... out of fear of not getting what we desire, if we show that is what we desire...

Did like this myself for a number of years, always had trouble trusting people, still do to a point, but I made a conscious choice, that can be summed up in Alfred Lord Tennyson's poem "In Memoriam":

I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

Tease

Goof, you're my hero, bless us with your stori... erhmm, life experiences every day

Well, as long as people can learn from my past experiences, I am glad to help.

I went on a blind date, although I knew of
him because he was my brother-in-law's friend.

If God made man in his image, in the door
walked God2. 6'4" of male perfection. He takes my
small hand in his two huge ones and says,
"You know, dating always seems to be about sex.
That's just wrong.
So let's get this out of the way.
Do you want to have sex first, then go on the date?
Or do you want to go out first, come back and have it?"

Moral of story:
The funniest guy gets the cherry.
(Not that night, of course hahahahaha)

The very first flight I ever took as a 12 yr old to Bangor, Maine on my way to a lumber camp in Millinocket, Maine. Woman kept giving me the eye from two seats over on the plane.(perhaps I looked scared?)
Any way, at the end, she approached my district manager and said what a cute kid I was. Has not happened much in adult life.
Luster must have worn off

Seriously, though, any experience is a learning one........

Welllll? where's the rest?
You played the tuba didn't you?