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Humm for me and my ex it took me 4 years to finally get over the situation but had moved on as far as being with anyone much sooner...
It all depends on the situation ect.. As far as b/f after the ex anywhere from a few weeks to several months to a couple years.. |
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So...Never? lol I have been thinking about deleting her number, just can't pull the trigger yet, so it will probably be soon. I think that will help move me forward, although I do find myself checking her Facebook page at rimes, were not friends on Feb though. I gave her an eviction notice, but she just won't leave my mind. lol lol you drunkenly text her one night till she tells you to never call again. Then you cry and delete her number in spite to feel better. That is the only way to go! Lol, the last time I got drunk it cost me a little over ten grand. I literally can't afford to get drunk again. |
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So...Never? lol I have been thinking about deleting her number, just can't pull the trigger yet, so it will probably be soon. I think that will help move me forward, although I do find myself checking her Facebook page at rimes, were not friends on Feb though. I gave her an eviction notice, but she just won't leave my mind. lol lol you drunkenly text her one night till she tells you to never call again. Then you cry and delete her number in spite to feel better. That is the only way to go! Lol, the last time I got drunk it cost me a little over ten grand. I literally can't afford to get drunk again. Joking! Just delete it and once it's gone it's gone for good. No looking back then. |
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Op being I was taken by surprise a bit ... after a great deal of yrs married ... took me a while to feel I was not married after the divorce ... I had been asked out but refused some ...guess my heart was not ready ... it has been some yrs now and I am ok with it ... and I have gone out with a few men ...turned down a few but felt we just did not have that something... you need that can feel like love ... how many yrs does it take ...some get over really quick ...some do not ... matter what you went through and how long you may have been with them ... and the older you are ...has something to do with that to ...
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Why is it after nearly six months I'm just now starting to heal and be able to move on? Its been maybe four months since I've talked to her, and I still can't delete her number from my phone. What's the longest its ever taken you to move on after a relationship has ended? Usually it should take 1day but you my friend took months, y do you care so much,I don't know about your relationship |
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Why is it after nearly six months I'm just now starting to heal and be able to move on? Its been maybe four months since I've talked to her, and I still can't delete her number from my phone. What's the longest its ever taken you to move on after a relationship has ended? Usually it should take 1day but you my friend took months, y do you care so much,I don't know about your relationship Well, I do have some issues, but I'm not a sociopath, so it takes me time to heal when I lose someone I care for deeply. When you love someone to the point where you almost marry them, go through failed pregencies with them, are their for them when they lose a loved one, are patient with them as they continue to heal from past relationships, etc. you tend to get attached to that person, because you give them 100% of yourself. |
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So...Never? lol I have been thinking about deleting her number, just can't pull the trigger yet, so it will probably be soon. I think that will help move me forward, although I do find myself checking her Facebook page at rimes, were not friends on Feb though. I gave her an eviction notice, but she just won't leave my mind. lol lol you drunkenly text her one night till she tells you to never call again. Then you cry and delete her number in spite to feel better. That is the only way to go! Lol, the last time I got drunk it cost me a little over ten grand. I literally can't afford to get drunk again. Joking! Just delete it and once it's gone it's gone for good. No looking back then. That's what makes it so hard. |
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Edited by
no1phD
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Mon 02/02/15 10:06 PM
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sooo over it.. well!!. at least until mortgages ,and bills, need to be paid..
. and then I get pulled back into it... .. I would lol.. if I wasn't crying out loud..lol |
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Hello Totage
 Let her be and she should let you be. If she is happy where she is, you should be happier  . Dont you think it is unfair to you that you still leave traces of her and let it linger. You deserve to be happier my friend. To the new and wiser you.. cheers!  
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I do let her be and she let's me be. I haven't talked to her lately, but the last time we talked she seemed happy with her new life. I was distant and cold with her. I'm glad that she is happy and found someone that makes her happy. I'm sad that its not me, but I accept it and am moving on. Its just that every now and then I'll still miss her or think about her.
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Edited by
Miztrish
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Mon 02/02/15 11:17 PM
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Being in a relationship for three years and broke up only a few months ago myself made me realize that there are no rules, especially TIME RULES, when it comes to moving on.
It's normal to miss her. It's normal to think about her. Because both of these are signs that you are on your way to move on completely. You just have to give yourself time and space. One last tip: Work on being the better version of yourself and you'll be happier in no time at all. :) |
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Edited by
mysticalview21
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Tue 02/10/15 07:16 AM
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Op being I was taken by surprise a bit ... after a great deal of yrs married ... took me a while to feel I was not married after the divorce ... I had been asked out but refused some ...guess my heart was not ready ... it has been some yrs now and I am ok with it ... and I have gone out with a few men ...turned down a few but felt we just did not have that something... you need that can feel like love ... how many yrs does it take ...some get over really quick ...some do not ... matter what you went through and how long you may have been with them ... and the older you are ...has something to do with that to ... and do agree with soufie... when you spend every day thinking of them ... can't wait to be with them ... and wanting to give your all again to that special someone and live life with them because they make you happy being with them ... and want to do for them ...even if its some of the simplest things ... I'm sure some might not want to give their all again but love is not like that ...I believe you have to want to feel you want to give your all ...whether its taking that chance again of getting hurt again ... that would be the person ... you know you could love again ... |
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Why is it after nearly six months I'm just now starting to heal and be able to move on? Its been maybe four months since I've talked to her, and I still can't delete her number from my phone. What's the longest its ever taken you to move on after a relationship has ended? I don't remember. Erasing the number was easy. Losing all the memories shared was the hardest part. I threw it all in the box to the storage & no longer thought about it. Few years later, I'd stumbled on this box & realized what I once had before. Those feelings I had was not there anymore. Funny thing is I wrote down the ph# on the inside of the box with a " ?" mark at the end.... Sigh:) |
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Time will come when you remember the woman you love but you cannot remember the feeling anymore. Time.....
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So...Never? lol I have been thinking about deleting her number, just can't pull the trigger yet, so it will probably be soon. I think that will help move me forward, although I do find myself checking her Facebook page at rimes, were not friends on Feb though. I gave her an eviction notice, but she just won't leave my mind. lol I have the same problem of moving on... Trying very hard to erase all memories of him... but i guess, if you have invested a great amount of emotion and time, then it would really be very difficult to move on...its been two years now...=( |
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Half a year isn't that long. It takes a year for most to reach a basic state of being over an ex. That stage where you don't think about them all the time anymore, are actually really moving on with your life etc.
But even then you will find that sometimes things come up, triggered one way or another, that will make you feel tender. I think in general it takes 1 year to sort of find your feet again, emphasis on 'sort of', as you're not out of the woods yet, and a total of 2 years to really have the most important ties severed. Depending on the situation and the individual it may take a bit less or a bit longer. In general I'd say to at least wait a year before getting involved again. Two years minimum is better. |
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Yes, I was thinking it may take a year or so as well.
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