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willn1k Joined Thu 12/28/06 Posts: 209	Sat 10/29/11 11:39 AM
If you made a new friend and you found out they don't drink and never have and never will, would you try to get them to drink? why?

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Sat 10/29/11 11:45 AM
personal choices are personal. i would ask a friend to try something new (whatever it may be) but if they declined, i would leave it alone. from that point forward i would not invite that friend to any activity that included what the friend declined. i would look for other things to do, or accept an invitation from that friend to do other things that did not include what the friend refrains from doing

oldhippie1952 Joined Mon 03/14/11 Posts: 22693	Sat 10/29/11 12:00 PM
I would never ask a friend to do something they didnt want to do. The 'why' is because I would consider that disrespectful. Me too. Respect their choice.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Sat 10/29/11 12:03 PM Edited by Jeanniebean on Sat 10/29/11 12:04 PM
If you made a new friend and you found out they don't drink and never have and never will, would you try to get them to drink? why? Depends on what they are drinking. Without water you will die.

willn1k Joined Thu 12/28/06 Posts: 209	Sat 10/29/11 12:06 PM
I would never ask a friend to do something they didnt want to do. The 'why' is because I would consider that disrespectful. Me too. Respect their choice. It is nice to hear that

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Sat 10/29/11 12:23 PM
The truth is, people who drink socially feel like people who don't drink are judging them so they try to tempt them over to the dark side. They don't like to hang out with sober people because they know that a sober person can watch them turn into an a hole when they get drunk.

lilott Joined Thu 10/12/06 Posts: 2295	Sat 10/29/11 12:27 PM
No I wouldn't because I don't drink.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 10/29/11 12:37 PM
personal choices are personal. i would ask a friend to try something new (whatever it may be) but if they declined, i would leave it alone. from that point forward i would not invite that friend to any activity that included what the friend declined. i would look for other things to do, or accept an invitation from that friend to do other things that did not include what the friend refrains from doing so I guess I'm not invited to anymore meet and greets

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sat 10/29/11 12:39 PM
if somebody is trying to push you into drinking then I don't think they are much of a friend....JMHO

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 10/29/11 12:41 PM
If you made a new friend and you found out they don't drink and never have and never will, would you try to get them to drink? why? Of course not.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 10/29/11 12:48 PM
I think a lot of people in their 20's drink as part of their new found independence and it lasts for a good while. Some folks dont know how to, or want to, deal with the transition without the assistance of 'mood enhancers.' You probably run into that often. There's nothing wrong with wanting to drink. Just like there is nothing wrong with not wanting to drink. Neither makes a person better than the other. And it's not just those in their 20s who enjoy drinking.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sat 10/29/11 01:06 PM Edited by 42BlackBBW on Sat 10/29/11 01:07 PM
No. Never. Whenever I'm out with my non drinkng friends, I tend to drink less or not drink at all and I don't mind that as it's more about spending time together, not how much alcohol we consume.

willn1k Joined Thu 12/28/06 Posts: 209	Sat 10/29/11 01:45 PM
I think a lot of people in their 20's drink as part of their new found independence and it lasts for a good while. Some folks dont know how to, or want to, deal with the transition without the assistance of 'mood enhancers.' You probably run into that often. There's nothing wrong with wanting to drink. Just like there is nothing wrong with not wanting to drink. Neither makes a person better than the other. And it's not just those in their 20s who enjoy drinking. I agree

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Sat 10/29/11 02:24 PM Edited by Jeanniebean on Sat 10/29/11 02:24 PM
I think a lot of people in their 20's drink as part of their new found independence and it lasts for a good while. Some folks dont know how to, or want to, deal with the transition without the assistance of 'mood enhancers.' You probably run into that often. There's nothing wrong with wanting to drink. Just like there is nothing wrong with not wanting to drink. Neither makes a person better than the other. And it's not just those in their 20s who enjoy drinking. While "right and wrong" is a personal opinion, alcoholism is a serious problem and alcohol destroys brain cells. So, for me personally, it is not a healthy pursuit and it is a "wrong" decision. I don't have any brain cells to spare. My grandfather and my little brother were both hopeless alcoholics all their lives. They destroyed their own lives and their families. That does not mean that everyone who drinks is an alcoholic. If you have the brains cells to spare, go ahead. Drink up.

Alterette Joined Mon 06/06/11 Posts: 1600	Sat 10/29/11 02:27 PM
I would never ask a friend to do something they didnt want to do. The 'why' is because I would consider that disrespectful. Me too. Respect their choice. I agree completely.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 10/29/11 02:28 PM
I think a lot of people in their 20's drink as part of their new found independence and it lasts for a good while. Some folks dont know how to, or want to, deal with the transition without the assistance of 'mood enhancers.' You probably run into that often. There's nothing wrong with wanting to drink. Just like there is nothing wrong with not wanting to drink. Neither makes a person better than the other. And it's not just those in their 20s who enjoy drinking. While "right and wrong" is a personal opinion, alcoholism is a serious problem and alcohol destroys brain cells. So, for me personally, it is not a healthy pursuit and it is a "wrong" decision. I don't have any brain cells to spare. My grandfather and my little brother were both hopeless alcoholics all their lives. They destroyed their own lives and their families. That does not mean that everyone who drinks is an alcoholic. If you have the brains cells to spare, go ahead. Drink up. Enjoying drinking does not mean someone is an alcoholic.

Simonedemidova Joined Mon 11/15/10 Posts: 8952	Sat 10/29/11 02:31 PM
I would not, they probably have their reasons and those should be respected.

boredinaz06 Joined Sun 10/15/06 Posts: 22764	Sat 10/29/11 02:31 PM
I don't trust anyone who doesn't drink!

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Sat 10/29/11 02:34 PM
I think a lot of people in their 20's drink as part of their new found independence and it lasts for a good while. Some folks dont know how to, or want to, deal with the transition without the assistance of 'mood enhancers.' You probably run into that often. There's nothing wrong with wanting to drink. Just like there is nothing wrong with not wanting to drink. Neither makes a person better than the other. And it's not just those in their 20s who enjoy drinking. While "right and wrong" is a personal opinion, alcoholism is a serious problem and alcohol destroys brain cells. So, for me personally, it is not a healthy pursuit and it is a "wrong" decision. I don't have any brain cells to spare. My grandfather and my little brother were both hopeless alcoholics all their lives. They destroyed their own lives and their families. That does not mean that everyone who drinks is an alcoholic. If you have the brains cells to spare, go ahead. Drink up. Enjoying drinking does not mean someone is an alcoholic. I didn't say it did. I said: That does not mean that everyone who drinks is an alcoholic. If you have the brains cells to spare, go ahead. Drink up.

TxsGal3333 Joined Tue 09/05/06 Posts: 76361	Sat 10/29/11 02:37 PM
Hell nooooo, but I would tell them that I drink and hope it did not bother them.... Let others be who they are.........