So I haven't been around to much for awhile. I met someone a couple months ago. We met on another site. Emailed for awhile, went to yahoo messenger, video chatted. Talked on the phone for hours daily. He started to say he loved me after a month. I said don't go there yet. Anyway things were good but we talked from his job everyday all day. A private number. Never at night or weekends. Finally being as slow as I am we were suppose to meet. I confronted him on why I didn't have his number or he never was available nights or weekends, he always had an excuse he finally admitted he was in a bad marriage. I ended it right then. I was blinded and feel like a fool. Never again my trust is gone. I told him everything about my health the whole nine yards. So done with it all. Why do people do that?

someone who starts off a relationship with lies, only intends for it to last long enough to..... get some......or get caught...... whichever comes first...

sorry about your experience (((( pkh ))))

Unfortunately, the online world makes it too easy for people to be dishonest.
I'm sorry it happened to you (((pkh)))

Yeah, sorry that this sort of thing keeps happening to you. This is one of the reasons that I can't be doing with messaging women that won't just make a date and want to keep chatting online. Had one last week practically begging me to ask her out, so I did and she told me that she would let me know when she would be free. Well, I'm not replying to that and she can waste some other mug's time.

With the majority by far, of guys at date sites going without whilst the same 2% of male profiles are chased by all the women there, have considered perchance why you decided to chase a married guy you didn't know was married rather than the dozens and dozens of single guys that can't seem to get a date at these sites?

Do you think maybe memes play a greater role in your selection of dating potential profiles than more humanist considerations like I don't know, serendipity?

It's sort of like the sleazebag that travels to asia to pedophile little farmers daughters and winds up instead, in bed with a transvestite who promptly tells him, you knew long before we got naked so don't whinge about it now. In for a penny in for a pound, means you make the bed you find yourself sleeping in. You did it. Choices, with the right ones, these things never happen.
They really don't.

...and I just realized what I said was about a billion quintillion miles above the heads of anybody likely to be around here :/

first off I didn't chase him, second I have health issues and 6 days a week I have personal care workers and therapists in my home so I was always busy he would just say message me when your not busy I'll call you. Third I was totally honest no games no lies. He was the one who played me. Thank you Argo and pancho, Tawt

Well, I didn't understand all of it mate but it's a valid point to say that the lady seems to keep making the same mistakes and that it simply isn't the case that all of the men on dating sites are liars and cheats.

I've spoken to pkh about this before and she probably won't apreciate me saying it yet again but it seems to me that she's probably like a lot of the women on here and thinks that the genuine guys must be the ones that want to chat online, rather than meeting ASAP.

I don't mind you saying that at all. We were planning on meeting late September till I confronted him and he finally told me

But I didn't know about your health problems and personal circumstances, so I guess that it's not that simple in your case.

blablabla I want someone I want not someone I might be suited to o_O

I don't know why people are so willing to share personal and intimate details about themselves with people they've never met and who are simply one-dimensional pictures and personalities on the internet/phone/other device.


Do you think, in time, you WILL be able to trust yourself, again?

((((((((( PKH )))))))))


I am sorry you went through this...

Sad to hear, Ms Pam.

You're a strong woman and will come out of this.

((((Pkh)))

For some of us...we arent comfortable in a social setting so chatting online is easier...and if we arent dishonest we assume the other person is earnest. Being ourself is going to b our default setting so yes...we tend to make the same mistakes. Im going through this as well. It takes all kinds and there will b someone out there who will not b out to take advantage ...i am slowly learning that i cant trust...and am slowly dying inside due to that. Pkh...dont give up...you will find them.

@ PKH, sorry that you had to go through something like that! And yes, I think you will trust again. You will just be more careful.
Maybe it helps a bit to look at the good that you got out of it, not just look at the way it ended? However silly it may sound, maybe you just needed someone who'd listen to you, so you could ventilate, find a virtual shoulder to cry on, share with. Even though he can't and won't be the love of your life, you still got that from him. In other words, maybe you helped each other through a rough period? And even though the ending is chit, that in itself can be beautiful.
(Hope you see what I mean, don't mean to belittle)



Sure many ppl tend to go for the same dude OR dudess, yes, this phenomenon happens the other way round as well, you know. Men in general also en masse fall for the same women. So if memes play a role, maybe this is human nature? Every group has a popular dude and dudess that everyone else wants to be friends with. Simple as that. You see this happen at kindergarten and probably still happens in an old ppl's home.

Online it's not always clear whether you got one of those popular dudes or dudesses, they don't have a sign with their picture now do they? Plus, who's to say you and "the popular fella" aren't meant for each other?
It ain't all that simple ..

As for the transvestite thing, I've actually seen a real good-looking young bloke, who stayed at the same lodge as I did, go to his room with a Balinese woman. Just a few minutes later he came rushing out, totally embarrassed, red to the roots of his hair, and the woman leaving behind him. I asked him what the heck happened, cos it was somewhat peculiar. Turned out she had the same dangly bits he himself had. We p*$$ed ourselves (he could handle it, lol, was a real nice bloke).
But you could not tell at all that 'she' was actually a 'he'. Asian men can look better than Ms World, 100% woman.

Ignorance is bliss.

Live and learn from it. Chalk it up. Know better next time.

Good luck next time.

Pkh... I was wondering, who was stealing...your attention !away from me!!!...hmmm...awwww.. so sorry he did you that way..... do you want me to break his legs?.. maybe just his fingers...ohhhhh... better yet his big toes....hmmm..... didn't any of your red flags go off...... I meen sometimes there is a legit reason.... if I have my boys with me... I will not call but I will text.....ohhhh... I feel so sorry for you...
....... but it is like picking apples off a tree...... you don't always get the best one..... sometimes they look really delicious.... and then you take a bite out of them...anx ewww.. rotten inside..... just keep on picking apples baby.....ok.. miss...ok.. madam....ok
... hot sexy beautiful you...?..lol
.xoxo..

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I dont know how the hell can you even get a date, when your conversation is gonna be how disappointed you are in opposite sex. Duh, youre looking at one when saying it arent you? Anyone with self respect would walk out after hearing it.