This is what I do, I take the hurt and pain and use it as a motivation to improve yourself. They see what they missed by doing what they did and you get time to move on. It can take a while though, after my first real breakup it took me almost a year to get over it until I finally learned to focus my energy on being creative.

Hope that helps.

.. yes focus on yourself the positive.. pay no attention to the negative... keep yourself occupied.. keep yourself in the positive... and then. eventually. the negative will no longer bother you..

Today I just saw my ex.I read his profile. still bitter about what happened as what I can understand. I thought I've moved on. Still didn't arghh. I hate this feeling. I'm so stupid! He's back again.
anyone who wants to give me a piece of advice?

When I read these young folks anguished posts I wish I had the power to reach through the screen and pull you through to my old grandma arms and hug the tears out of you.

The bad news is having a broken heart is not easy bit the good news is it doesn't change with the generations and many have the long view that "this too shall pass My dear heart this too shall pass".

I want you take that phrase an write it on the top of a poster board. Then I want you get out pictures of things and places and people that represent good things you have, seen, done in your young life in the middle like a flower.
Then along the edges I want you to add pictures of the hopes and dreams you wish and hope for. Your dreams, your goals, who you want to be. DREAM Big! Have fun with it.

Now there should be a lot of space between the beautiful bloom you are today and those tomorrows.

In the next year I want you to start doing at least three babysteps towards any of those dreams. Add a skill. Put some change in your savings. Take care of your health. Learn the vocabulary. You get the idea. Focus on Forward. Build the road map between where you are at and where you want to go. Enlist friends and even strangers but get excited about where you are going. And stop looking back.

Sure there have been some dead ends and turn a rounds; guarantee there will be more; but you just have to keep going in the direction YOU want to go and nothing can stop you. You can build your own bridges and put together your own ladders to get over the hurdles to your dreams.

Part of that starts by taking the stones out of your shoes that are making you hurt. That probably means blocking some phone numbers, cleaning out the trash links on your computer sites, and ignoring the trolls of life that you don't even need to waste your breath on.

If you have some real life trolls (sounds like you might if your so called friends are whispering to you about an Ex) then clean out their access to you. You are growing up and some of those old "training tool " relationships you just have to move on from. They have;maybe to greater or LESSER things for them but they have and YOU CAN TOO .

You are the Captain of your own ship. Put yourself at the helm and full steam ahead!
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