What traits stand out to you whan you are looking for someone
to date or be in a relationship with?

Someone who is helpful. The old give and take attitude I have been noticing lately with my new friend, Jamie. He is the kind of guy who give you the shirt off his back when you are down and out. Of course, he expects to be paid back or for you to be there when he needs you. I guess the easiest way to say it is a good friend. Someone when the chips are down you can know turn to and you know they have your back. We called it the buddy system in Basic Training in the Army. A friend that you can trust in fair and fowl weather. You just know that you talk to them without biting your head off because like you they have been in unfortunate situations. I guess what I am really trying to say is a human being. Must be the Native American in me but the Indians had a tribe called the 'human beings'.

A Nez Perce Legend

One day, long before there were any people on the Earth, a monster came down from the North. He was a huge monster and he ate everything in sight. He ate all the little animals, the chipmunks and the raccoons and the mice, and all the big animals. He ate the deer and the elk and even the mountain lion.

Coyote couldn't find any of his friends any more and this made him very mad. He decided the time had come to stop the monster.

Coyote went across the Snake river and tied himself to the highest peak in the Wallowa Mountains. Then he called out to the monster on the other side of the river. He challenged the monster to try and eat him.

The monster charged across the river and up into the mountains. He tried as hard as he could to suck Coyote off the mountain with his breath but it was no use. Coyote's rope was too strong.

This frightened the monster. He decided to make friends with Coyote and he invited coyote to come and stay with him for awhile.

One day Coyote told the monster he would like to see all of the animals in the monster's belly. The monster agreed and let Coyote go in.

When he went inside, Coyote saw that all the animals were safe. He told them to get ready to escape and set about his work. With his fire starter he built a huge fire in the monster's stomach. Then he took his knife and cut the monster's heart down. The monster died a great death and all the animals escaped. Coyote was the last one out.

Coyote said that in honor of the event he was gong to create a new animal, a human being. Coyote cut the monster up in pieces and flung the pieces to the four winds. Where each piece landed, some in the North, some to the South, others to the East and West, in valleys and canyons and along the rivers, a tribe was born. It was in this way that all the tribes came to be.

When he was finished, Coyote's friend, Fox said that no tribe had been created on the spot where they stood. Coyote was sorry he had no more parts, but then he had an ides. He washed the blood from his hands with water and sprinkled the drops on the ground.

Coyote said, "Here on this ground I make the Nez Perce. They will be few in number, but they will be strong and pure." And this is how the human beings came to be.

Ability to hold a conversation, sense of humor, big brown eyes, nice smile!!!

I'm looking for signs of intelligence. I don't want to have to stop and explain the meaning of every other word I use during the course of a normal conversation, and it's happened enough so that I know I don't enjoy it!

It would also help if she was involved in some sort of creative endeavor, too. I find those people more interesting.

Kindness and compassion
an open mind
non judgmental
a spiritual edge
integrity
a heart of gold

balance

leadership skills balanced with consideration and empathy

confidence balanced with humility and appreciation

biological age that matches emotional maturity,,,

Loyalty, Humor, hardworking---shows strength and balance

Things that stand out as a red flag--inconsistencies.

I would have to say the negative traits stand out the most. Naturally, everyone is gonna mention all these cliché good traits, when in reality the negative is what eventually drives you away from a potential partner.

Looks and what is between the ears!

Sense of self,Sense of humor,An artistic eye and vision,Loyalty,Her lips eyes and other curves.

She stands out to the street corner.

Humor.
Humor.
Humor.
Humor.
Wits.

Soufie, is that an unspecified but large amount of wits you are talking about, or do you have it pegged to a limit of minimum and maximum, expressed in integer values?

Are you flirting with me again-blue eyes??

Just being honest.

What stands out the most to me are the things they want to hide.

honestly, if they get nervous when they find out what I do for a living.

but I look for sense of humor, loyalty, openness,
And I have to say hopefully, a job, a vehicle, and a place to live.(not my house)

Believe it or not I DO love manners- A gentleman always stands out to me

Fabulously good looking, stinkin' rich, built like a brick-you-know-what house, willing to spoil me rotten and be my...

Oh wait, you mean someone I might actually meet and be attracted to?

How about a genuinely kind heart, a sense of humor, brains and integrity. Yeah. That'd do it.

Poor vision.