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Topic: Take A Hint
JazmineSmith's photo
Mon 12/02/13 09:42 PM
Why am i always hit on by the boys i never....
What about no dont you get!!?!

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Mon 12/02/13 09:46 PM
Some people are just pushy. It's annoying.

JazmineSmith's photo
Mon 12/02/13 09:47 PM
Its mostly pushy people and old perves.. why are they even talking to me?!?

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Mon 12/02/13 09:54 PM
They're idiots. If they're emailing you, you can restrict your mail settings so people of a certain age can't get through. They can still friend request though, unfortunately.

JazmineSmith's photo
Mon 12/02/13 10:04 PM
And if that doesn't work ill just deactivate my account.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Tue 12/03/13 02:16 AM
Or simply delete the messages. If you reply you get the arguments because they think they got one foot in the door.
Don't bother replying, delete, accept that you will get x amount of that kind of stuff, but there's also nice and good ones and you will have a good time here.

FLIGHTPHOENIX's photo
Tue 12/03/13 02:42 AM
oh yeah i'll feeling you they are so pushy errrrrrr not cool stalkers:wink: flowerforyou

TawtStrat's photo
Tue 12/03/13 06:54 AM
"Oh no, men are interested in me".

How terrible. My heart bleeds for you.

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Tue 12/03/13 06:58 AM

And if that doesn't work ill just deactivate my account.


maybe try adjusting your age settings as someone else ahs suggested, and delete/block - the site is set up so that you can customize to some extent the messages you receive.

Even better though, if u aren't getting the messages YOU want, try sending a few to the type of men that interest you. just a thought.waving

rko712's photo
Tue 12/03/13 12:46 PM

"Oh no, men are interested in me".

How terrible. My heart bleeds for you.
well if its guys that are old enough to be her dad...thats a little messed up. She Is young. Give her a break.

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Tue 12/03/13 12:57 PM


"Oh no, men are interested in me".

How terrible. My heart bleeds for you.
well if its guys that are old enough to be her dad...thats a little messed up. She Is young. Give her a break.


:thumbsup:

lionsbrew's photo
Tue 12/03/13 01:12 PM
It doesn't just happen to you gals. Some of us guys get it too.

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Tue 12/03/13 01:13 PM

It doesn't just happen to you gals. Some of us guys get it too.


Really? Old creepy women nudge, request, add you on their favorites list and send weird emails? I didn't know that...

TawtStrat's photo
Tue 12/03/13 02:15 PM


"Oh no, men are interested in me".

How terrible. My heart bleeds for you.
well if its guys that are old enough to be her dad...thats a little messed up. She Is young. Give her a break.


What exactly's messed up about it and how come you apparently have to be "old" to be a perv? Getting a bit sick of all of the agist comments around here.

Also, what do you expect if you come on a dating site and say that you're ready to settle down at eighteen and call yourself a "housewife in training"? I read her profile and thought that it was rather rude to say how she would block anyone over twenty one. That's like a red rag to a bull for a troll.

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Tue 12/03/13 02:23 PM
How is it rude if she doesn't want to talk to anyone over 21? She has a right to not want to talk to whoever she wants. I have mail filters on my page, too, and screw anyone who doesn't like it.

And as for what you expect from a dating site, so should 18 year old men expect for me to be hitting on them? I'm 40 years old, I have no interest in talking to an 18 year old. He has a right to expect to be left alone by people old enough to be his mother and so does this young woman.

I guess it's weird to expect some people to stay in their own damned lane.noway

yellowrose10's photo
Tue 12/03/13 02:27 PM
Mail settings and the block button

TawtStrat's photo
Tue 12/03/13 02:51 PM

How is it rude if she doesn't want to talk to anyone over 21? She has a right to not want to talk to whoever she wants. I have mail filters on my page, too, and screw anyone who doesn't like it.

And as for what you expect from a dating site, so should 18 year old men expect for me to be hitting on them? I'm 40 years old, I have no interest in talking to an 18 year old. He has a right to expect to be left alone by people old enough to be his mother and so does this young woman.

I guess it's weird to expect some people to stay in their own damned lane.noway


Sorry, didn't realise that you were making the rules about who people should be talking to on dating sites.

It's really not about rights and your argument is absurd. Like saying that white people should only date white people. I've got the "right" to message any damned woman that I want on here. What I don't have a right to is a reply.

And yes, I think that it's rude. Would you think that it was alright if I put "no blacks", or "no fat chicks", or "nobody over thirty" on my profile? What's the difference if I'm just saying what I do and do not want, putting aside the fact that you seem to have appointed yourself as spokesperson for the moral majority?

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Tue 12/03/13 03:03 PM


How is it rude if she doesn't want to talk to anyone over 21? She has a right to not want to talk to whoever she wants. I have mail filters on my page, too, and screw anyone who doesn't like it.

And as for what you expect from a dating site, so should 18 year old men expect for me to be hitting on them? I'm 40 years old, I have no interest in talking to an 18 year old. He has a right to expect to be left alone by people old enough to be his mother and so does this young woman.

I guess it's weird to expect some people to stay in their own damned lane.noway


Sorry, didn't realise that you were making the rules about who people should be talking to on dating sites.

It's really not about rights and your argument is absurd. Like saying that white people should only date white people. I've got the "right" to message any damned woman that I want on here. What I don't have a right to is a reply.

And yes, I think that it's rude. Would you think that it was alright if I put "no blacks", or "no fat chicks", or "nobody over thirty" on my profile? What's the difference if I'm just saying what I do and do not want, putting aside the fact that you seem to have appointed yourself as spokesperson for the moral majority?


Personally I think it's kinder to say those things on your profile, to weed out people you don't want, and to save on hurt feelings later, and prevent people from wasting their time. You don't have to be a dick about it, but you can be honest.

If I was the sort who went around emailing random men, I'd appreciate them putting certain restrictions on their profile, so I don't make the mistake of bothering them. But since I let men email me, I'm courteous enough to them and myself, to limit who can contact me. Yesterday I rejected several friend requests from men I have no interest in knowing, which shouldn't have been necessary, if they had read my profile, they would have known that requesting me was a waste of their time.

I don't have a problem with people only dating certain races or certain ages, it's not my business. And I'm not the authority of anything, I wish I was, a lot of changes would be made.laugh

I don't know why people are so bothered by rejection, not everyone is going to like you. It's not bad if you don't date certain races or certain ages, or certain body types. I guess I just don't get this new society where we do things, we just don't talk about them. Most people do have a "type" of person they're interested in, but it's become a "thing" to cite the mantra, "We're all the same, looks, age, race, etc, doesn't matter, it's about people. It's what's on the inside that counts."

I think that's ********. Look around in the world, no one is living that ****, but if you talk about it, you're racist, or ageist, or anti-fat or you hate certain groups of people. I have much more respect for a guy who openly admits what he's not into, instead of the bleeding heart liberal who spouts the en vogue platitudes of the day then goes off and lives like a damned hypocrite, content that he's not racist or homophobic or ageist or whatever, simply because of his conversation. I think those people are pathetic. JMO

Lost_in_reverie's photo
Tue 12/03/13 03:16 PM
Edited by Lost_in_reverie on Tue 12/03/13 03:17 PM
I'm going with the line that if the young lady has specifically stated her preferences on who she wants to talk to or be involved in, then men should respect that and move on if they don't 'fit'. You're only wasting your time if it's clear your messages aren't wanted. Though I'm going with the other comments that she's best altering her settings to prevent them from contacting her, if she doesn't want them to.

That said, yes, you do have a right to message who you want but you can't expect a person to look on you favourably when you've ignored their preferences.

I don't give a flying **** how young or old people are, what race, blah blah blah. That's not the point. The point is, it's not what she wants and it sounds like the thought of someone old enough to be her dad approaching her (most likely with sex on the brain) creeps her out. As it would me, if that's their intention. I don't mind an older guy, but old enough to be my dad is pushing the boat for me.

Each to their own though.

TawtStrat's photo
Tue 12/03/13 03:19 PM



How is it rude if she doesn't want to talk to anyone over 21? She has a right to not want to talk to whoever she wants. I have mail filters on my page, too, and screw anyone who doesn't like it.

And as for what you expect from a dating site, so should 18 year old men expect for me to be hitting on them? I'm 40 years old, I have no interest in talking to an 18 year old. He has a right to expect to be left alone by people old enough to be his mother and so does this young woman.

I guess it's weird to expect some people to stay in their own damned lane.noway


Sorry, didn't realise that you were making the rules about who people should be talking to on dating sites.

It's really not about rights and your argument is absurd. Like saying that white people should only date white people. I've got the "right" to message any damned woman that I want on here. What I don't have a right to is a reply.

And yes, I think that it's rude. Would you think that it was alright if I put "no blacks", or "no fat chicks", or "nobody over thirty" on my profile? What's the difference if I'm just saying what I do and do not want, putting aside the fact that you seem to have appointed yourself as spokesperson for the moral majority?


Personally I think it's kinder to say those things on your profile, to weed out people you don't want, and to save on hurt feelings later, and prevent people from wasting their time. You don't have to be a dick about it, but you can be honest.

If I was the sort who went around emailing random men, I'd appreciate them putting certain restrictions on their profile, so I don't make the mistake of bothering them. But since I let men email me, I'm courteous enough to them and myself, to limit who can contact me. Yesterday I rejected several friend requests from men I have no interest in knowing, which shouldn't have been necessary, if they had read my profile, they would have known that requesting me was a waste of their time.

I don't have a problem with people only dating certain races or certain ages, it's not my business. And I'm not the authority of anything, I wish I was, a lot of changes would be made.laugh

I don't know why people are so bothered by rejection, not everyone is going to like you. It's not bad if you don't date certain races or certain ages, or certain body types. I guess I just don't get this new society where we do things, we just don't talk about them. Most people do have a "type" of person they're interested in, but it's become a "thing" to cite the mantra, "We're all the same, looks, age, race, etc, doesn't matter, it's about people. It's what's on the inside that counts."

I think that's ********. Look around in the world, no one is living that ****, but if you talk about it, you're racist, or ageist, or anti-fat or you hate certain groups of people. I have much more respect for a guy who openly admits what he's not into, instead of the bleeding heart liberal who spouts the en vogue platitudes of the day then goes off and lives like a damned hypocrite, content that he's not racist or homophobic or ageist or whatever, simply because of his conversation. I think those people are pathetic. JMO


Oh really? But you seem to have moved from a "most people" statement to a "nobody does this statement". It's false anyway. Plenty of people date outside of their race, or generation, or are attracted to people that other people think that they shouldn't be dating.

Who are these hypocrites? I don't have a problem with guys dating girls young enough to be their daughters and I've even done it to prove it.

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