Just curious. Alot of people talk about looking for serious relationships, but what happened to just getting to know someone? Why jump in blindly?

I agree, how can you know if you're serious about someone if you don't know anything about them?

Is there money involved?

IMHO friendships have the best chances to become real relationships. You get to know the person within, not just the outer appearance of that person!

Why would money be of any consequence to someone seeking a genuine relationship?? Do you equate a good relationship to money?

My parents were together for 40 years and would have been together longer than that if my dad was still alive. Alot of love, sacrifice, and compromise were put into that marriage. Plus alot of laughter too. My dad was always playing jokes. They were together for about two years before they got married.

this ^^^^^


beauty fades. money comes and goes.
when you have a friendship you have companionship and understanding. this helps you weather lifes storms together

I agree. If i am going to go through life and storms, i want my best friend along for the ride. Looks and money are just a perk. Not a necessity. I do believe it helps to have a deep attraction and chemistry.

I have to be best friends with my guy or in the long run it isn't going to last. IMO... A relationship has to many great things but it also has some ups and downs, if you aren't able to talk and work together then I don't see how it can last.

people do not see that there is a compromise necessary to make a relationship or even friendship work. they think that since they are disillusioned, that everyone else has to pay for that.

they project their past onto their future.

people who write "looking for marriage" are high strung, uncompromising, negative people. they can't be happy no matter who they meet. they'll find fault with everything. some are also brainwashed by family upbringing ... but they can't be convinced that they are the cause of their own unhappiness. they'll have to find out on their own.

One of the best relationships I was ever in, we were best friends. I am hoping one day soon we will be back together. When you are best friends, it's something you never forget. That type of closeness doesn't come every day. And not everyone has it.

I think the main thing that's changed since I've been aware, is just that everything gets talked about now.

That makes it LOOK as though everyone is going nuts more than ever before, but really, everyone was nuts in the past as well. They were just wary of publicizing the fact.

I remember when I was just starting out, totally confused and terrified, that one of the repeating experiences I had, was that lots of girls would appear to accept simple friendship from me at first, but then they would suddenly get angry and push me away. I finally learned that the reason for this was that while I was trying to start with 'friendship first," these particular women were following the idea that everyone had to PRETEND to be friends first, as a signal that they were actually serious about 'getting it on.'

So now, some people use 'social media' to all but videotape their entire lives and use it to try to sell themselves to each other. They are just the same kind of people as always, it's just that we all have to deal with the nutty details of their lives that we used to only discover after they got drunk on a weekend camping trip or something.

yes honey I think you are exactly right
true partner, helpmate, lover, friend

I married my ' best friend"...
Both the friendship & the money worked well, for 15+ years.

Well considering my last relationship was formed from a friendship. That bloomed into something more and just so happened to be my longest relationship. I would have to go with that formula.

i think it always does. if you can't be friends the more will surely fail. as for a preference on a profile i hope to get to more not stay at friends

Hey I'm newbie here

Hey

Being friends first and foremost ensures that even if the relationship doesn't last, the friendship part might survive.

But it is easier said than done, as new partners/spouses might not understand why you are still friends, and in order not to jeopardize theirs/or your own relationship, you may drift apart due to this.

hahahaha how you doing?