I have been in love with a woman and her child, even married her, now we divorced and she turned him against me...most importantly I fail in love with the thought of loving him and taking him /her as a packaged deal I would walk through fire for. A man has accept your children and know his wants come last, yours and your children's come first!

I sure hope so...lol

Even at 55 I have no problem with a woman who has kids. I married "a family" twice already and don't regret that part of it for an instant. The two kids from my second marriage are wonderful, important parts of my life.

Man that must have been real hard to deal with and I feel for ya.Break ups are hard enough without kids being involved too

I call that BIG LOVE to love others more than yourself and consider the entire family, because that is exactly what you have committed to - the entire family and I think it's wonderful and shows a lot of character in the person that did not have kid(s) before getting into the relationship, but willing to share their love with everyone involved.

If the kid acts like Junior from the Problem Child movies, then hell no!

Do we have a choice. Other than no date.

I do not have children and have loved a guy with kids. I always say one of his sexiest qualities was that he was such a good dad. Men who step up to their responsibilities are sexy no matter what that may be.

It's not so easy to admit the truth, but many persons say they do, while they do not really guess what mean get on charge the responsibility to raise not own childrens.
Protect your puppies...it's a mission.

most of woman with kids are wunderful so i love women with kidz....

I was in love with a woman with kids, so yeah it's very possible. I'm not at the stage where I want kids though but in saying that I would of done anything for her and her kids. But it is different from dating.someone without kids, you can't at the last minute.decide to go out and almost everything has to be planned. But I'm saying that I did love her and would of gone on loving her if things had worked out. I think when I have kids I would rather be with someone who's having one for the first time as well. So yeah things didn't work out, broken heart mending but I don't regret being in that relationship

yes of course why not?for me i prefer woman with kids..it doesnt matter as long as both of you have a mutual feelings..

Yes though personally I am avoiding it for now. Simply because my career conflicts with having a family at the moment. It wouldn't be fair to the child nor his/her mother. Once my career has stabilized and I can provide for a family and provide the things needed including my time and a stable living location. Then I will consider dating a single mom!

Of course what always scares me, if the child is not mine the child will always come first for the woman as he/she should. Problem is the child won't care about me nearly as much and eventually the child will clash with me as he/she would with their real dad. Only difference the wife will support the real dad but me maybe but not as likely.

The conflict comes because the child is not yours, no matter how much you love the child, how much you do for the child. You will never be that child's father. I would like my own child or an adopted child where both parents are on equal ground!

I am not hot to be in a relationship with kids. Or a big bunch of grandkids run in an out 24/7. Mine raise theirs so I would expect his to raise his. Don't get me wrong if the emergency or holiday comes along Grandma reporting for duty but not every day forever amen.

Been an empty nester for almost fifteen years as was my choice to have my family time early when I was young and had more patience and energy. And yea then life pretty much centered around kids. Being Daddy was sexy and I made darn sure there was no "step" in the Daddy role when I remarried so I don't get how people find themself in that mess.

Now not so much. Kid would be bored as heck in my place and it is nice to be able to go jump in the pool or on the touring bike whenever I want to for as long as I want to. I figure I earned that and so would any potential mate. .

Don't really want to back track to the days where my needs were usually last. It is one thing being and equal with a mate but I don't want to have the drama that goes along with Ex's, In-laws, Outlaws and kids who have taken over the roost and would make me a second class citizen in my own relationship or maybe home. I have see the types too many times and quietly backed away.

Probably going to ruffle a lot of feathers but if my kids were as bad as some I have seen lately I would have given them back too. I think a lot of people with kids are single because they are letting their guilt or their Ex's run all over the family. It is not doing the kids any favors either because they are growing up to be intolerable people/partners nobody will want.

Seen several single parents bomb out two and three times in relationships not because the new partner was a bad person but they got sick of being a door mat.

My SO and the kids, both sides, come first.

I think that is possible to some degree but eventually I think that gets old and human nature, human needs factor in. If one mate or the other gets to always be the last priority they kind of cease to exist as a person. They are not a mate and only a servant. A person has to stick up for themself to some degree. Or they are endorseing selfish not selflessness behavior. IMHO

I never get tired of putting my kids first.

I mean this with the utmost respect for the fact that you seem from everything I can tell to be a devoted Father, something to be highly prised, it may be why you are not having a lot of luck finding a Mate.

If someone makes it clear that the only role you really value is being a Dad and not their Mate it kind of makes them the last priority. That is really pretty selfish if you look at it really closely. Is a Mother only a vessel to bring you a child or for your comfort or for their well rounded world understanding?

I have always believed that the greatest gift we can give our children is loving their other parent equally to them. Because in that we give them two strong well nurished parents not just one. Which my gues has something to do with the fact that it takes two to get them in the first place. Two parents gives them balance and security. Something they will reflect in their own relationships which will make them much happier adults. Parenting is a forever job but we have to teach our children that they are Not the center of the universe and at times other parts of the family are going to come equal to them. Even if it is ourselves seeking the independence of meeting our own needs for companionship rather than pressureing them to have grandchildren to fill our empty arms. It really does them a favor to ur children not to carry the weight of the world in being the only person who makes you happy, helps you, and God forbid someday grieves your passing. The love we demonstrate with a mate is as important as the love we demonstrate as a parent to their overall personal developement. Kids are smart enough to figure out we have enough supply to love more than one person and it is not about who is first or second they are each on their own plain in the universe. Can you honestly say you love one of your children more than the other or that one child would make up for the loss of another? I seriously doubt that. The love for a spouse comes from a completely differeent well doesn't it?

Yeah me to, otherwise i am screwed

I love woman