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Thank you for your kind, and wise words, totage and Lex... This just really bothered me!! I know it shouldnt, but it did! Im really not sure EXACTLY why I let this get under my skin. You know how strong I am?? Thats why I put it on the table to talk to my family about! It hurts because it implies you have lesser value for having lived that lifestyle -- which is an error. Your value has nothing to do with arbitrary standards a stranger has set up for his use in evaluating other people. Don't take it that way. He cannot establish your value. Only you can do that.  |
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Some maybe do keep people out of their lives, it's their choice. It's not about you, don't take it personally sweetie.  Thank you sister! |
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People have different points of view in life. Don't expect everyone to like apples or to think the way other people do. We all here and everyone is different. If he puts in his profile, "NO REDHEADS, NO WHITE GIRL, NO ASIAN, AND NO GIRLS WITH MORE THEN 793,807 DOLLARS IN THEIR BANK ACCOUNT" That's his choice, you can't force others to your will. It wasn't meant to happen. All you can do is keep your money and respect his privacy. |
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he will never know you, and i don't think you should let that bother you. you have overcome so much, a beautiful person you are, his loss. some people may have tragic stories that revolved around something, in his case, maybe loss of others to drugs, and he's drawn a line in the sand. we all make choices. just be you, we love you!  But why did it hurt me so much??? because you've worked so hard to be in a different place, YOU probably didn't like YOU back then. it's hard for some to believe people change, when in fact, they do, i know they do. you know they do. you did!! be proud, don't give that any power to hurt you. you did that to yourself enough already. |
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If you keep thinking about it, you will drive yourself nuts. I tend to dwell on things that bother me. It's like I feel inadequate just because I don't "get" something. Truth is, the only thing making me feel that way is myself. So, it's better to let it go. |
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I understand that. I've had people get upset because they find things out about my past without asking me, but rather doing their own background checks. I've also had them get upset when I've told them things about my past. I've also met people who understand that the past is the past and what has been done is not what define us. I don't hide my past either, and I'm not ashamed of it. Thank you brother! |
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Edited by
luv2roknroll
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Tue 07/12/11 07:04 PM
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Depending on how long ago it was it may not be worth mentioning. God busies these things in the deepest see, we shouldn't try to resurrect what has been dwelt with. Think about deleting this info. |
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It has been a good day for me. Have you ever had flashbacks after watching a movie or reading a book? I had one while watching the Matrix once. "Do you think that is air you are breathing?" I love that line.
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It has been a good day for me. Have you ever had flashbacks after watching a movie or reading a book? I had one while watching the Matrix once. "Do you think that is air you are breathing?" I love that line. I close my eyes, and listen to a certain song, and its like a time machine, and im right back where I was the first time I heard it. I have a really bad memory,(from being bipolor), but this works everytime, and I remember every detail of the time I am taken to. Thats why I love music so much. Its like a scrapbook for me. |
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As ALWAYS you have made me feel much better, and I do understand a few good reasons, that you all gave, as to why it bothered me so much.
I love you all! I dont know what I would do without you!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart! |
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I have always have had a bad memory even before the drugs. At our meetings we refer to each other as the family so I know where you are coming from. Music as a journal. Hmm. I like that idea. Kind of reminds me of the movie, "The Long Kiss Goodnight" with Samuel L. Jackson. That is a good flashback for me.
 He sang a little diddy while he was doing stuff to help him remember.
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You're awesome Luvs
. Stay happy and focused and keep God closeby and your Angles will protect and guide you. I would love to have half your strength  . Everyone is right...it's not a reflection on you. What you have gone through, and risen above, has made you stronger than many of us.
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You're awesome Luvs . Stay happy and focused and keep God closeby and your Angles will protect and guide you. I would love to have half your strength . Everyone is right...it's not a reflection on you. What you have gone through, and risen above, has made you stronger than many of us. |
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I have always have had a bad memory even before the drugs. At our meetings we refer to each other as the family so I know where you are coming from. Music as a journal. Hmm. I like that idea. Kind of reminds me of the movie, "The Long Kiss Goodnight" with Samuel L. Jackson. That is a good flashback for me. He sang a little diddy while he was doing stuff to help him remember. "Music is my Journal".(when its finished that is) I do have a published book of poetry called, "Thoughts from Within", and alot of the poems in there were written as I was becoming clean. Alot of them, are on my profile. Here is one of them...... IM BAAAAAAAAAACK Im back from hell im doing well I dont use that chit now cant you tell. Im in gods grace look at my face no site of the devil not even a trace. I feel pretty good just like i should I knew I could do this I just knew that I could. Ill never go back to smoking that whack I cant believe I spent so much time being gacked. Im back from hell Im doing well I dont use that chit now cant you tell. by Roberta Murdock Theres my little ditty!
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he will never know you, and i don't think you should let that bother you. you have overcome so much, a beautiful person you are, his loss. some people may have tragic stories that revolved around something, in his case, maybe loss of others to drugs, and he's drawn a line in the sand. we all make choices. just be you, we love you! I totally agree with bastet. It's his choice, but it's also his loss. |
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I have always have had a bad memory even before the drugs. At our meetings we refer to each other as the family so I know where you are coming from. Music as a journal. Hmm. I like that idea. Kind of reminds me of the movie, "The Long Kiss Goodnight" with Samuel L. Jackson. That is a good flashback for me. He sang a little diddy while he was doing stuff to help him remember. "Music is my Journal".(when its finished that is) I do have a published book of poetry called, "Thoughts from Within", and alot of the poems in there were written as I was becoming clean. Alot of them, are on my profile. Here is one of them...... IM BAAAAAAAAAACK Im back from hell im doing well I dont use that chit now cant you tell. Im in gods grace look at my face no site of the devil not even a trace. I feel pretty good just like i should I knew I could do this I just knew that I could. Ill never go back to smoking that whack I cant believe I spent so much time being gacked. Im back from hell Im doing well I dont use that chit now cant you tell. by Roberta Murdock Theres my little ditty! Really nice. Here is one of mine. The pebble Master Po when will it be time for me to leave? When you can take the pebble from my hand. So many times grass hopper tried and failed because he was trying to take the pebble from the hand. It wasn't until he tapped the hand downward that the pebble hopped up. He caught it in mid air while it wasn't in the hand. One comes, one leaves. A new one starts and an old one leaves. Life is a cycle that replays with the old ones until they leave. Hopefully the Young's ones can learn something from the old. Sometimes the new ones fashion themselves after the old. Sometimes the new ones don't have to make the mistakes of the old but can learn from the mistakes made by others. Advice can help if one truly listens. Open minds can hold much thought. Honesty can teach so well. Willingness can start many new things. Honesty, open mindedness and willingness can open doors to pathways that seemed closed before. The pebble bounces. |
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I have always have had a bad memory even before the drugs. At our meetings we refer to each other as the family so I know where you are coming from. Music as a journal. Hmm. I like that idea. Kind of reminds me of the movie, "The Long Kiss Goodnight" with Samuel L. Jackson. That is a good flashback for me. He sang a little diddy while he was doing stuff to help him remember. I love that movie! I do the same thing, using music as a journal. Did you ever see "With Honors" with Joe Pesci? He was a Harvard bum and used to save a pebble to remember important things in his life. My "pebbles" are songs. There is always something that fits. |
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he will never know you, and i don't think you should let that bother you. you have overcome so much, a beautiful person you are, his loss. some people may have tragic stories that revolved around something, in his case, maybe loss of others to drugs, and he's drawn a line in the sand. we all make choices. just be you, we love you! I totally agree with bastet. It's his choice, but it's also his loss. See, I would have never thought of that, unless she told me. Maybe he lost someone to drugs. Its very possible, or as another person mentioned, he HIMSELF may have been an addict. I would have never thought of that either. Thats why I brought it home! |
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People are so silly. Maybe he has an addiction and fears he will have to share.
Or maybe he thinks he can protect himself by setting up a bunch of criteria to exclude the people he THINKS will make him unhappy. My guess is he's doing a good job of just that (setting himself up to be unhappy) by being judgmental with all the CAPS and stuff Whereas you are obviously warm and caring and Strong. If this were a horse race of potential happiness, I'd be betting on you!
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I just read a really disturbing profile. This man said that if you have EVER used drugs in your lifetime, DONT MAIL ME. I was shocked to read this! If you read my profile, I am very honest, and open,(like always)about the fact that I smoked meth, for a long time.In fact, I had no one, and no programs, so the Minglers were my only support system, and of course they were always there for me, cheering me on in my journey. I quit cold turkey, just one day said "ive had enough of this", and stopped. I have been clean now for 4 years, and im never going back to that lifestyle again. PEOPLE DO CHANGE! I quit, I found God, I am a completely different, and reborn person.Ive even been rebabtised! But that man will never know the kind of person that I am now.And I like who I am now, ive grown tremendously! I remember when I quit, thinking that it was wonderful, that I would be able to date a whole different group of men now. The ones who are clean, and dont use drugs. But this man will never know me, and who ive become...and it makes me feel dirty and sad. Am I over-reacting, just because of my past??? Whats your take on this?? Ever? WOW.... That's really narrowing down the field..... I wonder if he considers weed a drug? In that case, I'm curious how many people HAVEN'T smoked weed at least one time in their life? If everybody had an outlook like that about ever doing something, I'd REEEEAAAAALLLLLLYYYYYY be in trouble!
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