Would you date someone of a obvious lesser mental ability than you? Would you be condescending on issues with him/her or help them grow. How would you react if they keep making mistakes?

There is no such thing as a reliable measure of intelligence and there
is no such thing as finding an exact match in terms of mental ability
so it is pointless to limit oneself in such a way.

I do think though that we are naturally drawn to people we admire in
some way so I do think that is important. There are a lot of factors.
Generally though people appreciate being with others who have similar
interests and similar abilities.

I'll say that I consider myself a fairly intelligent individual and I can honestly say that it sucks when your significant other doesn't understand what you're talking about, or doesn't understand jokes, sarcasm etc... having to explain everything really dries the fun out of the relationship really quick.

No two people are alike..as you know.
However, everyone brings some sort of intelligence to the table that you will not posses. So... who is the less intelligent then? There is no such thing.
Some people lack humor or have a dry sense of humor. It doesn't make them dumb, just different. It has become easy to label people in the world, however, it has nothing to do with them being dumb.

some how i always talk to women who lets just say aren't the sharpest knife in the drawer haha

I dont know how to measure intellect, people have strengths and weaknesses where knowledge is concerned

I think there is a MINIMUM expectation of certain basics like math, reading, writing, and grammar that my 'date' would need for me to remain attracted to them


other than that, its more about the character and similar interests and values,,,,

Intelligence comes in many forms. A person who is good in math (like me) may not be very artistic (like me). Someone who can work magic in various media may have trouble adding up their checkbook. One is not superior to the other.

When I was in college a friend fixed me up with a date with this gorgeous blond who was a friend of the girl he was dating. We went out and had an OK date and then I took her home where she invited me in. I met her parents who promptly went to bed and left us alone on the couch. She asked me how college was, and I spoke a little about my goals and dreams for the future. I then asked her what were her goals for the future.

She literally stopped still. She started to shake a little and then, looking me straight in the eye, said "DUH" with nothing following. I said my good nights and left. I got my college roommate a date with her and they married.

Most men are dumb by nature so this is a hard one. I could why the rise in bisexual ladies has spiked prodigiously since the early 90s.

I could care less about intelligence anymore. Very few prodigy's in the world. I want a woman with certain skills that make me happy.

Ummmmm......I'm sorry.....but....
I don't understand the......Answer!!!!



Seriously?????

You'd think it would be easier, with two heads and all...but obviously not

If it's just 'dating,' then sure why not. If it's a relationship, I would want our intelligence to be somewhat compatible. Life is too short to settle. I would want to be in a relationship with a grown person, not a child that obviously still needs some 'mothering.' Just my opinion.

what was the question again?

Intelligence is a turn on. I wouldn't be able to date someone who is stupid. Though, he could definitely know more than me on one subject and I could know more than him on the next. That would be completely fine. No need to be condescending.

I think intelligence is much like other factors we all use when attracted to someone. Some traits, like looks are readily apparent, others like humor and intelligence might take a bit longer to know or appreciate. Many traits including physical appearance can grow on us if other traits are strong for us. We all decide based on (usually) many factors who we want to spend time with, date, have a relationship with. Deciding that a variance in intelligence between us is reason not to pursue a relationship seems as valid a reason to me as say, lack of chemistry or not being willing to raise his/her children. This is not to say we can't appreciate other things this person has to offer, just that a given degree of intelligence is one of our criteria, not a judgement on the whole person.

Having tried to explain this, it is a turn off if a potential 'date' can't write a simple sentence in literate manner. Spelling aside (to a point), I need a mate who can use our common language to say what he wants, needs or means.

The truth is the world keeps getting advanced each day. Ignorance was overlooked some years back but now it is taken as dumbness. Honestly, i would find it difficult to give mutual respect to a lady who i below par on IQ. Some jokes might not be understood and things like that. She might start feeling a sense of inferiority which ultimately kills the relationship. I need a woman who can task me mentally not to emotionally..

I could only date men with a similar I.Q level to mine. Otherwise, it's conversations about clothes, media, money. .

its hard not to, i would kill to have a intellectual equal or superior mantal mate but alas nobody appreciates thinkers anymore. dating is all about material objects, assets and life style

This is my double entendre of the day.