I am not big on online dating. Its nice to browse and send messages to people on here for free, unlike most sites, which charge. I am happy I found this site because its free, I plan on using it until something happens, ya know hopefully I would like to meet a nice guy.

I don't know. I am in the same situation. Perhaps I will meet cool people. Perhaps I will be disgusted by it. Either way at least I didn't spend money to find out it sucks.

Theres nothing wrong with it but just be careful

Good Luck!

Gotta say that I'm leaning with jackstraw69, it's free & can sucked. I've been on this site as well as eharmony (which cost me hundreds of dollars) & I am still searching. All I'm saying & this for the ladies as well as the men, just be very cautious when u first start dating. Mention to a family member or friend, where u r meeting, who u r meeting, where u met from & be honest, say online, say mingle or whatever(ladies if u don't return, they know exactly where to look on ur computer) leave a note on ur fridge or countertop if u can't tell anyone, make sure ur not followed home after ur date (I once mentioned my area like SE of the city & next thing I get msg's that he is drinking at the pub 2 blocks away from my house & the guy did this for a week, turns out he followed me home) not everyone u meet you will want in ur life.

Ya I know too, still hoping to meet s nice man.

I hope you don't mind a man putting his two cents into the pot.

I've done the online dating thing for over 7 years. Now, One might think that in 7 years you would meet lots of good people. Maybe even find someone to settle down with. In that 7 yrs I met only 4 women that really impressed me. They were the kind of women any decent man would want. We just didn't click.

That's 4 women out of the 50 or so that I tried to give a chance to. These women I tried to find at least one redeeming quality in. Most all I found were either nutty,goofy or weird acting or doing. Schizophrenics, or just plain off in the head,someone else throwaway.

And that's just the tip of the dating iceberg. I'll never forget the Jesus freak that told me that if I didn't quit my job (because I had to work on Sunday)I was going to die and go to he11. Since I know a little about the bible myself I told her,"The bible also says that if you have an OX in the ditch on the Sabbath to get it out." She went ape shyt. Started telling me that I was the devil incarnate.

I'm just telling it like it is. The straight truth of the matter is, Their is something about the internet that attracts every nutty person in the world. You will find that you will meet one every now and then that's OK. But, For every one that's OK, Their is a thousand others that are a few fries short of a happy meal. Internet dating sites are full of every kind of scammer you can think of. The only thing that internet dating sites have more of than scammers,Are the sex freaks.
That includes men and women.

After telling you all of this, I still haven't told you everything. If I did it would take me all night. I'll tell you this in closing.

I've seen several segments on my local news about how so many now are finding love on the net. I just really don't believe it. I don't believe the numbers they spout, I believe nothing about it. I think it's all a scam to get people to either buy a membership at some dating site,OR,Your free sites generate revenue by advertisements. The more people that join there sites the more money they make for every click on an advertisement. For them it's about the money. NOT matching lonesome people together.

opinions are going to differ but it's your life.live it how you want to and date how you want to.if you're ok with online dating,than that's all that matters

It's not easy to find women on dating sites that will actually meet that aren't at least a bit nutty. I've just come to expect them to tell me things about themselves when we meet that would put a lot of men off. But hey, they want to meet and don't act all paranoid about it, which seems normal to me compared to the ones that just want to exchange endless aimless emails.

I have met inperson off other Paid sites, but was always comfortable when I did and had nice dates. No love connection for Me, but I still have hope maybe not on here though.

Most sites like e-harmony charge just to see your matches, and if you want email and other stuff, they prolly charge more. What a scam. I feel bad you wasted alot of money for nothing. Hope you find the right person someday, hopefully sooner rather than later, good luck.

Ultimately its harder for a woman than a man to date online or in person. I am kinda old fashioned in the way that I would rather the guy ask me out, since the man should make the first move, in my opinion.

I think meeting someone online is contemporarily acceptable and normal.

Meeting through a dating site is less likely for you to find someone. Most, if not all, lie.

However meeting through other sites, like a hobby site you enjoy, a discussion group on a topic that interests you, writing sites, movie sites, heck quilting sites even...someplace where u may find a like minded soul is your best bet.

Work or school are places people would most likely
succeed in finding someone.


Taking a course may help. Doing charity work.
I'm placing my bets that I'll have a much
better chance doing those things, than on here.

Who's real? Who's fake?

Who thinks I'm real, and who think I'm a fake?

I feel disheartened really.

I'm sorry. I mean no disrespect. But, I can tell you haven't been around dating sites for long. For women, It's like shooting fish in a barrel. And I can prove it to you. I don't mean to spam, But Google POF if you don't already know about it. It's the largest free dating site on the net.

Men and women by the millions join that site everyday. I was there for 7 years. I use to hang around the forums there. I no longer do,But their is forum thread after thread about the messages that men write that go completely ignored.

I'm not trying to make this another whiny,"Why do my messages get ignored thread" At least on dating sites women have the upper hand. It's mens fault that they do. But that's another thread.

I am starting to think that most of the guys on here, not all, but a large portion of them are here just to get lucky. I don't understand how a man expects to talk to you 3 or 4 times and then want you to come and meet them. I am not talking across town, I am talking 1200 miles away.
I NEVER GIVE OUT MY HOME PHONE NUMBER, I use a track phone then that way they can not find my exact location. It is not fun being stalked and I now realized that to be smart...I started carrying a pistol.
So ladies be smart and be safe!! NEVER LEAVE HOME WITH OUT YOUR GUN!!

I think online dating is going to be interesting depending on how you feel about it and how serious the people involve are. why not give it a trial?

I would say online dating has worked for some people but so many kind of people have access to the Internet you have to be able to discern who is worthy of you. Who is serious and who is a manipulator ......

Using a site like this is just another way to meet people. It should never be anyone's only way of meeting people.

Personally, I think online dating has just as many ups and downs as meeting people in real life. There are plenty of people who never do online dating who are single and have been searching for years at a time even. Not everything is a guarantee, and the type of person you may be seeking just may not be there (or here) at that given moment you are looking.

I know one of the big critiques of online dating sites is that there are a ton of scammers online, as well as weirdos, perverts, stalkers, cheaters and all around loathsome individuals... however those same people have just as many offline clones as well which most fail to mention or seem to forget. It is not like you walk into a bookstore and every man and woman is wearing a sign that tells you whether to avoid them or not.

I really don't think dating sites are any better or worse than dating outside of them, they just allow all types of people from all over to congregate in one simple location, both for good and bad.

It's probably easier in person EVEN if you are super shy. Generally local is better too. No pesky travel distances.

The problem with online dating is that anyone can be anything online. At least 80% of online dating men are lying about at least one material fact.

I know a woman who has been on a very popular paid online dating site for three years. She has never had a single relationship. She has gone on dates, but the men she has met have been flakes and liars. Men will write in their profiles what women want to read; e.g., they're looking for a long term & exclusive relationship with the potential of marriage when what they really want is sex. My friend met a guy with such a profile. On their only "date" the topic of sex was broached, assuredly by him. She told him that she'll have sex only in a committed & exclusive relationship. He got up & walked out on her. She's still on that site but has yet to find a man. She has recently told me that she's approaching the reality that she won't find a relationship mostly due to her age (53).

Women who want a relationship confront the problem of more women than men on such sites. And most women are willing to have sex very early on in the dating process, sometimes of the first date. Women who wait run the risk of men moving on to women who will have sex very early, and there are a lot of women who will, either under the mistaken belief that sex will keep a man or for their physical needs.

The Internet has expanded the population of eligible women from which men can choose. Women have the same benefit. But from what I have been told, online dating has benefited men disproportionally. Some serially dating men have sex with many different women each week.

Finally, as was in the news recently, men can have sinister motives. Men have used online dating sites to intentionally infect women with STD's, primarily HIV. Google this for more info. It is truly sad and very scary. No man will ever tell a woman that he has an STD because the second he does he'll know that no woman will have sex with him.