I have a problem with controlling my temper,m a very nice person,very quiet @ times,m caring but when i get angry there's no stopping me... I get seriously worked up by small things that when m calm they sound silly bt aren't when m angry,i've been like this since my childhood do one outgrow this or what else must i d,any advice?

Have you tried therapy?

You could have an issue you don't understand and therapy could help bring that out. If you can't or don't want to do therapy then I would suggest that when you start feeling angry that you take a step back. Go for a walk. Chop some wood. Get a large box, if you want draw a face on it and just start beating the crap out of it and yelling at it. Even if you're yelling about nothing at first. You may find that what is really making you mad will come out.

Those are just some suggestions.

Put your anger to use, when your that angry do some pushups see how you feel after.....or try writing a letter about it , when your all calm read it.

Very good advice Lowrange!...Channel it into something constructive...

1) Identify the source.
2) Take responsibility for it.
3) Recognize you are the cause of it.
4) Make a plan for when next it happens.
5) Understand it hurts you most.

Porsche, print this (2 copies)...Tape one onto the refrigerator door and one onto the bathroom mirror...Good luck baby....

Thanks wil try al of that,nah haven't tried therapy cos i dnt even know what m gna say 2 the therapist cause don't understand it myself

thanks LowRange wil try writing how i feel down

thank you SofieHere wil try all d advice m given

Awww thanks Leigh wil do that,much appreciated

You could go in for a consult and from that a therapist could get an idea as to what the problem is. But I think all the suggestions given have been pretty good ones and I think as long as you leave what is making you mad when it starts. you can probably learn to manage your anger. The key is going to be knowing when to walk away.

I wish you luck on this and don't get discouraged.

Thank you izzy wil try them al out n if they stil don't work wil make n appointment with the therapist... Thanks once more,yea il try not b discouraged

Thank you izzy wil try them al out n if they stil don't work wil make n appointment with the therapist... Thanks once more,yea il try not b discouraged

Find those Mountain Dew stealing alien soabs and kick them all in the face 1,000 times.
That always helps.
Just make sure to drink lots of Mountain Dew before you do it.

Patient distress is the greatest descriptor of a medical problem, ie. that you could be dealing with some kind of biochemistry imbalance.

In terms of self diagnosis you're basically describing a pathological behaviour which causes you distress. This is pretty much the textbook description of a medical problem.

Consult a clinical psychologist, therapist or a general practitioner who can give you a local referral. Make sure they're qualified before you hand over cash or accept treatment, there are scammers wherever there's money. Clinical support therapy is big business, homeopaths and everybody tries to get in on the action, some are dangerous.

It could indeed also be a medical thing, i.e. lacking some hormonal substance in the brain that can be corrected by medicine.

It can however, also be a childhood trauma causing this. Difficult to tell. Indeed seeing a proper psychologist might give you insight in what's at play, medical or not.

As for the list
1) Identify the source.
2) Take responsibility for it.
3) Recognize you are the cause of it.
4) Make a plan for when next it happens.
5) Understand it hurts you most.

Nr 1 is the source that first caused this, so not the situation / person that makes you angry now.
Mostly the source of these issues is to be found in (very early) childhood. Meaning you will probably have to dig deep, and sometimes we cannot remember. Maybe you remember how old you were when you first felt this way.

Doesn't mean you're a nutcase, could be that you had the normal toddler tantrums but it wasn't properly dealt with by your parents, causing anger issues. (just an example, not saying this is it)

In all cases seeing a professional can help you out and also ascertain whether it's medical or not.

Good luck

Anger control is a CHOICE.

Do you realize that when you get angry, you give control of yourself to SOMEONE ELSE.

Question, if you learned how to control your bladder, WHY NOT learn to grow up MORE & learn to control your anger?

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I learned.

Sage

Thanks everyone for all the advice given though some were harsh but an eye opener at the same m glad to let you know that I'm going for my first session with the psychologist next week,thanks alot,much appreciated

That Mountain Dew, is crap! They sell it here in the UK and I don't know why, as nobody I know drinks it! So those Aliens must be idiots? Ha ha. Wait til you try Irn Bru? You'll sack that Mountain Dew overnight, guaranteed!

That settles it then, nothing, absolutely nothing, is better than everything, absolutely everything, Scottish...