You seriously scaring me now!!!

You guess not, but what's funny?

Agree

All men have some brains, even the eye candy men.

No man wants a ugly woman really, so why would a woman want a
ugly man!! You forgot about Ugly and no brains.

I'm still wondering what you meant.

There has to be physical attraction, but it's the personality, intelligence, mutual respect and admiration that start and keep a relationship going.

Inspite of how hot he may look, without brains he's a total turn off for me. I'm at the stage were life requires me to make important decisions that could affect my intire future, i'm very choosy & careful of a person i'll consider as a partner. He's either here to team up with me & impact positively in my life or he's not part of me at all without brains.

My previous boyfriend was hot, yet he was such a child. Could just tell in early days that we wen't going anywhere

Intelligence is a must! If their aren't brains to help carry the boat, then it sinks mighty quickly!

I think it would be amaaaaaaazing to have both in a female.

As in, you know, not ALL women are sharp knives. :)

how handsome are we talking here? :)-

well....can we go aaron lewis or brandon boyd?

You could? Why?

I mean, so what if I ended up with a "handsome" guy? Also, so what if I ended up with an average-looking, or "ugly"? I think if someone is so insecure, that they don't trust they're "good-looking" lover to stay with them, then it only show's how insecure he/she is. You should feel flattered by all means that they want to be with you. Don't blow it, by thinking just because your lover has the looks of a model, that they'll leave you and play the field. I can't imagine wanting to have sex with multiple people. I just wish a few of my ex's didn't use my looks against me. It's annoying. You either handle it like grown adults, or find someone "ugly".

Forgot to mention [Oh shut up, you. You've talked ENOUGH today already] that I've sometimes liked guy's for for their looks, as much as they liked mine. I felt equal. I had no problem telling them I found them attractive. They didn't tell me to eff off . Though, we talked a lot, too. I just want a guy to feel honesty coming from me. Image isn't gonna decide for me who I end up in a relationship with. Right. I'm off to see my dr.

I think it is often the undefined partly because it is impossible to predict the path a relationship will take (unless of course one is wizard like technolove....lol) so we don;t know exactly what characteristics are going to make that journey successful

we may have some idea based on past experience but each new relationship will be unique - fortunately - given that the prior have not worked out for us (the exception there also, yes)

it is also the undefined because some do not know themselves that well yet. that is lifelong learning. it is hard to define what we want from a partner when we are still learning about the ourselves.

I think your comments were great. being attractive physically is not always easy....it's like having a lot of money


does he like me for my looks are is there (hopefully) more depth than that....??????????

brains any day.looks are nothing and don't last forever.too shallow if that's all you go for.i prefer a guy who can hold a decent convo.

It's all about whats inside.. a good heart, personality, considerate, and passionate about what he does and likes to do..I've always said (and its on my profile) looks not so important, whats inside is.. Sam Elliott, be still my heart...lol

If all someone is considering is looks, once they are gone the relationship is to. So brains is important.