You don't say. I saw a guy that was like you on a TV show about dating the other day. He met the lady and the first thing that she did was a pole dance. It totally threw the guy and for the whole date he was the one with the pole up his arse. I would just have taken something like that in good fun. I like outgoing women with bags of character and don't really get on with shy retiring types that need a lot of compliments and flattery to get them to warm to you.

Never said they had to be shy. Just how would it make you feel "special" if she automatically just came up to you like that, all over you being huggy, kissy, touchy, feely? Would it not cross your mind her being the comfortable doing that, that she more then likely acts like that with either most men or at the very least a lot of men?

And on that note, do you truly want a woman that's again that friendly with other men? Think she would change just because you guys are in a "relationship"? And why would she change specifically just for you when she would obviously have done that with other men as well?

Hi goes a long way.
Just be yourself and make a comment on the weather.
Say anything and look at her eyes when you're talking.
Be polite and smile! Good luck!

Know what you're trying to say but there are actually some very nice girls that aren't slags that like to flirt with everybody. There are even some here on this forum. You would be surprised how even some "easy" women can be faithful once you get involved with them. I'm not insecure about girlfriends going with other guys for sex. I'm the guy that they come to for that and if they dump me for another guy it's always because of something else. Had one going back to an "ex" that was a control freak and an abuser and she told me that I was different and with other guys it had been "just a f**k". She wasn't even getting that from him and their sex life had completely broken down. I had a very difficult relationship with my ex but what we did have was passion and I had no worries at all about her going with other guys when she went out clubbing with her friends. Just because a woman is "fast" that doesn't mean that she'll cheat. I'm fast with women but I've never cheated on anyone in my life, so I'm not going to be sexist and go on about women being whores that you can't trust just because they don't have a lot of old fashioned values and atitudes like you do.

You walk up to her and in your best Austin Powers voice you ask her "Do I make you horney baby ..Do I....

Well hate to break it to you, but even if it's condoned or "allowed" for one spouse to step out on another is cheating. No matter how you wish to flip that coin. And if there's cheating going on, there's no relationship in the first place. If a good time is all you want a woman for, then again there is no relationship there, it's just that a good time. So your statement about your "ex" is entirely false, she's not an ex, for you never had her in the first place.

Well hate to break it to you, but even if it's condoned or "allowed" for one spouse to step out on another is cheating. No matter how you wish to flip that coin. And if there's cheating going on, there's no relationship in the first place. If a good time is all you want a woman for, then again there is no relationship there, it's just that a good time. So your statement about your "ex" is entirely false, she's not an ex, for you never had her in the first place.

What are you going on about? My ex went clubbing with her pals. Dancing. That's not cheating.

I'm not insecure about girlfriends going with other guys for sex.

EXACTLY CORRECT!!!!

What I said was partly in reference to this



That was actually said twice in your post. And why the foul language even if it's "censored"?

Can you two not read or what? I said that I've been in relationships that didn't work out for reasons that had nothing to do with sex. My ex did not cheat on me. We had an on and off relationship and she did eventually meet someone else but we were no longer together by then. Please stop trying to pull this idiotic Bible bashing garbage on me. I never had a spouse. It quite clearly states on my profile that I'm single and not divorced. I have had relationships with women and I'm so sorry that you two don't like people that aren't married having sex but I did "have her in the first place" because she was my girlfriend and now someone else "has her" and he is her partner and I'm not.

I apologise if my post was confusing and you got the wrong end of the stick. I don't particularly care what you say about me but it annoyed me when you said that about my ex girlfriend. I don't really want to get into a philisophical debate with you just now about Christian morality because this thread is already derailed enough as it is.

Again, what does anything of "Christian" have to do with anything? Nobody mentioned God, Jesus, the bible, or any form of religious belief in ANY way. Ever think someone has a belief, because it is the exact same way they feel/want and or desire? And don't have that belief/feeling(s) of something because of the "religious" belief thereof? Please stay on track and not ad-lib for what people are saying and or their motives.

There's a girl I see everyday. She knows I check her out. One day I caught her looking at me..although she immediately looked away. We never speak...but I want to approach her without scaring her away. Any suggestions?

smile and walk up to her. Say hi, how are you.
do the small talk thing and before she walks away then you go for it and throw her a compliment. Now she knows your interested and its not just friendly. Then say how bout coffee? Something like that...