you should knw eachother bettr before sleeping...

Well, if your feelings for it is tryin' to strangle you,just go on and do it :) no point observin' some datin' rules that can't change who you really are....

If it only takes a few drinks and a few hours,then
is that not a red flag to you guys?
If your both looking for a relationship I would
want to here "I want to, but I like you lot
how she conducts herself that night may be the,
make it or break it moment in the future.
Many would not look at the woman that put out right
away as girlfriend material.
It is a double standard but I work away a lot
and would not start a relationship with that start.

Yes most definately...

Nope, if she was up for the cup fair enough. Some guys on here might deny it, but if it was put on a plate in front of you it would be a different story, I bet?

I don't see why someone should feel bad for deciding to have sex on the first date.

You're judging women based on when they decide to have sex? Does not putting out make someone better relationship material? Why?

It may or may not....To me, "putting out" is the same a f*cking...It's about satisfaction only....Could be physical satisfaction or gratification, could be a desire or need to please, could be a result of low or no self-esteem...Point is, it's probably for all the wrong reasons and has the potential, in SOME cases, to involve both medical and emotional risks....On the other hand, I totally believe it is possible to make love on the first date and that doing so will not have a negative effect on the chances for developing a long term relationship...The trick is to know yourself well enough to know exactly what you are doing and why you are doing it....On a first date, stay sober and stay tuned in so you can make decisions based on what is best for you, not your date...Guys who partake and then judge need not apply.....

You're not going to know someone else's reasoning for sex on the first date unless you ask them. If someone wants to **** on the first date and they have a willing partner, it's their choice to do so.

Not if she wants it. What the heck we all want it.

I'm not talking about someone else...My post reflects my feelings about the question....And, I agree, it's personal choice...

Wow I got quoted a lot this thread lol. Now let me clear a few things up since my post was so popular to get rid of some misconceptions. I won't do it if I don't think shes sober enough to make a proper decision. That "is" something I would feel guilty about. I don't wanna do it after drinking anyway since it hinders a mans performance anyway. Alcohol thins the blood you know and I wouldn't want her first impression of me to be like shoving a marshmallow into a coin slot.

Second. Why should I think any less of her? We are both consenting adults and would she think any less of me because of it? It goes both ways. I try and treat others how I wish to be treated. I'm not going to hold a woman to a double standard I wouldn't want her to hold me to.

The sexual revolution that took place in this country happened some forty or fifty years ago now people need to stop being such tight wads and get with the times. Sex isn't something to feel guilty about its something almost every species on the planet does. I say almost every species cause their are some asexual species who reproduce without intercourse.

I also think you can make love on a first date. Has happened before. Sometimes it just feels right and thats part of what makes it effing awesome. You can learn an awful lot about a person during sex by what kind of a lover they are. You get to see a side of a person that is "naked" so to speak. How one reacts to certain stimuli when making love will show you the "real" them. Once the clothes are off so are the masks we hide behind. You can find out how selfish or how giving someone can be. Much like test driving a car before you buy it. I know thats not the greatest analogy but think about it. Both are investments so to speak and investing my heart is more important to me than investing my money.

Thank you this has been another long winded rant by Lionsbrew. You may now return to your regularly schedule programs.

I think it's time we all slip into something more comfortable.

Got my drink and chips, ok continue.

Oh and BTW

You folks should be thankful that there are some guys and gals who take the time to be honest with you.

We always talk about dishonesty, but when a person is straight up about the views they have, we jump on them or start our word twisting without taking the time to explore that they were freely giving us insights to the same things we have either done and don't want to say, or have thought about (or maybe not).

I for one like and respect all the different views whether I feel the same or not and I also think the openess of mingle goes way beyond many other sites.

Sometimes you can't control who you're physically attracted to. A few times I've looked at some men thinking "I would" ;) lol

This depends upon the mind of the girl. If she is agree then its ok.

If she slipped me a Mickey I wouldn't feel bad about sleeping.

Depends on their mind set and their wish to do so

> Would you feel guilty if you slept with a girl on your first date?


I'm not sure. I'd probably ask myself how the heck I ended up in bed with my dates girlfriend.

Not really, life is too short to deny ourselves love