Ok i am not unattractive, so dont think its cause im not sexy or whatever else you perves think. But with my boyfriend i have been having some sex issues. i consider myself normal when it comes to sex like i want to have the " at least 3-4 times a weeks". I am lucky if i get sex 1 every two months!!!!!!!!!! im starting to think he doesnt want me anymore, and i actually feel like cheating just to prove my point. What is going on with him, it gets so much attention in my head that i have even pulled away from emotionally and i told him im leaving in feb. back to chicago without him.

I hate to be the one to bring this up but is there the possibility he is seeing someone else behind your back?

sounds like he's blowing out your neighbors back,...

If he just waves bye-bye, you did the right thing.

maybe it's a religious thing. During the holy month of Ramadan, Jews have extra sex, and during the Catholic period of self-restraining Lent, the protestants have extra beef and mustard on their plates.

You know, people are so weird that sometimes it just does not make sense.

I would suggest you see the movie "A Serious Man", or rent it on DVD. It has all the answers to all the questions anyone can ask in his or her life. The answer this movie offers, is the same as that in the Book of Job: Makes no sense, nothing makes sense, not even the famous cat of Schroedinger in the box. A lot of people turn to the uncertainty principle to help them make sense of senslessness.

The Hasham is mum on the subject, on any subject, so religious meditation and inwardly examination of your soul won't help.

I would suggest that if things don't improve, then at end of February, 2013, go back to Chicago where you came from, and leave the dude to his autoerotic fantasies.

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Edit: no, I am not the Hasham, and I am not an angel (messenger) of the Hasham. I don't even have a soul, for crying out loud, not even one. I am therefore way more reliable than the Bible or the Quran.

If you want more guidance, turn to page 236 of Becker's "Routine exercises in problems of Quantum Mechanics", and examine Questions Sixty-seven and Sixty-eight. All I ever needed to know I learned it there.

Isnt this a dating site? And you have a boyfriend? Am I missing something?

Yes. A girlfriend.

Join the club, good friend. I haven't even held hends with a bird for over a decade.

Oh, to answer your first question: this is not an uptight dating site like PoF or a mayhamly hateful and hating one like DHU. We are relaxing the rules who can join, and we draw the line only at child abusers and convicted war criminals of crime against humanity. God can't join, for instance. If you don't want to beleive me, search for him on the search engine, and you'll see that you can't find Him there. We have our standards, too, you know... except they are somewhat relaxed.

We had a guy like that once here, a guy who did not make the grade of selection criteria, and he got booted out as quick as... well, he was a member here for several years before the truth was revealed to us, and then he was booted out in a flash.

You do not give enough information in your OP for anyone to respond with anything other than an educated guess...Cheating will not prove your point, it will only make things worse...Threatening to leave won't force him to have sex with you 3 or 4 times a week....If you are still together, and it sounds like you are, joining a dating site and making your sexual issues public is probably not going to heighten his arousal for you either...

Just so you know there are lots of people here on this site that have boyfriends/girlfriends or are married. This is also a social site to have friends.

Maybe he may feel he is not man enough to satisfy you in every way ?
In my eyes you look like a veyr lovely looking woman, and what i can see in yoru pictiure;; seems you have such a veyr lovely sexy looking body, so i sure can not seee him turning you down for sex;; but you are right;; somehting is sure wrong with him..I know if i had a woman as lovely and as sexy as you are, i would have you in thee bed every night, and using my hands my lips and also my tongue;; whatever it takes to satisfy you in everyw ay.. maybe that is what is wrong;; You are a very hot sexy woman, and maybe he is feeling you are too much for him,, or ;;; are you sure he isn,t gay???




David

This may be a stupid question...but have u tried confronting him with this issue? (i.e., asking him why he's pulling away from you)...If so, then u did ur part..and it's probably time to move on. You're a sexy lady. Why waste time with a guy that's not going to appreciate you and all you have to give him. It's his loss.

Oh, and he may also be cheating...busy humping every other woman in town, while you're sitting here wondering about what to do with his sorry***. If he's getting booty left and right, your threat to move away will do nothing for him.

David, why stop at hands, tongue, and lips?

Hands, feet, heart, legs, the stoker for the fire, the candle and the canticle, the freezer molds for the popsicles. The icicles hanging off the eave, the tree branches, the sticky side of postage stamps, the handles of many hand-held small appliances, as well as carrotts, turnips, turnups, broomsticks, pens, pencils, any string you can find in the house, the bedcover rolled up tight, the ligth bulb (these newfangled energy-saving ones are even better, they are ribbed!! :-) my baby goes wild over them), slogans, articles from rolled-up newspapers, reciting love poetry you specifically wrote for her (you would not BELIEVE how effective those are), goldfish, live weasels pushed up head-first, newly discovered planets in distant solar systems, ceremonial swords, swordfish,


... and, well, the entire skit and kaboodle of creation.

Well... your threat to move away may make a little difference, though. He might start to feel releived or happier, but that's about all.

In fact, if you want to use threats as a weapon in negotiations with him in your demands for more and muchly needed sex with you, then threaten him with NOT moving away.

Rather than threaten to leave, have you tried asking him what the problem is? I had a wife who said no all too often so I just stopped asking. She threatened to leave and I held the door open. If you want to save the relationship ask!

Is there such a thing as "overfeeding" a partner?? I dunno...just a thought.

Sounds like he already found someone else. If he is living with you, kick him out, he is using you for something else right now aside from sex, until he secures a better location. Not to be mean or anything. Based on what you said though, your thinking about cheating on him, sounds Ike he has been for awhile. Good luck, you're pretty you can move on no problem.

The first thought that comes to my mind is that he finds sex with you dull. Or maybe he just has a low sex drive. It sounds like you have a pretty high one.

Did you ask him?