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Topic: need some advice
daniel48706's photo
Mon 08/06/07 04:53 PM
I am about to flip a gascot here folks...

My neighbor of approximately one year, has stepped across the line today. It started with ehr calling CPS (Child Protective Services) two tiems a week for five months claiming I wasnt feeding my children, and that I was physically abusing them. Every last one of her calls has come back unfounded.
Then she went to filing complaints to our landlord for a few months, severalt iems a month. NOW, she has called the SPCA (Society for the prevention of cruelty to Animals) and claimed I abandoned my cats and left two dead kittens in my yard, thus involving the police.
I have already cleared the matter up with the authorities but I am sick of it all.
I intend to go to each organization and request inwriting (with my lawyer if neccesary) the name of who complained, so I can prove it is her (and yes I have already had unnoficial confirmation from her own mouth more than once) and am suing her for slander and asking for a restraining order, which in michigan will force her to have to move teh day it is issued.
I would love to just laugh it off and ignore everything as I am intending to move anyway, but it is to the point that my state bond (similar to insurance) is at stake, and if I lose the bond, I can not work in the security field which ios my primary background. I could also look at the loss of custody of my kids if she keeps ity up long enough, even with everything coming back unfounded; so needless to say, I can not afford to just step back and ignore it.
What do you all think? Am I doing the right thing in filing for a restraining order? Should I press for more? or should I just ignore it all, and continue on end hope she does not continue after I move, and cause me to lose my bond and or my kids?

cajunwhitetiger's photo
Mon 08/06/07 05:06 PM
get a lawyer. like u said. and yes get the restraining order on her. i wouldnt move . but thats me . see what ur lawyers says. i know u are at end witts. you are doing this the right way. i would not ignore it.but dont let this woman get to you. show her that u are the adult and she is the child.

Johncenawlife316's photo
Mon 08/06/07 05:08 PM
No do everything you have and need to do, that is soo freakin wrong to do to any body and any one.

Not sure what her problem is other then she dislikes you big time, but I haven't read one thing here where it made it sound like you did something to make her dislike you etc.

Either way push full blow with all the charges that need to be file and make her pay and move out and away from you.

This shouldn't happen to no body for no reason at all.

I'm sorry you have to go through this.

I could see if you mistreated your kids and pets but from what I have read it's been none of that stuff.

Some people have noting better to do with there time and life then make others have a tough time.

Hopefully you can do what you need to and get this woman off your back once and for all.

Best of luck to you.

goldwinger_F4X1's photo
Mon 08/06/07 05:09 PM
yes get a lawyer. stand up for your rights. follow through.

creationsfire's photo
Mon 08/06/07 05:11 PM
Sounds like stone cold harrassment to me. Get the lawyer, make her pay for it and move her out!

Silkbutterfli's photo
Mon 08/06/07 05:15 PM
Go for it, make her pay for the lawyer, sue her for slander, loss of income (didn't you have to take time off from work to deal with all this?), have your lawyer go after for everything he can think of. That is just wrong. You were able to prove all this stuff was inaccurate, that is just plain harrassment.

daniel48706's photo
Mon 08/06/07 05:18 PM
I grant ya I put the cats outside saturday afternoon (they are outside cats to beigin with) because I had to bomb the house for fleas, and the cats woudl have died if I left them in tehre during the bombing. But I talked to her husband before leaving for work and explained if he saw "smoke" in the hosue dont worry, and dont call the fire department lol, as I was simply bombing the house.
I rembombed on sunday (just to make sure I got them all, lol. and monday the spca arrives witht he accusations :angry:
Oh, and she has also accuse me of molesting her daughter to anyone who will listen (cant prove it though).

And dont get me wrong; I dont blame her for being pissed at finding semen on her daughters clothes (one year old daughter) I would be readty to kill if it was my children.
However, I voluntarily had my dna sampled to show it wasnt me (I haad babysat the child the same week she found the semen), and yet..................

Puffins1958's photo
Mon 08/06/07 05:19 PM
Daniel...

I would do everything possible to make sure that your children are safe and protected with you. This woman sounds like a NUT. Please keep your children safe...and away from HER...


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Mon 08/06/07 05:23 PM
I would self Video my day,,or part anyway w/o the kids knowing as YOUR proof of how and what really went on at your home,and I would MOVE SOON.
But WHY is this happening to YOU?
Is there ANY truth to her complaints?
Are you Yelling?
Are the children being tended to with love?
You openned this box?, and I LOVE kids and HATE anyone who treats them in anyway poorly, so I have to ASK this to MAKE a reply to you.:heart:
YES, she COULD just be a nut BUT, most people have REASONS of SOME kind as to TRY to file "ANY" complaints!
And THERE are "LAWS" against filing FALSE COMPLAINTS!!
So if YOU know your innocent then NO ONE could ever PROVE you to be a bad person....with your kids,,,RIGHT? :wink: smokin

daniel48706's photo
Mon 08/06/07 05:31 PM
exactly iam4u, it has already been shown that her claims are NOT true...
yes I yell sometimes, what human person doesnt? but the "complaints" to cps did not involve even yelling at all. They clearly stated that I do not feed the children, and that I physically abuse them.
The complaints to the landlord state I do not clean my yard (differance of opinion here)...
and te complaints to the SPCA involve abuse, neglect resulting in death of animals.

Native_Grl39's photo
Mon 08/06/07 06:00 PM
Get ahold of a good lawyer and have him look into...harassment, slander and I'm not sure if it's a restraining order you want or a cease and desist order...A restraining order will only stop her from communicating or being allowed within so many feet of you...whereas a cease and desist order (don't know if they have those in your state...BUT they do here...It's a civil order) will stop someone from performing certain actions, it sounds more appropriate in this case...BUT you will have to speak to a lawyer about it!!!!!!!

flowerforyou drinker

daniel48706's photo
Mon 08/06/07 07:03 PM
I fully intend on talking to a lawyer, but I personally want to go with what will hit her the hardest, as it will help show that I am innocent in all this. As I satted my bond could be affected, as well as my custody of my children, and I need to be able to make a clear statement to the effect that I am a victim and hopefulyl have everything erased as far as investigations go...

lulu24's photo
Mon 08/06/07 07:19 PM
if she honestly thinks that you molested her child...then she's only trying to protect YOUR kids.

if you're already moving, just do so.

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Mon 08/06/07 07:29 PM
I hope that idiot has to move. go for it. Get your proof and take em to court.

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Mon 08/06/07 07:38 PM
Just wondering...how come you had to baby sit her baby? And if she didn't trust or like you to begin with.. why in the world would she let you babysit? Dont get it..sounds like a nut!!

lulu24's photo
Mon 08/06/07 07:43 PM
sounds like all this started AFTER he baby-sat...

unsure's photo
Mon 08/06/07 07:45 PM
I was going to say...if you guys didn't get along before, why in the world would you babysit and leave that option open for her to say something like that? If someone did molest her daughter, I hope something is done!! I think this whole situation is a little strange!!

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Mon 08/06/07 07:46 PM
If that is true (lulu)..then she is pretty sick huh? Maybe she did it on purpose to try and frame him or something...oh well..she sounds weird....

lulu24's photo
Mon 08/06/07 07:48 PM
i don't know. all we receive is the one side of the story...and yes, i like daniel.

if she really thinks he hurt her kid...maybe she's doing what she thinks is best. maybe she really thinks his kids are in danger...and she's trying to save children from someone who her eyes see as a child-molester. wouldn't you do what YOU could if you really felt someone was responsible for violating your BABY?

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Mon 08/06/07 07:59 PM
:heart: Lulu, I just LOVE a MOM'S input,,its soooooo "REAL".
Good advice and WHENEVER "ANYTHING" happenes with ANY child,,
PEOPLE SHOULD ALWAYS LOOK HARD, AND HAVE OPENED MINDS...

But MISTAKES "CAN" ruin LIVES.:heart:


Anyone can be vindictive, but TRUTH and INNOCENTS should always prevail.:heart:

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