I am not new to this site, been here almost a year. So know when I ask it's not because I'm actively looking for someone to be more than friends with, I just simply would like an opinion.

I live in a very small town, and it seems everywhere I go I get disgusted looks from men (and women, but more men seem to be giving me the stink eye) when they spot my 6 month pregnant tummy, and my arm cradling it.

Now, I have been raised in a household where pregnancy is a beautiful thing, that bringing life into this world is a beautiful thing, so I'm not understanding why so many men seem to be completely turned off, and even disgusted when they see that I am pregnant.

Maybe it's because I live in a small town and most people here know that I am a single mother, but I've always thought that was an incredibly unselfish thing for a person to do: give up everything you want to raise a child alone.

So the question is, does everyone else see it as much of a turn off, as degrading and disgusting as the people here do??

I don't see how any not invovled can have any opinion about it.

I'm not referring to just me, as in do you think I'm disgusting, but all pregnant women in general. And i'd agree, but i'm simply curious about the answer.

I don't see it as disgusting or anything. I don't judge people.

I don't see it as degrading or disgusting. It's a natural part of existence -- people reproduce.

However, I do find it something I, personally, want no part of. Not to be judgmental in any way, but I decided around age 22 I had no interest in being a parent or being in a relationship with one.

For people who want that as a part of their lives, more power to you. I wish you the best of luck. It's just not for me.

Pregnant women are beautiful.

Think about the people you care about and value thier opinions. Leave the others to their narrow minds.

despite how i think its low for them to give you grief because of it, some guys are probably in fear of the hormones being unbalanced during pregnancy, some guys may have the mentality to wanna "start fresh" and have a family of their own.

but don't ever think that you aren't beautiful because of that, beautiful has nothing to do with looks or whether you are pregnant or not. you seem very caring and a very genuine person and i am also sure alot of people would perceive you as beautiful...someone special will see that as well if i can see it :)

It's a typical case of "sour grapes".

The guys who give you sneers, are guys who are mentally going through their recent past, to six months back or so, and mentally sort out the girls in their lives then... and they come to the sad and to them personally degrading realization that you are not carrying a given sneer-guy's baby, so they get pissed off. They think, 'This baby could have been mine... and I probably asked her if I could screw her, but she rejected me, and she probably said (I can't remember, must have been really drunk) "get away from me, creep!"" So the losers who see a beautiful pregnant and happy woman, get really annoyed that the baby is not theirs.

Their sneer says "you beeech, you are too picky for me! I'd still screw you, but you won't let me, I am sure... so I just sneer at you."

Remember, if you read the Bible, that God said He created man in His own image, and His first few words to describe Himself in the Ten Commandments is "I am a mean and jealous God." So men are mean and jealous.

That simple.

Sorry to have taken so long to explain.

Oh, by the way, cheer up:

I am a man, I look like six month's pregnant, or maybe even eight or nine months, and I get sneers and jeers from women everywhere I go in my town.

And women don't even have the Bible's wisdom and God's own words to fall back upon to explain their meaniness!!

Goddam **** ing beeeetches.

Are you sure this is not just in your own head? I am not trying to be mean or anything but many people who have physical problems think the whole world is looking at the problem when really most are not. I know you say that you were raised in a house hold that said pregnancy is a beautiful thing but if back in your mind you have your doubts then you might be projecting these feeling on the faces of other people that you see.

I have a friend I met recently who was born with one hand that looks swollen, since this is how I met this person the hand looks normal to me but this person gets very defensive sometimes and thinks that everyone is disgusted by it when really they have not said anything.

Back on the pregnancy topic though, I see nothing wrong with a girl who is pregnant. It is part of life, and most guys who have ever been with a girl who was pregnant might like you just for it because of the increased sex drive...lol. Good Luck

^^this...people in general are disgusted these days with the economy in shambles! Financial problems are a primary stress factor for everyone, everywhere & maybe you are over-interpreting these facial expressions. Just because people are unhappy doesn't necessarily mean it has to do with you being pregnant.

I mean this sincerely. Don't pay any attention to them. Just glow and smile like pregnant women do. Don't take it personal. Why should you care? I mean, you are already pregnant... you don't need their sperm.

No, it doesn't make you disgusting or anything else. Sadly, if it were a single father walking around with a baby the reaction would be different,imo.

If I were in your position I would call someone out if they made it really obvious. I'm not saying that I would tell them let's take it outside or something.lol

Instead a simple "Yea, do you have you a problem? You're making a snide expression." or something that lets them know that you're not going to be scrutinized without a challenge.

Watch how many cowardly excuses you get.....

Disgusting no, someone I wouldn't date yes. I am 5 years older than you and I still am not ready for any kids in my life. When I was 21 that even more the case. Also as a guy I wouldn't want to have to raise someone else's kid. This is only me but I am sure I am not alone and this may give some perspective how some guys might feel. Not all of them but some. It may have to do with your values. I like to travel and I like to be educated on things. Someone with a baby isn't going to be able to go on a trip with me somewhere just because I want to. Also unless they have a lot of support from their family there is a strong chance they wont go to/finish college. I also worry about the children in these situations. Will they have a good upbringing? It seems they would have a better one had the parents waited and were old, married, and had more income. I am a very logical person though and thats just things I think about. I can't speak about everyone.

There is nothing about a pregnant woman that is deserving of any type of condescending look or remark. Unless of course she is walking down the street smoking a cigarette and carrying a fifth of scotch. I think what you are experiencing is the one of the unfortunate aspects of life in a small town. You stated that everyone knows everyone, and knows you are a single mom and unfortunately sometimes a small towns can have a large population of narrow minds. Good Luck and Good Health to you and your child. Don't let them get to you.

I go even farther than that.

Maybe you are happy, everyone loves you, but you are just experiencing a minor, transient, pre-natal let-down. Can happen to everyone.

I predict that this state will soon be replaced by your post-natal rapture, which will be replaced by the bliss of motherhood, which will be later replaced by a visit by the love god Thor who will raise you to the Valhalla and make tremendous love to the beautiful person you really are, inside and out.

Wait two weeks before you tell him you have a child, though. God Thor might be religious, and you know how the righteous can be fickle around issues like that.

But show him how heaven can happen on Earth, show him a good time, and in two weeks he will be compeltely wrapped around your finger.

THEN you go for the jugular. You tell him to put the toilet seat down, to not thunder in the bedroom, to wash his feet daily, and get a proper haircut and a regular job.

I grew up in the 60's and pregnancy was acceptable only for a married couple. Only within the last 30 years or so has single motherhood become common. The one person who needs to be protected in all of this is the unborn child. To him/her it would be completely unfair for to be treated any different than any other children.

I'm not trying to condemn you but remember single motherhood as common and acceptable is a "recent" phenomenon. It was not common before the late 70's or early 80's and some rural parts of the country are more conservative in this regard.

i have no problem with single mothers or pregnent single moms. but i couldnt date one who had one on the way, why because i would feel uncomfortable with that, but after the child is born yes i would have no problem. having said that others have said i overlook a lot in life and just look at the good bits lol

Just take care of yourself and that baby...
I'm sorry you feel your disgusting, your not.
Don't worry about what others think, it's not
about you, it's about their need to judge you.

It's just not something that men really "get". Try to forget them and enjoy your pregnancy - your babe will be grown and in College before you know it!