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Topic: I don't understand why I can't get an intimate encounter.
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Sun 12/08/13 03:23 PM
I've offered myself to the entire female population but for some reason they aren't giving themselves to me.

What's going on?

Lost_in_reverie's photo
Sun 12/08/13 03:29 PM

I've offered myself to the entire female population but for some reason they aren't giving themselves to me.

What's going on?


I don't think that this site covers the "entire female population", even if it is public. Maybe you should extend your hunting ground...

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Sun 12/08/13 03:35 PM

vd, herpes, aids, pregnancy, self esteem, morality....




Im the one thats usually suprised when they WILL go for the ie's.


That's where condoms come in, kitten (no pun intended). Self-esteem and morality are very much a personal thing though.

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Sun 12/08/13 03:40 PM
I might as well change it to dating instead since all you women are such spoil sports. You say you want truth but there is no incentive in telling the truth. That's why men just tell you what you want to hear.

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Sun 12/08/13 03:43 PM
Edited by Dodo_David on Sun 12/08/13 03:44 PM

I've offered myself to the entire female population but for some reason they aren't giving themselves to me.

What's going on?


They don't want to lower their standards? :tongue:

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sun 12/08/13 03:47 PM
I've offered myself to the entire female population but for some reason they aren't giving themselves to me.

What's going on?

The same thing basically that was going on the last time you asked this question. Which was ... lemme guestimate ... 3 days ago?



I might as well change it to dating instead since all you women are such spoil sports. You say you want truth but there is no incentive in telling the truth. That's why men just tell you what you want to hear.

Right ... and women don't? I was asked earlier on tonight what I was wearing. I lied through my teeth
shades

Happened to talk about this with a friend tonight as she got asked by a guy "what do you wear at night"
Doh ... High heels, full make-up, stockings, garter-belt and a sexy bustier. What else? No need to ask, self-explanatory, ain't it?!
(I mean, get real!)

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Sun 12/08/13 03:48 PM

So many assume that condoms are 100% failsafe. Dont be that gal.

Just offering possibilities in reply to his confusion.


I'm very much aware of how they're not 100% safe (I believe it's 97%/98% depending on where you get your figures from, and only if used correctly). I also use the pill so, if I do decide to go down that route, I know I've reduced the chance of pregnancy. In terms of STIs, before sex with a guy, I've expected them to have been tested.

That's just me though. I know not everyone is that careful but I'm very proud of my sexual health and won't be taking the leap unless I'm sure I can trust the guy to be safe, even if it's casual.

I think that's really a matter of mutual respect though. You can get people in long-term relationships with far worse sexual histories than those who "sleep around". I know people who have caught diseases from their long-term partners, but others who have had unprotected sex with a stranger and been none the worse for wear. Not that I'm advocating, merely stating what I know to be the experiences of others or myself.

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Sun 12/08/13 03:57 PM

I might as well change it to dating instead since all you women are such spoil sports.


And the fox was correct when he said that the grapes were sour. indifferent

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Sun 12/08/13 04:10 PM

We arent talking about you. We're talking about the intimate encounter folk. He's just asking why no luck. Im only offering possibilities, for him to consider. You said, "That's where condoms come in, kitten (no pun intended)." Im pointing out that condoms are not the answer for an ie. He has much to worry about as do his potential partners.


If you have been involved in an intimate encounter would that mean you are part of this "intimate encounter folk" group? In my opinion, IE are still possible with mutual respect. I have tried it, not my thing for the most part, but I acknowledge there may be times when I do want to go for it.

I'm still inclined to believe that morality or self-esteem doesn't come into it. It's often just based on what a person feels they need or want at the time. It's just a matter of preference.

It may be the case on this site he's unsuccessful (and possibly for the reasons you describe, or maybe just simply as he's too public about it? Some people like discretion), but there are plenty of places out there where such encounters do take place with very little concern, it would seem.

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Sun 12/08/13 04:18 PM

I've offered myself to the entire female population but for some reason they aren't giving themselves to me.

What's going on?

Well, spanky, your profile states you have
no interest in chatting with a woman.

Since women get a 'feel' for a guy through
chatting, why would you expect anything to
follow without it?

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Sun 12/08/13 04:22 PM


I've offered myself to the entire female population but for some reason they aren't giving themselves to me.

What's going on?

Well, spanky, your profile states you have
no interest in chatting with a woman.

Since women get a 'feel' for a guy through
chatting, why would you expect anything to
follow without it?


Spanky.

rofl

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Sun 12/08/13 04:31 PM
The only thing that is fail-safe is joining the convent and not having sex.

Testing can be handy, but testing before having sex? So you wait 3 months with sex? And then still fingers crossed he didn't sleep with anyone else in those three months otherwise the test is rather pointless.
Basically most comes down to trust.
I think it makes more sense to have a test before having sex without a condom.

As for intimate encounters, you gotta use common sense. And yeah, you got to be careful, sure it can be a risk, but life itself is a risk.

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Sun 12/08/13 04:36 PM
Alright blondie. I'll be economical with the truth and see how that works.

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Sun 12/08/13 04:45 PM
Edited by Lost_in_reverie on Sun 12/08/13 04:46 PM

The only thing that is fail-safe is joining the convent and not having sex.

Testing can be handy, but testing before having sex? So you wait 3 months with sex? And then still fingers crossed he didn't sleep with anyone else in those three months otherwise the test is rather pointless.
Basically most comes down to trust.
I think it makes more sense to have a test before having sex without a condom.

As for intimate encounters, you gotta use common sense. And yeah, you got to be careful, sure it can be a risk, but life itself is a risk.


Didn't work for Mary... XD She missed out the convent part though.

I've not known test results to be longer than a week, aside from AIDs/HIV, though I guess we're working on the assumption that diseases have had time to make themselves known. I don't tend to practice without a condom whatever the case though. As you say, it all does come down to trust though. Not something I'm so keen to do on a whim but I'm not going to knock anyone who does.

@red6mist: I actually find the truth far more refreshing. It may not get you the results you want all the time, but isn't it better the people who do want you know what you want rather than people getting all crazy because you've messed them about? The guy I was involved with wasn't a particularly good looking chap, but he was honest and respectful. Never seemed to have an issue getting laid. He was also a great conversationalist so you felt he was quite content in your company, even if it was short-lived. Didn't bother me.

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Sun 12/08/13 05:21 PM

Didn't work for Mary... XD She missed out the convent part though.


Well, she probably did have sex: in the old days being a virgin meant you had never been pregnant, not that you hadn't had sex.

Lost_in_reverie's photo
Sun 12/08/13 05:24 PM


Well, she probably did have sex: in the old days being a virgin meant you had never been pregnant, not that you hadn't had sex.


I believe the song "I predict a riot" may be quite appropriate here... haha.

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Sun 12/08/13 05:24 PM

I've offered myself to the entire female population but for some reason they aren't giving themselves to me.

What's going on?

I don't know. Must be just another one of lifes great mysteries.ohwell

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Sun 12/08/13 05:30 PM



Well, she probably did have sex: in the old days being a virgin meant you had never been pregnant, not that you hadn't had sex.


I believe the song "I predict a riot" may be quite appropriate here... haha.

Lol. I'm an angel. Don't kill the messenger ... :angel:

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Sun 12/08/13 05:31 PM
With shocking news like this, why do we even have a politics section?


But I love to help. My advice, look into SETI... it may be your final hope.

Lost_in_reverie's photo
Sun 12/08/13 05:34 PM


Lol. I'm an angel. Don't kill the messenger ... :angel:


Would I? :O

I'm actually picturing Alan Rickman as Metatron in Dogma... do you have genitals? Granted I'm aware how personal a question it is, and I certainly don't mean to make a mockery of you, but I'm curious! XD


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