I am married and unhappy..however, i dont want to break up..however looking for an alternate relationship with someone whu wud understand me and my likings..will i be wrong if i start a relationship which wud give me a 'feel good' feelong??

Uh yeah you would be wront, however you should ask your spouse for their opinion rather than us...

the is the most problem a couple have...you should be open to your spouse of the problem you have...once you'll talk about it and let her know about your feelings i'm sure she will find ways to solve your problem...be open to your spouse not to others and don't try to ask someone else whom you don't know well and you don't trust. it's a big mistake to solve a problem with another problem...

If you are unhappy, why don't you want to break up? I don't understand IF people are married...why can't they talk to their mate about their problems? Do you really want to be known as a cheater?
I truly believe before you can get into a new relationship, you have to clean up the old relationship that you are or were in. Until you do, why would you drag someone else into your mess and take a risk of hurting them? I think it is very selfish when someone does this...I always ask myself, would I want my mate to do this to me? If I can't say yes..then you know it is totally wrong!!
Maybe you should get off of a dating site and try to make your marriage work? Only YOU can make yourself happy...your partner can not make you happy so you need to search yourself and figure out why you are not happy.
Good Luck!!!

wrong and selfish

That is called a "FRIEND"....where I am from. No sex....just hanging out with someone you have grown to admire, like or love.

Marriage does NOT mean living in an isolation bubble. Like it or not, both of you must retain ties beyond yourselves....that is when jealousy pops up.

You GOTTA have at least one friend.

I didn't write the rules.

I'm guessing by "alternate" relationship you mean with another woman...Yeah, it would be wrong and very unfair to your wife...Need to fix the problems or get out before you start another realtionship...

Just curious, what exactly does "alrernate relationship" involve?....It sounds kind of sexist.... .

If you have to ask you already know the answer and are looking for someone to agree/justify your behavior. Good luck with that!

That WON'T fix why you are unhappy in your marriage. Try communication with your spouse!!!

Yeah, thank you, if your spouse is so great you can't bring yourself to "hurt" their feelings with honesty then perhaps it is you who has a problem with the marriage. That's effed up.

Why are you dealing with an unhappy relationship? Why don't you talk to your spouse instead of looking for ways to get around the problem and make things worse. If you want to be with another person, stop attempting to fool around behind the back of the one you are with and instead talk to her. Either discuss and solve the problem, or move on.

Why is the response to difficulty more often than not to make things more difficult in the long run?

What they said. ^^

I have cake but now I want more cake despite the fact that more cake might make me really ill. I still want it because I can.

I think they want the icing now,lol

And chocolate sprinkles and mini sparklers

yeah!LOL

Yes, why stay where you're not happy? At least be decent enough to end it with the one you're unhappy with before entering into a new relationship. Even if they are open to that kind of thing, it's still not right to be in a relationship if you're unhappy. Try talking with them and working things out, if they can't be worked out, then it's time to end it.

Are you seeking permission? :)

If you are unhappy you should break up.

Wrong!!!!