Topic: I hate starting over.
ybcat1's photo
Fri 01/20/12 03:45 PM
I hate starting over. The whole dating thing again. Just when I was getting use to my ex, who's a really cool guy, it's just that things didn't work out. We ended on good terms though. Now I find myself back in the game. Having to get to know someone new,seeing if we are compatible, and being disappointed if we're not, and falling back into the game again. Really sucks sometimes. ohwell Add your thoughts to the subject.

navygirl's photo
Fri 01/20/12 03:48 PM

I hate starting over. The whole dating thing again. Just when I was getting use to my ex, who's a really cool guy, it's just that things didn't work out. We ended on good terms though. Now I find myself back in the game. Having to get to know someone new,seeing if we are compatible, and being disappointed if we're not, and falling back into the game again. Really sucks sometimes. ohwell Add your thoughts to the subject.


Yep, been there and done that. All you can do is just take it as yet another lesson learned. Sorry things didn't work out for you.

Teditis's photo
Fri 01/20/12 03:51 PM
I think life is linear.... so, I don't have the option of starting over... just moving on. And I carry all my past into the future.

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Sat 01/21/12 12:30 PM
I’d be lying if I said that it didn’t suck...it does suck big time but I kinda enjoy getting to know new people..the anticipation of a first date...the butterflies in my stomach...deciding what to wear...hoping that it’s going to be a good evening.....trying to anticipate that first kiss goodnight...trying to avoid that first kiss :smile:.

I honestly don’t mind it because when I get bored, I take time out until I feel ready to do it all over again.

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Sat 01/21/12 12:38 PM
It's a.......

Vicious Cycle!!!!!!

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Sat 01/21/12 12:52 PM
I'm not that keen on starting over, myself, really, but i guess it's easier for me this time around, cos i knew the guy for years. You just have to go with the flow. I don't really know what to advise about this. Stay safe :)

krupa's photo
Sat 01/21/12 12:55 PM
You need to see it from a different perpective guys.

Starting over is friggen AWESOME! Yes, there is the fear of uncertainty about the unknown...but, being comfortable in a rut where your life is just stuck....it is a life wasted stuck in a rut.

I did that for too damned long.

Starting over wipes away the past crap you have had to deal with.

Starting over means learning new things.

Starting over means you got a legitimte shot at falling in real love again.

You are never too old to suck at something new.

Starting over is an adventure.


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Sat 01/21/12 01:00 PM

You need to see it from a different perpective guys.

Starting over is friggen AWESOME! Yes, there is the fear of uncertainty about the unknown...but, being comfortable in a rut where your life is just stuck....it is a life wasted stuck in a rut.

I did that for too damned long.

Starting over wipes away the past crap you have had to deal with.

Starting over means learning new things.

Starting over means you got a legitimte shot at falling in real love again.

You are never too old to suck at something new.

Starting over is an adventure.





He's Absolutely Right!!!!!!

And we should all be good at it...

By now!!!!!!

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Sat 01/21/12 01:01 PM

I hate starting over. The whole dating thing again. Just when I was getting use to my ex, who's a really cool guy, it's just that things didn't work out. We ended on good terms though. Now I find myself back in the game. Having to get to know someone new,seeing if we are compatible, and being disappointed if we're not, and falling back into the game again. Really sucks sometimes. ohwell Add your thoughts to the subject.


I've been in a lot of relationships, and I'd have to say that, in all but one, the whole "starting over" bit was the best part -- getting to know the person, their thoughts and their beliefs and their lives and their ways -- maybe I just like the idea of accumulating this knowledge, of developing an ever-growing picture of who she is and what she wants out of life....

Knowing full well that it's all going to change (for the worse) once she feels she's ensconced enough in the relationship to try to change me. I know it's coming....

I think that's the main reason I'm kind of ambivalent about trying again. As much as I enjoy the introductory part, I totally dread the inevitable "now I have to change you" that inevitably comes afterwards....

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Sat 01/21/12 01:07 PM
Sure, it kinda sucks to start over. But there are upsides.


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Sat 01/21/12 01:19 PM

Sure, it kinda sucks to start over. But there are upsides.




rofl rofl rofl

ybcat1's photo
Sat 01/21/12 04:00 PM
Good responses everyone, I was just looking at the negative side of it. I forgot there's a positive side of meeting someone new, having fun making a new friend. Just when you're looking for boyfriend material and a mate learning that other persons ways and them learning yours is something I hate. Thanks for the feedback everyone.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Sat 01/21/12 06:47 PM

You need to see it from a different perpective guys.

Starting over is friggen AWESOME! Yes, there is the fear of uncertainty about the unknown...but, being comfortable in a rut where your life is just stuck....it is a life wasted stuck in a rut.

I did that for too damned long.

Starting over wipes away the past crap you have had to deal with.

Starting over means learning new things.

Starting over means you got a legitimte shot at falling in real love again.

You are never too old to suck at something new.

Starting over is an adventure.



LOVE this! I try to live by this going into anything new.

PacificStar48's photo
Sat 01/21/12 09:01 PM
I figure now I am at least moving forward from a place of security, experience, and self knowledge.

Not being a starving kid anymore I have a few less distractions.

I have done a few things to know what I actually like and a few I really don't like so not like I find myself half way through dates doing something that bores me to tears anymore so the odds are good it is going to be fun.

Being single/children raised a while I know my dates are there for me and not just because so and so is around or they are looking to imortalize themselves.

Mow when someone actually asks what I like to tell them something about myself I have something to talk about.