As the saying goes, "I've been rich and I've been poor, and rich is better"... What do you think it has to do with attraction? Security, opportunity...room for Courgars???

For men trying to date women who are a step above them financially it is a huge stumbling block, unless the woman can see what's happening and pick up the slack. We may not be able to treat them to the finer things that they think are commonplace...jewelry, fine dining, theater, travel, and a host of other things they live for.

Occaisionally it works the other way, but with older thinking and men being the hunter gatherer, it doesn't bother to many women to "move up" and assume the roll of recipient of great love and trinkets, so to speak.

How do you feel?


LW2

I'm finding myself a little intimidated with highly successful women due to what it has brought them. Total independance from men, Travel to exotic destinations, scuba, to skydiving, to living out their fantasies with, or without, a man. So what's next? What are women doing to remedy this, or are we just out on our keesters, and you only date rich men?

no im not impressed by a man that has wealth

if that was the case
there was a man that i met yrs ago
that drove a dang jag
it was a nice car but i wasent impressed
by it

if i was wealthy i
would be happy to
live in a log cabin
why flaunt the money

That is a rare trait, thank you.


LW2

Like the saying says money can't buy you happiness I don't need the finer things in life. Happy just to find someone to cuddle up with stay home and watch a good movie. Must be lots of cuddling though

It seems to me that 99% of all women are either attracted to wealth,looks,or position! Position is graded by how you present yourself in your introduction and by your pictures on here!Its not meeting to find moral or spiritual attraction or who they may be compatible with,its mostly who they may be financial secure with! Or they just want to talk in the forms with no expectations of even answering someone that has messaged them,sent them some kind of nudge ie:kiss,hug,kick in the pants.I've participated in all these actions on here!! So what's next to achieve a reaction on here?Listing my bank account or waving the title to a paid off mortgage to my home?Showing the bill of sale with a signed title of a sportscar? Ide just as soon be alone but all of that would make the lady scammers on this site happy!Seems to me that nobody is willing to put the effort in what they want"as listed in their introduction !"They expect it to be there if you may be the One chosen by them to meet! Most of the time i just wonder if its GOOD they are really looking for? The saying goes"If i'm wrong prove it"!This is supposed to be a Dating site?

agree....


all i want is a man
that will be emotionally supportive
towards me

I'm finding myself attracted to women with lots of money.

It symbolizes competence to me. But on the other hand, if she has good hugs, who cares about money?

Line from a song

"Gold won't buy you happiness, when you're old & alone."

It is everyone's own choice. Who's business is it anyway?

I live as I chose & so should everyone else.

I've dated wealthy men, poor men, and everything in between. I've never been wealthy myself, and I don't expect a life filled with fancy material goods. There are far more important things than money or the random things it can buy.

Personally, what I look for a good heart, an agile mind, and a great personality. Looks are nice too, and I will admit there are certain "types" to which I'm attracted in that department as well as other things that turn me off, but I think that's normal for everyone, male or female. But I'm not necessarily looking for some guy who belongs on the cover of next month's GQ magazine or anything, and what I find attractive spans a pretty wide range, from guys with nearly male-model faces to guys who'd be best described as having "quirky good looks" that are off the beaten path.

Ive never been a 'highly successful woman' so I Cant speak to what they are attracted to

but I would guess they are interested in compatibility like anyone else


I think the stage of life we are in developmentally plays a large part in compatibility,, for instance, when I Was JUST starting in life, I would have felt compatibility with someone else just starting in life,,,,

as a parent , now, I feel more compatible with someone who has been/is a parent


I imagine its very likely that someone who has become 'highly successful' would feel more compatible with someone that was at or near a similar level of success

I would hope that a woman with more riches than me would judge me for my character and personality but to be honest I have found this not to be true.

I have been married twice...1st time to a very intelligent, handsome, successful business person. He made very good money but was a #1 rat. Marriage #2 to the love of my life, poor country man, high school education, looked like a mountain man. But what he did have a kindness, caring, compassion and love to give. He gave that freely and in our 17 yrs. together we never had an argument. No money is not important at all. Probably 5 or 6 on my list.

I'm smart, articulate and intelligent. I'm also poor. Raised my kids alone, worked all my life for a little above minimum wage. I was in a 6yr. relationship with a man who I loved, who made excellant income as an iron worker. I worked and my money was my own. He paid all the bills, mortgage, vets, groceries, car repairs etc. He was happy to do it. I never took advantage, never bought stuff for me on his dime. The relationship failed and all I can say is that because he made my life comfortable, it was a little harder to leave. He was a drinker, he didn't communicate his heart to me about much at all and I felt I didn't know him after all that time, as a result, I was lonely, horney, frustrated, I had to leave. But I DO prefer a man who can provide for us. I'm tired....I worked all my life. I'd love to just stay home, take care of him and us, the house, paint, garden, and relax. Spoil him...and give him the feeling that he can't wait to get home!!!! but money alone does not a happy relationship make...it takes so so much more. I would never just be with someone becuase they had money. Nope.

I still believe confidence has alot to do with attraction

and though money cant buy happiness, it certainly can rent a whole lot of peace of mind

and peace of mind makes it a bit easier to be confident,,,

I don't care how much you have - that you manage it wisely is far more important.

Its a common saying, we never value the things till we loss.
Wealth & its values for female depends on its reality to her life otherwise her priority is her individuality with self esteem.
you are a example of my belief,thanks.

Life needs ornaments to decorate it,no single values can be an answer, looking for ornaments for life and worrying for its lost are 2 extreme points.We just need...a innocent heart with great enthusiasm otherwise most of the things are like air.

net..net, its abt relationship.
few things attract us..
few things keep us together..
few things makes life easier..
few things keeps life sparking & growing..
& to me..
Its not about choice but its about quality of life and of course its always subjective.

When poverty comes in the door, love goes out the window. I've just noticed that having money makes it a lot easier to get a date, and it makes the dating pool larger.

You may not like what you get with your money, but I have noticed that women pay a lot more attention to a guy who looks like he can afford the finer things in life than they do to a guy who looks like a working stiff.

It seems to me that you men make money the prime concern. You tell a woman that you will take care of her financially; you try to buy her love with gifts, or you try to impress her with your financial status. You don't help the situation for yourselves with that type of behaviour and neither does the brainwashing of generations of men and women that were raised that way. Funny thing is you guys get mad when a woman wants you for money; yet when she is independent like me and doesn't need your money; you get mad too. WTF? There is just no pleasing you one way or the other.