I wish I could say that my experience on the web has been great, on the contrary it has been disappointing and heartbreaking. Deception and dishonesty runs rampant here, people aren't who they say they are and the game playing is simply amazing! I guess it wouldn't bother me so much if people didn't present themselves as genuine and sincere. What attracts you to an ad? You see that there are common interests but more importantly the person placing the ad states that they are "honest, sincere, good sense of humour", etc. More often than not I have found that it is just a way to get you to send photos to them and perhaps their hoping for the opportunity to exchange some juicy email. As an older person what surprises me most is that most of the game playing is done by men in their 50's and 60's, you would think by the time they reach that age they would be mature. They lie about everything, I had the experience with someone who presented themselves as single and after months of letter exchanging, my letters were intervened by his wife. This was shocking and depressing as I was in the process of flying to Norway to meet him. I wish someone could explain to me why men feel it necessary to play with someone's emotions? I have always been honest, upfront, kind, loving, etc., but what do I get in return, the smiling faces that stab you in the back. Further, why can't men say what they really want? If all they want is a BJ, then Damn it, say it! If all they want is a F----, then be man enough to say it! If they're not interested in a long term relationship then why place the ad under that category? There is no such thing as "love at first sight" or falling in love on the web without actually spending time with someone in person. The web affords people the ability to connect with people they otherwise may never have the opportunity to do so. There have been fairytale moments reported by people who have been fortunate to have made a love connection and I applaud them. But I would really like to hear from people who have had similar experiences, maybe a support group is in order, I don't know. Maybe there is someone out there who can tell me not to give up, maybe someone has an answer for what goes on here. All I can say is this is indeed a web that can entangle you.....don't get caught up!

the people you meet on the net are the same people that you would meet on the street but there are also more liars because they have a chance to build a rapore without meeting you face to face. you have to be careful but the right people are out there. i hope your next experience makes up for all the bad ones.

Yeah I also hope your next experience is better then your last ones have been.

It happens to both men and women my conclusion is that this is a place for some to hide while pretending to look for someone special. I am not sure who they are lying to more us or themselves. My guess is themselves and we, those would be truly be interested in meeting somebody are just used to and tossed before any meeting ever really happens.

I have started having so much better luck finding people the traditional. Bars, friends, neighbors, family, etc and the online stuff is but a small part if the search to eliminate loneliness.

Elegantlady - I feel your pain. I have been made several contacts with men on other sights, everything is good until it's time to meet and then "poof" they disappear or you meet them and they are not who they said they were. My point is no matter how you go about meeting people you will always find the slimy creep liars that taint our veiws on everyone else. I for one am too trusting and too nice. But I would not be any other way as this is me. Good luck and dont let the bad apples stop you in your search. There are good apples out there, somethimes you just have to dig to find one.

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Elegantlady....I understand what you are saying.....it's too easy for people to hide behind a screen and tell you what they think you want to hear....I don't understand why other feel compeled to play with peoples emotions. Keep in mind that there are some very fine people out there you just have to weed through the bull**** to find them......

iRon.......you are so right!

they play with your emotions because they couldn't get you interested in them if they were to be theirselves. don't make it right but it's true.

the net has been a real bad place to try and find love
just friend s for me i wont jump through hoops no more if im gonna meet miss right it will be face to face love is cyber space is a bust

I HATE PLAYERS AND FAKES...if you want to play,,,,THEN TELL EVERYONE,,HEY I JUST WANT A FK AND NOTHING MORE.....

Elegant, YOU are right, but,,NOT just men,,ALOT of women to are fake people, its not the sex, its just BAD RAISED PEOPLE...

So many people CAN'T TELL THEIR TRUTH....WHY???????

the funny thing is that if they did just come right out and say i just want to **** they would probably get what they were looking for quicker and wouldn't have to keep up the charrade. i think they just might be retarded and don't realize it.

You don't need to give up; just toughen up. Get some new boundaries for when you talk to guys online. I am setting new boundaries. I think you have spent too much emotional and psychological energy without getting anything back, and that's why you are so fed up. So. . .

How many e-mails do you give them to loosen up before you decide they are boring? How long in between e-mails are you willing to go (do they have to write you daily, weekly, etc.?) How long are you willing to e-mail someone before you talk to them on the phone? And how long are those e-mails? Do you write really long e-mails and they don't return in kind?

I used to talk to guys for hours on the phone after we e-mailed long enough to know we wanted to talk. No more! It's a big waste of time! Now they are on a time limit of 15 minutes, and a few 15 minute phone calls before we decide to meet.

If they break the first date, even if they give me notice, that's the end of them.

Woman up, and you'll be fine.