Or the start of it becoming a proper relationship.

Let's face it, a lot of "dating relationships" start off like this. You aren't sure about each other but you get on and the sex is great.

I have had a couple and it has worked out great. Married for 25 yrs. sometimes I just want things wife won't do. It's fun, once feelings start it's over.

Everyone keeps talking about how once feelings start it's over, wouldn't it be easier to just hire an escort/prostitute? That way you know there won't be any feelings....or is it too much trouble to pay for meaningless sex?

Wow! The things we do to fullfill our needs

Well to be honest. It's about finding someone you can have just sex with no real feelings. With my wife it's all about being romantic and cuddling, guys just want to do it and go so a FWB is the best. One night stands work to but if you know the person you know they are clean. One of mine was married also for 13 years. Clean.

I hope that if I ever marry again that I have another faithful husband

Have tried it with this hottie who was in love with me 2/3 hr sex, 6 days a week Great but found at sex I wanted her gone! and she would just hang out, driving me nuts , We broke up for 6 months then got the call again was fun but after a month this time I said no more ! I need to love !!!!!!!!!!! the women I am dinging She is so pissed at me ? all i told she was enough is enough I dont love you babe and she freaked out so it DONT work for me and you will find if you are good @it its going to be a mess to get free Dont do it

Have tried it with this hottie who was in love with me 2/3 hr sex, 6 days a week Great but found at sex I wanted her gone! and she would just hang out, driving me nuts , We broke up for 6 months then got the call again was fun but after a month this time I said no more ! I need to love !!!!!!!!!!! the women I am dinging She is so pissed at me ? all i told she was enough is enough I dont love you babe and she freaked out so it DONT work for me and you will find if you are good @it its going to be a mess to get free Dont do it

Sex is never meaningless for me but I won't go with a hooker because they only really care about the money and will go with anybody.

As I understand it, "friends with benefits" is a genuine friendship and the feelings can be there from the start. These other guys may be talking about something else though.

It's dating. That's all it is but it's just that I've dated one or two women that gave me a lot of jazz about how they didn't want to get involved when I did. I don't go into these things just looking for sex but that's all that some women have been prepared to give me, or they couldn't make up their minds what they wanted.

What's a guy supposed to do? You are sitting on your own on a Saturday night and a girl that you've been seeing asks you if you want her to come over. She's not some hooker and it's not costing me money, although I'll make a girlfriend welcome in my home and offer her drinks and stuff.

The whole "casual relationship" thing is a load of crap really because unless you are an arsehole you can't just boot a girl out the door when you're finished screwing her. You have to take her calls and put up with her when she's being annoying. I'm not the one saying that I don't want to get involved. It's these bloody women.

It`s stupid. You only have sex with people you want to be together with in the long run.

I don't quite agree with that. It takes time to get to know somebody properly and you can't really know how you feel about a longterm relationship with them until you do. I'm not religious and I don't have a problem with sex before marriage. All I can say is that I go into these things with good intentions and sorry but I do actually enjoy sex. I don't mess women about and I don't do one night stands. What works for me may not work for someone else but they do come back for more if I have sex with them and if you are any good as a lover feelings develop.

Just spent the Summer seeing a girl that I did really like and thought that I might possibly have a future with. The sex was great and we got on pretty well. It was romantic but the girl had problems and I think that because we did have that intimacy and she was falling for me she just couldn't handle the emotions. Well, I can and I'm not the one that's messed up in the head because I want a girlfriend that I don't just hold hands with until I've decided that I want to spend the rest of my life with her.

By meaningless sex, I guess I meant random sex. And most of the time random sex doesn't lead to anything good. I suggested paying for it, because at least that way there's no expectations of anything else. Otherwise, even when both people agree that it will be "just sex" someone never fails to muck it up. Someone gets attached or gets jealous or wants more, or something. In theory, sure let's just sleep together and go our separate ways and no one gets hurt sounds good, but it rarely happens. Those damned human emotions, you know....

in your case its a good thing I would like u to be attached and stick around

Well, I wasn't talking about "random sex", in the sense that anybody will do. I didn't date anybody for five years after I broke up with my ex until I decided to give this a go again. Met a girl that I clicked with and we chatted for a long time before she would finally meet me. She sort of led me on but she did say that she wasn't really ready for anything serious. So, I told her that we would just have a good time together and I took her out on proper dates, as well as shagging her. Then she started giving me mixed messages and made out that it might be more than a fling.

Well, I've learned my lesson and I don't go with women that only want sex anymore but it's not that simple because there are a lot of women out there that are players, believe me. Some of them just don't know what they want.

I don't regret the time that I spent with those girls and it wasn't all about the sex. The last one that I met even told me that she wanted to settle down and I had to put up with her not calling me for weeks and then phoning out of the blue and wanting to see me. I told her that it was early days and if I pressured her and complained that I didn't like being f**ked about I wouldn't have had the good times with her that I did and it definetely wouldn't have led to a proper relationship.

She was the one that was random and she even told me that she was like that. She said that she wasn't just looking for no-strings sex though, so I did have sex with her and I did get to know her as a person. Well, it looks like it hasn't worked out for me again but it wasn't my fault and like with any person that you date and like when it doesn't work out, you just have to say to yourself that at least you had a nice time and met an interesting person.

Good way to view it, I'm working on reaching that place with all of my decisions, at least I had a good time while it lasted....

God. I get so sick of people jumping down others throats for wanting something different. Deal with it or get out. Who cares about who wants what? Either way, it's that persons decision. End of.

Then that's just the Benefits without the friends,
she's wanting something and you want to be f_ _ _ _ _ and forgotten for a while.

I like that,in most cases because usually they're
not friends

The last one left right away,it was our third time
together and as she was going out the door I said
f_ _ _ ya latter lol,then the little garbage can
in the hotel was sitting on the chair by the door,
she knocked it off,picks it up thinking I throw it
at her I almost wore the whole thing in bed.
I couldn't believe she thought I would throw garbage at her,I was happy with her.
she knocked on the door,laid with me then left.
Just like a pro on a mission without the money.

That just sounds bad.

I have been friends with these girls that were my ex-girlfriends bi-friends. For about 4 years. I have had some wild times. But what's wrong with spending money. On dinner gas or whatever. You guys that cheap. Taking out two ladies cost twice as much as one.

It might seem okay, but when it starts it gets deep. You tend to get feelings deeper than friendship and then it ruins it all

Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. Never again. No matter how many times you deny it, "no strings attached" still has soul ties. Any time you open yourself sexually you take on what the other person has been emotionally/spiritually carrying. Let alone how do you know that person is being faithful to you. How many people has that person been with before you. Stds can go dormant. This means no signs physically shown or experienced. Even being tested one time is not good enough. Unless you are getting tested every six months you are not clear. Just to inform you that sex is not just sex. There are always some sort of attachments