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Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Sun 10/30/11 11:46 AM
What people like to do is their business. Smoking, drinking, doing drugs. I just don't want to live with them.

manOfewwords Joined Wed 10/22/08 Posts: 29908	Sun 10/30/11 01:37 PM
What people like to do is their business. Smoking, drinking, doing drugs. I just don't want to live with them.

pkd1220 Joined Thu 05/24/07 Posts: 8318	Sun 10/30/11 02:06 PM
I didn't drink for 17 years and was constantly bugged and questioned and even given drinks that I didn't touch. I drink now and would never think of bugging a non drinker. I think it stems from people wanting you to conform to be like them. Same thing with people constantly asking when I was going to have children after being married 8 years. People will question you if you are not doing what is expected of you. I get grief now for dating someone 20+ years younger. I've never paid any attention to any of it.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 10/30/11 02:29 PM
I didn't drink for 17 years and was constantly bugged and questioned and even given drinks that I didn't touch. I drink now and would never think of bugging a non drinker. I think it stems from people wanting you to conform to be like them. Same thing with people constantly asking when I was going to have children after being married 8 years. People will question you if you are not doing what is expected of you. I get grief now for dating someone 20+ years younger. I've never paid any attention to any of it. I think you're right. A lot of it based around other people's comfort zones and assumed social norms...

oldsage Joined Thu 09/14/06 Posts: 18043	Sun 10/30/11 02:34 PM
What people like to do is their business. Smoking, drinking, doing drugs. I just don't want to live with them. AMEN

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 10/30/11 02:52 PM
Question for those who don't drink. If you meet someone you get along well with (friend or more) would you continue to develop that friendship or relationship if you found out they did enjoy drinking?

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Sun 10/30/11 03:00 PM
depends on how much they enjoy drinking

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Sun 10/30/11 03:02 PM
Question for those who don't drink. If you meet someone you get along well with (friend or more) would you continue to develop that friendship or relationship if you found out they did enjoy drinking? Only on a very superficial and casual level. I will not get close to a drinker again.

42BlackBBW Joined Mon 09/12/11 Posts: 3243	Sun 10/30/11 03:15 PM
IMO, I think it's about levels of alcohol consumption. I don't think that someone who enjoys a drink socially or the odd glass of wine at home is a "drinker". To me, a "drinker" is someone that drinks frequently on weekdays and weekends (Friday, Sat and Sun).

pennyg281 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 4348	Sun 10/30/11 03:22 PM
Question for those who don't drink. If you meet someone you get along well with (friend or more) would you continue to develop that friendship or relationship if you found out they did enjoy drinking? I have many friends and family members who smoke and drink. Even Though I choose not to they are still my friends and we have fun doing things that dont include drinking or if it dose no heavy drinking is done. But someones drinking would effect my decision to create a more personal relationship with them . .I have a friend who could have possibly become more than friends but I wasnt comfortable with how much he drinks.So we remained just friends.

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Sun 10/30/11 03:22 PM Edited by Jeanniebean on Sun 10/30/11 03:23 PM
Question for those who don't drink. If you meet someone you get along well with (friend or more) would you continue to develop that friendship or relationship if you found out they did enjoy drinking? If you are going to do it, you should enjoy it. If drinking is a regular "must do" activity and on a regular basis, I don't think a close relationship would develop simply because I would not be going out drinking with them. Nor would I be with them (while they are drinking) at my or their house. I also would not want to deal with their hang overs and other problems that might come up because of drinking too often. (Like ending up in fights, jail, drunken driving etc.) Anyone who gets in his or her car and goes out drinking is either going to need a ride home or is going to drive home under the influence.

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sun 10/30/11 03:23 PM
IF you liked cutting yourself a little tiny bit everyday,,, Would YOU expect EVERYONE else to also ENJOY THAT with YOU???? Or lets say something like drinking,,to be more realistic here,, How about a ciggerette,,,IF you smoked would YOU expect EVERYONE else to smoke WITH YOU??? WHY on God's earth would ANYONE "FEEL",,that another person has to do what THEY DO,,for "YOU" to except THEM? Thats like boarder-line,,,,,nut-case to me! If someone want to do anything with you,,cool,,,and that SAME,,if they DON'T? WE ALL HAVE DIFFERENT TASTES AND REASONING BEHIND WHAT WE ALLOW OUR SELVES TO DO OR ENJOY DOING? Live and LET LIVE!,,, NOW,,,GIVE ME A BEER,,,,, ,,,oh,,,PLEASE,,,,,

Conrad_73 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 22488	Sun 10/30/11 03:32 PM
I think a lot of people in their 20's drink as part of their new found independence and it lasts for a good while. Some folks dont know how to, or want to, deal with the transition without the assistance of 'mood enhancers.' You probably run into that often. There's nothing wrong with wanting to drink. Just like there is nothing wrong with not wanting to drink. Neither makes a person better than the other. And it's not just those in their 20s who enjoy drinking. While "right and wrong" is a personal opinion, alcoholism is a serious problem and alcohol destroys brain cells. So, for me personally, it is not a healthy pursuit and it is a "wrong" decision. I don't have any brain cells to spare. My grandfather and my little brother were both hopeless alcoholics all their lives. They destroyed their own lives and their families. That does not mean that everyone who drinks is an alcoholic. If you have the brains cells to spare, go ahead. Drink up. Enjoying drinking does not mean someone is an alcoholic. as if an Alcoholic enjoyed his drinking!

Conrad_73 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 22488	Sun 10/30/11 03:34 PM
Question for those who don't drink. If you meet someone you get along well with (friend or more) would you continue to develop that friendship or relationship if you found out they did enjoy drinking? what you mean by "Enjoy Drinking"?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 10/30/11 03:47 PM Edited by singmesweet on Sun 10/30/11 04:44 PM
Question for those who don't drink. If you meet someone you get along well with (friend or more) would you continue to develop that friendship or relationship if you found out they did enjoy drinking? what you mean by "Enjoy Drinking"? I'll use myself as an example. I usually go out once a week or so with friends and have a few drinks. Sometimes it will be more than once a week, sometimes less. If someone I enjoyed spending time with didn't want to drink, that's fine with me. They'd be welcome to come hang out when I went out, but of course I would not try to force them. I would expect the same respect from them, though, and not want them to try to get me not to drink. Of course, "enjoy drinking" will mean different things to different people.

Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sun 10/30/11 03:55 PM
If you made a new friend and you found out they don't drink and never have and never will, would you try to get them to drink? why? of course not, geez why would anyone want to 'try to get' someone to do something they have no interest in?!?! however...if said friend wants to try an alcohol buzz, i will willingly hold their hair back while they throw up.

willn1k Joined Thu 12/28/06 Posts: 209	Sun 10/30/11 04:08 PM
Question for those who don't drink. If you meet someone you get along well with (friend or more) would you continue to develop that friendship or relationship if you found out they did enjoy drinking? Yes, I don't mind if someone is drinking, I hang out with people who drink. It just when I say I don't want to drink don't offer me anything to drink, I can have fun without it.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sun 10/30/11 04:11 PM
Question for those who don't drink. If you meet someone you get along well with (friend or more) would you continue to develop that friendship or relationship if you found out they did enjoy drinking? Yes, I don't mind if someone is drinking, I hang out with people who drink. It just when I say I don't want to drink don't offer me anything to drink, I can have fun without it. I can see why it would bother you if they didn't respect that you didn't want to drink.

willn1k Joined Thu 12/28/06 Posts: 209	Sun 10/30/11 04:24 PM
Question for those who don't drink. If you meet someone you get along well with (friend or more) would you continue to develop that friendship or relationship if you found out they did enjoy drinking? Yes, I don't mind if someone is drinking, I hang out with people who drink. It just when I say I don't want to drink don't offer me anything to drink, I can have fun without it. I can see why it would bother you if they didn't respect that you didn't want to drink. they look at me like I'm not human when I tell them that I don't drink

Jeanniebean Joined Wed 01/30/08 Posts: 40028	Mon 10/31/11 06:36 AM
Question for those who don't drink. If you meet someone you get along well with (friend or more) would you continue to develop that friendship or relationship if you found out they did enjoy drinking? Yes, I don't mind if someone is drinking, I hang out with people who drink. It just when I say I don't want to drink don't offer me anything to drink, I can have fun without it. I can see why it would bother you if they didn't respect that you didn't want to drink. they look at me like I'm not human when I tell them that I don't drink So does that bother you?