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Topic: Sex
jacktrades Joined Tue 09/11/12 Posts: 4395	Sat 07/13/13 03:55 PM
Sex with love is never wrong.

Shy_Emo_chick Joined Fri 04/01/11 Posts: 4393	Sat 07/13/13 04:00 PM
Though just because I agree with it, it doesn't mean I sleep with someone on the very first date. I honour my own beliefs, so it's not my thing to give me body over easily to a guy. I have to feel I can trust him before any of that happens. A body isn't really just a body. I just have my own set of rules. One of my friend's, once got physically abused by her boyfriend. When she started dating other men, they thought she was stuck-up, until they knew why she didn't put-out so easily. It must be the new fashion saying abuse victims are prudes. Well unless they've witnessed it, people need to stop insulting victims. They are not PRUDES, SNOBS, or STUCK-UP. It's disgusting.

fineporcelain Joined Sun 11/19/06 Posts: 5745	Sat 07/13/13 04:04 PM
What about sex outside of marriage when there is some other factor. I struggle with it because my wife of thirty years had a stroke five years ago and is now disabled (more than just physically). She no longer knows me other than as her care giver. Wow.. what happened to your wedding vows? My wedding vows are intact. That is why I am asking. Is there a time when one partner is no longer able or capable ... Or is the healthy partner to remain celibate for the duration even if it is years. Yep! Are you sure that the one that has loved you through heaven and hell only knows you as her caregiver? Do you think that she is hurting as well as you are? Don't you think she is scared that since she cannot make love to you as she once did, you would go outside your marriage and get it and there is NOTHING she can do? She did not chose this path for her life. And I would think that you were nothing if you didn't stand by your wife faithfully until death do you part.

gsduhbess Joined Sun 06/10/12 Posts: 2	Sat 07/13/13 04:09 PM
Not wrong at all but I don't hate on people who do

ridewytepony Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 3697	Sat 07/13/13 06:32 PM
: What about sex outside of marriage when there is some other factor. I struggle with it because my wife of thirty years had a stroke five years ago and is now disabled (more than just physically). She no longer knows me other than as her care giver. Wow.. what happened to your wedding vows? My wedding vows are intact. That is why I am asking. Is there a time when one partner is no longer able or capable ... Or is the healthy partner to remain celibate for the duration even if it is years. Dude, it's inappropriate for a widow to re-marry immediately after, much less a husband to consider sex outside the marriage while their souse is still kickin! That's technically cheating if you go through with it. If your vows are still intact, freakin honor them. I second that! I don't know. If she now only knows you as her carer and doesn't think of you as her husband it's hard to see how it could possibly bother her. What do you think she would want you to do? I mean, when she was still the woman you married, if you had a conversation about whether it would be alright if this happened to her, what do you think she would have said? Would she have wanted you to be happy and would it make you happy to be with another woman? A sexless marriage is kind of a marriage in name only. {{{ I agree with twatstrat }} until you've walked a mile in one's shoes! my friends dad had a head injury when he was a teen, and was on strong medication for many years, leaving him impotent at an early age with no sexual desires. his mother was very acractive and admitted not have a sex life for 10 years and eventually took on a boyfriend that did move inn, in the end. As her husband's health deteriorated rapidly in his late 40s. she honored " til Death shall we part", after years of frustuation and unfulfillment, she looked after herself. she's entitled to a full life as well! her husbands passed, but she has been with the boyfriend for almost 20 years. were only human and we're subject to change! people change, the times change, situations change {{{♥ his name's odd Rod ~ not dead rod ♥ }}} no pun intented to the story~ or was there Rod is fine. I have seen and heard these kinds of stories. I have also seen the other side of people looking from the outside in and making their judgement. I know for a few years I had no desire at all. I was busy with recovery and rehabilitation. But there comes a time, when there is no recognition from her of what has been and no chance of rekindling something that was "never there" because she can not recall it and does not have the desire nor capacity to indulge in intimacy in the future ... Is it a falling out of love thing? Am I just bound by the duty and honor thing? Some have suggested that divorce is the proper way to go, still have a hand in her care, but leaving me able to do what I will with my life. That seems harsh. "that seems harsh" and so does firing people, but people are faced with these decisions all the time and it get easier, as its the best desition at the time. the only reason your still there is for what greets you out the door, and that's two emotions. guilt and shame, known to some as two useless emotions along with jealousy been the third. so lets break it down: identification: guilt is when you screw someone over! shame is when you screw youself over. so I think 99% of this is the guilt your would feel for leaving,but yet its not someone you longer love ask yourself this: if she was healthy and you no longer loved her would you seperate? (many seperate in love over betrayal) if you can honestly answer yes then that should be 99% of your problem fixed Many are faced with giving loved one's up for professional care(parents that we love ) its the circle of life. now as for as Shame goes, that's a double edged sword for you. so now we astadlished shame is screwing youself over you going to mainly feel that your cheating yourself out of life. then there's that breaking a comitment to another MAN MADE JAIL also know as marrage vows. you just draw a line down the middle of the paper *>>>>>>>>>>>>>Aggravators___________________________________________mitigators<<<<<<<<<< and add em up Rod, its just as easy as that《》and this is how we Rationalize Rod! quit wrestling with it! very Best,

odd_rod Joined Fri 07/05/13 Posts: 130	Sat 07/13/13 07:51 PM
quit wrestling with it! very Best, Thank you very much.

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Sat 07/13/13 08:12 PM Edited by KiK2me on Sat 07/13/13 08:14 PM
Sex I cannot tell a lie. I fck on the first date. ...But do you YODEL first ?

techknowlove Joined Mon 11/07/11 Posts: 6771	Sat 07/13/13 08:23 PM
IT IS WRONG!! Completely blasphemous. Hell exists for a reason!! I'm not that ^^ vehement about it but I do suppose it's wrong. ok ok geez some men are so fussy quitchur biotchin you can wear the belly dancing costume NEXT time sixth floor - high altitude hiatus 7th floor - grabd finale? please say you won't make me do it on the roof.... gurl, don't make me drop my pants

techknowlove Joined Mon 11/07/11 Posts: 6771	Sat 07/13/13 08:24 PM
Ground floor is ok finally someone who is sensible now leave those hoes alone sanjeev

erumoverseas Joined Thu 02/17/11 Posts: 3	Sun 07/14/13 07:43 AM
hello sexy want a friendship

erumoverseas Joined Thu 02/17/11 Posts: 3	Sun 07/14/13 07:45 AM
hello sexy you want a friendship with me

arkasali Joined Wed 07/10/13 Posts: 4	Sun 07/14/13 07:48 AM
Hi very true

1Cynderella Joined Mon 02/18/13 Posts: 2398	Sun 07/14/13 08:07 AM
It's only when we stray from our own moral standards that we see a thing as wrong, so this answer is too relative for a singular answer. Personally, it's wrong FOR ME to engage in sexual relations with someone I don't care deeply for. But that is my standard, because I feel anything less deminishes the value and anything more might eliminate the possibility altogether. i personally conduct myself in a way that is honouring of me And the one I am with ...For me, I only have sex inside of a nurturing, monogamous relationship. Not because I think it is wrong not to but because that is what feels honouring of me. But I won't decide what is right or wrong for someone else. It is a personal moral compass and choosing to honour yourself does not mean choosing to dishonour another. It's true...It's true! Great minds really DO think alike.

mem74 Joined Sun 07/07/13 Posts: 4	Sun 07/14/13 08:17 AM
: What about sex outside of marriage when there is some other factor. I struggle with it because my wife of thirty years had a stroke five years ago and is now disabled (more than just physically). She no longer knows me other than as her care giver. Wow.. what happened to your wedding vows? My wedding vows are intact. That is why I am asking. Is there a time when one partner is no longer able or capable ... Or is the healthy partner to remain celibate for the duration even if it is years. Dude, it's inappropriate for a widow to re-marry immediately after, much less a husband to consider sex outside the marriage while their souse is still kickin! That's technically cheating if you go through with it. If your vows are still intact, freakin honor them. I second that! I don't know. If she now only knows you as her carer and doesn't think of you as her husband it's hard to see how it could possibly bother her. What do you think she would want you to do? I mean, when she was still the woman you married, if you had a conversation about whether it would be alright if this happened to her, what do you think she would have said? Would she have wanted you to be happy and would it make you happy to be with another woman? A sexless marriage is kind of a marriage in name only.

mem74 Joined Sun 07/07/13 Posts: 4	Sun 07/14/13 08:23 AM
quit wrestling with it! very Best, Thank you very much. this brings on other problems. Where do u find a new woman who will agree to be used only for sex? What if both of u fall in love. then what? where do u meet to have the extramarital sex? What is your family going to think? Are u gonna tell the new woman about your wife? Are u going to feel guilty? Give it lots of thoughts.

odd_rod Joined Fri 07/05/13 Posts: 130	Sun 07/14/13 11:55 AM
quit wrestling with it! very Best, Thank you very much. this brings on other problems. Where do u find a new woman who will agree to be used only for sex? What if both of u fall in love. then what? where do u meet to have the extramarital sex? What is your family going to think? Are u gonna tell the new woman about your wife? Are u going to feel guilty? Give it lots of thoughts. All good questions. But the first "agreeing to be used only for sex", that is troubling. I think in my case I am looking for more that using someone for sex. I think intimacy, emotional as well as physical, is important to a relationship. Personally, I am upfront about my situation with my wife. I recognize that an intimate relationship can easily evolve into love. Family ... There is often conflict in a family when someone comes in to "replace" someone else. Divorce, death these are a part of life and each person struggles with how to deal with them in their own way. Is one way better than another? Sometimes we react in ways that seem very strange to others.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Sun 07/14/13 12:38 PM
Pre-marital sex: Right or wrong? Always right.

odd_rod Joined Fri 07/05/13 Posts: 130	Sun 07/14/13 01:08 PM
Pre-marital sex: Right or wrong? Always right. Nice to see someone sure of themselves.

KiK2me Joined Sun 01/06/13 Posts: 8732	Sun 07/14/13 01:21 PM
SEX ...Yes please ?

Niraj1520 Joined Tue 07/02/13 Posts: 2	Sun 07/14/13 01:42 PM
i luv sex