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Edited by
MelMaxx
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Fri 03/13/15 09:43 AM
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This is so sexist...the government doesn't have the right to discriminate anyone based on gender...single dad's get the same government support as single moms.. And nobody can understand your point about your first wife or the other woman, but it sounds like you are putting the other woman down when we don't know the context. YOU have no clue what you are talking about. I KNOW FOR A FACT that the US government does NOT have any help for True Single Dads! My husband was accused of stealing "our" children when he went to get "OUR" food stamps and baby formula. We were NEVER seperated or anything like that and we signed up TOGETHER with both incomes and both ssn. But they would not give our coupons to him because "there is a high rate of children being abducted by the father and stealing coupons...". Well HELL, LET HIM HAVE THE COUPONS AND FEED OUR CHILDREN IF HE HAS THEM!!!! That was such a moronic attitude. I had to take time off work, which meant less $$ to go get the coupons. ....AND "single moms" ARE not always the best, they also sometimes "are the ones who have the children simply to get $$". So neither one of us was a "single parent"...but it's the point that NO, single dads do not get the same treatment from government nor anyone else that single moms do. Our society has put that so-called single mom (they are not always warranted of such praise) so very high on a pedestal that anyone else who is raising a child(ren) are not worthy of help and/or understanding. DADS RULE TOO!!!! |
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Why don't you want to have a relationship with a single mom? many men do form a relationship and family with a single mom and her kids. my stepdad is a great example. he met my beautiful mother when she was living with one of my aunts. he was friends with my uncle and asked my uncle's permission to court her. she wasn't really searching for anyone as she was just trying to make a life for herself and bring us to live with her. she told him she didn't have time for men because she has 2 young daughters. he told her my dear I can be here for you and your daughters. he wrote to my grandmother to ask for her hand. they married he made a choice to love us like his own and treated us the same as his natural born kids. he helped my mom raise us from the time I was 3 until he passed away when I was 17. |
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Topic: Single dads, This is getting is getting a shocking amount of information and action of the unknown. We are so few. What happened too us? Will dating a woman with children leave both families poorer?
Dads of Earth, that have been found. England 1, Scotland 1, Canada 1, U.S.A. 1, Others ? |
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Topic: Single dads, This is getting is getting a shocking amount of information and action of the unknown. We are so few. What happened too us? Will dating a woman with children leave both families poorer? Dads of Earth, that have been found. England 1, Scotland 1, Canada 1, U.S.A. 1, Others ? Kudos to the real Single Dads! I know single dads who have full custody of their children are few and far between. For whatever reasons that they now have their children full time 24/7/365.....it is really praiseworthy! It must be hard juggling the chores that need to be done and having to provide for the family as well. Likewise, single mothers do have a hard time too .... and those who are having full custody without any ulterior motives are to be praised for coping with the multitude of responsibilities, even without financial help from the father which is quite common now. So, let's not bash either single moms or single dads but instead give the kind of encouragement and words of support to them to strive to provide the kind of quality life we want for their children. |
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Dad's government help groups-Zero Women's government help groups- Thousands maybe tens of thousands. Dads have a coffee and smile. Our hearts and kids are special. Dads of Earth :) England 1, Scotland 1, Canada 1, U.S.A. ?, Others ? |
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Topic: Single dads, This is getting is getting a shocking amount of information and action of the unknown. We are so few. What happened too us? Will dating a woman with children leave both families poorer? Dads of Earth, that have been found. England 1, Scotland 1, Canada 1, U.S.A. 1, Others ? Kudos to the real Single Dads! I know single dads who have full custody of their children are few and far between. For whatever reasons that they now have their children full time 24/7/365.....it is really praiseworthy! It must be hard juggling the chores that need to be done and having to provide for the family as well. Likewise, single mothers do have a hard time too .... and those who are having full custody without any ulterior motives are to be praised for coping with the multitude of responsibilities, even without financial help from the father which is quite common now. Isn't it just as praiseworthy if not more so for a single mom to be the caretaker and the provider ? What ulterior motives do single moms have? Where do I sign up? |
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Kudos to the real Single Dads!
I know single dads who have full custody of their children are few and far between. For whatever reasons that they now have their children full time 24/7/365.....it is really praiseworthy! It must be hard juggling the chores that need to be done and having to provide for the family as well. Likewise, single mothers do have a hard time too .... and those who are having full custody without any ulterior motives are to be praised for coping with the multitude of responsibilities, even without financial help from the father which is quite common now. --------I'm confused by your message--------- Isn't it just as praiseworthy if not more so for a single mom to be the caretaker and the provider as women are more scrutinized and discriminated by society than men? What ulterior motives do single moms have? Where do I sign up? |
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Edited by
Amelinng
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Wed 03/18/15 02:19 AM
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Kudos to the real Single Dads! I know single dads who have full custody of their children are few and far between. For whatever reasons that they now have their children full time 24/7/365.....it is really praiseworthy! It must be hard juggling the chores that need to be done and having to provide for the family as well. Likewise, single mothers do have a hard time too .... and those who are having full custody without any ulterior motives are to be praised for coping with the multitude of responsibilities, even without financial help from the father which is quite common now. --------I'm confused by your message--------- Isn't it just as praiseworthy if not more so for a single mom to be the caretaker and the provider as women are more scrutinized and discriminated by society than men? What ulterior motives do single moms have? Where do I sign up? There was one comment/post somewhere where it was pointed out that some mothers made use of the custody of their children to get the food stamps/coupons. It takes just one bad apple to throw the rest of us women in the bad light, and likewise, the bad experiences you have had with men has given you a 'warped' opinion of ALL men, rather than the ones you have crossed path with. And there are women I know who abandoned their children and walked away, leaving the father to pick up the pieces. So, what do I say about this? It is true that single moms have many organizations/government help.... it is the same here in my country, and maybe only a few or none at all for single dads! So, while it is praiseworthy when women are the sole caretaker and provider, our natural multitasking capabilities do help in us coping. I know of some men who changed their careers so that they could be at home to attend to their children, learn to cook.... pack lunch boxes for their kids, learn to sew so they could mend the little tears in the clothes/laundry....... so shouldn't I praise them? I don't agree with your statement that women are more scrutinized and discriminated..... maybe, in some instances, but generally as a single mom and sole provider, I get respected rather than being looked down or discriminated on. It is you, how you portray yourself, or how you lead your life that will throw your image into a negative perspective. |
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Getting food stamps is an ulterior motive for moms to have a baby?
I have 2 arguments there: 1. single dads and single moms are equally allowed food stamps 2. anyone poor qualifies for food stamps, don't need to have a baby for that. Men and women are both capable of multi tasking to the same extent. And no human being is really able to multi task, trying to do too much at once does not mean it will get done well. This is only a theory but in practice men and women are the same here. It may look like women are better at doing more things at the same time because they are more often in a position that forces them to try to juggle more than men. Finally if you don't agree that sexism against women is the reason why women tend to take on the responsibility of the children, and housework more often than men, then you are deluded. It is not respect that you are earning but mere acceptance because you are being a good woman according to men's preferences. If you need any government aid because the father does not help, you are judged as 'having ulterior motives' for having a baby. If you provide all by yourself you are a threat to men and a feminist. Just being a single mom means you must be easy or you must be a terrible woman and irresponsible and selfish as well. There is no right in being a single mom according to society. |
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Finally if you don't agree that sexism against women is the reason why women tend to take on the responsibility of the children, and housework more often than men, then you are deluded. It is not respect that you are earning but mere acceptance because you are being a good woman according to men's preferences. If you need any government aid because the father does not help, you are judged as 'having ulterior motives' for having a baby. If you provide all by yourself you are a threat to men and a feminist. Just being a single mom means you must be easy or you must be a terrible woman and irresponsible and selfish as well. There is no right in being a single mom according to society. And with this statement.....you are digging the hole deeper, and you are going to be staying in there with your warped, narrow minded kind of thinking.....opinionated, that you are! Seems like everyone is wrong, and you are right, and even if someone tells you their side of things, you just bash it down.....that they are wrong and you are right!  I'm so sorry for you as obviously you think of yourself as the woman you described up there. I rest my case!!!
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I'm a solo dad full time 24/7 365 days and believe me solo mums in my country are able to get government support very easily. But solo fathers are ignored or told there lieing and to get the childs mother to apply. When the child's mother is no where to be seen or heard from for years that is an impossibility.
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I thought I better add a comment on topic. I have dated solo mothers and don't see anything wrong with dating them. The only issue that usually cropped up was we both had time restrictions due to our own children and can be hard to find time for each other. Otherwise it's great dating someone who understands.
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Edited by
mom333
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Sun 04/05/15 07:43 AM
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I don't care what any man says I know im a terrific single mom and I will say that because nobody else will. I raise 3 kids alone one who is 13 and has Asperger's and even though he is at the minute a royal pain I wouldn't change my life. my kids have more than most and I make sure they know I love them. they also know the reason I am a single mom and they love me non the less. I keep an exceptionally clean home I can make the most delicious food, I can make a dress in a day, and I read to my kids play with my kids, chase them round supermarkets etc I remind my son everyday how to treat a woman. and I can be as tough as a man. I can take a knock and keep going I do what needs to be done and I can change bike tyres, paint the house, fix the blocked toilet, (my son and toilet paper) I can do it all. I can also play a game of footie and fight my kids (rough housing) i can do all that with my nails on and wearing a pair of 1950s wedges and a corset. men think women who have kids are soiled goods but i have to disagree, we are special because ill say most, can cope with what life throws at them, when we get a cold or the flu or anything else we keep going. we are protectors and providers and we are good capable sexy women and its you men single dad or not that would be privileged to be with one of us. now girls put on Beyonc�'s run the world and lets march!!!!lol
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Agree
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personally.I would rather date a single mother.. being a single father. .. we can both relate to each other situations... and it is a good topic of conversation... discussing each other's children... our battle stories..lol... there is an instant understanding that we both know.. our children are priority one.. .. so it makes getting together.. when we have time more special.... single parents don't tend to waste a lot of each others time.... we seem to know what we want... and are realistic about where ,we each fit into each others life... not only that.. but single parents aren't... exactly chomping on the bit to jump on a plane to Hawaii within a month.. it's more realistic. for myself to have a relationship with a single mother... single ladies without children... just.. no offense by this.. but just have way too much free time... And need constant attention.... ... and they tend to have more disposable income... so they're always willing and ready to go... on some grand adventure somewhere... like Hawaii.... always, wanting to go out for dinner... the latest play, that is in town.... don't get me wrong that's all great when you're single..... . but when you're a single parent.. . those kind of dates! are behind you... ... so single parents.. dating other single parents.. make sense... .. ok now the disclaimer...no1 phD.. is not in any way discluding are discounting.... the idea.. or the possibility of dating single women.... . I am an equal opportunity dater... .. all applicants are reviewed thoroughly...lol.... I'm just saying.. .. I'm not.. opposed to the idea of dating a single woman.... heck I'm not even opposed to dating in. multiples.. Lol..jk      . . . in fact I would go so far as to say I doubt I would seriously consider a relationship with someone who was not a parent |
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Hmmm.. as she slowly begins to melt..
to the idea of him .. thinks to himself.. my master plan is starting to come together..bwhaha |
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wow, I should probably read the whole thing..... eh
dating a single mom, sure I like being a fam as long as there is compatibility, right |
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wow, I should probably read the whole thing..... eh dating a single mom, sure I like being a fam as long as there is compatibility, right compatibility and blending both families. |
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Thank you. Us single moms do have it together.
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I if you have a relationship with a single mother, you could be legally responsible for child support payments. If she is on Public Support, the Government could force YOU to pay. This is the Government "seeing you" as a father figure.
So guys be educated 
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