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Topic: WHAT DOES HE MEAN?
2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Mon 04/27/15 11:39 AM
I know some of you may consider this response a kiss off. But in my case, I do have a lot to offer and I seem to intimidate men. I liked a couple of men in the past and I know that they were also into me. But after a while, I got this response from them: "you deserve better than me." Yes, in my heart, I know that they have a point. But a woman doesn't always love someone whom she deserves. She loves the qualities in a man which make her fall in love with him: sweetness, kindness, humility, confidence, intelligence, wit, funny, caring, sensual. When a quality woman gets the above response from a man, is it a kiss off or is he really intimidated? What does he mean? It keeps happening to me. :-( It means you are high maintenance :-)

RoamingOrator Joined Fri 07/20/07 Posts: 4943	Mon 04/27/15 11:40 AM
Oh, I'm not dumb enough to fall for that trap!!! You can't just tell a woman what you really think, you have to ease her into to it and make her believe she came up with the concept on her own.

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Mon 04/27/15 11:40 AM
Actually, you stole that concept from us.

2KidsMom Joined Tue 09/30/08 Posts: 58206	Mon 04/27/15 11:43 AM
Actually, you stole that concept from us. ((((Iam))))).. you seem to know exactly what you want I would continue searching ...nothing wrong with your demands, keep them. it takes all kinds of people to make the world go round

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Mon 04/27/15 11:45 AM
Actually, you stole that concept from us. ((((Iam))))).. you seem to know exactly what you want I would continue searching ...nothing wrong with your demands, keep them. it takes all kinds of people to make the world go round Hey, gorgeous. Thank you. A ray of sunshine. All these meanies posted on my thread.

2OLD2MESSAROUND Joined Mon 04/13/15 Posts: 1661	Mon 04/27/15 01:26 PM
IamwhoIam1 stated >>> Kick me while I'm down. No, don't hold back. Tell me what you really think. This is what I'd posted and I'll restate it again >>> And possibly those 'wee little' idiosyncrasies that are just those cutest little oddities that they think make us soooo unique become the most annoying habits that start picking away at their 'drive them nuts' and push them over the edge and before they scream --- 'CAN YOU STOP THAT - IT MAKES ME NUTS'! I've had that happen - allowing my dogs to lick my ice cream bowls drove off a rather nice guy...love me - love my dogs! They'd rather just ease on out of it and remain friendly; wave and still speak to you if they run into you again! And vice versa for you as well; besides who wants to 'dumb it down' on either side of a relationship...that won't last forever and the "GAME PLAYING" becomes old and irksome after a fashion! And no self-respecting women needs to 'dumb it down' for a fellow {or vice versa}...gotta be what you are! But seriously 'IamWhoIam'; next to job hunting - dating is mentally exhausting and painful...no clear answers and just leaves us wondering - IS IT ME??? Do not sell yourself short - he's out there somewhere!

tealbreeze Joined Sun 02/08/15 Posts: 2279	Mon 04/27/15 01:47 PM
Trust me. Dumb it down.

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Mon 04/27/15 02:00 PM
Oh shucks, little ol' me. Can you help me with opening this can of soup, baby? giggles Your arms are soooo big and you're so strong. Have you been working out? Oh my! giggle gurgle coo Baby, can you help me change the oil in my car? What would I do without you? big smile Sweetie pie, can you help me balance my checkbook? I am soooo bad at math. twirls hair around fingers, snaps bubblegum Oh my gosh, darling, you're the best boyfriend in the whole wide world!!!

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Mon 04/27/15 02:02 PM
I don't have a single thought in this pretty little head of mine. One thing I do know. I am so crazy about you, baby! giggle hiccup gurgle

Biscuit85 Joined Sun 03/22/15 Posts: 142	Mon 04/27/15 02:17 PM Edited by Biscuit85 on Mon 04/27/15 02:17 PM
I would imagine guys usually say stuff like that too avoid any drama. Either they just don't like you or aren't into you for what ever reason it may be, or the more logical reason is you're too high maintenance & most guys dont like high maintenance, it can be a very unattractive trait.

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Mon 04/27/15 02:21 PM
Biscuit, help me. Oh, no, yeah, I am having trouble with taking off my boots. Oh, ooh, no...

JustScribbles Joined Thu 04/02/15 Posts: 1091	Mon 04/27/15 02:22 PM Edited by JustScribbles on Mon 04/27/15 02:25 PM
I don't have a single thought in this pretty little head of mine. One thing I do know. I am so crazy about you, baby! giggle hiccup gurgle Yeah, yeah...hand me that socket wrench, would ya? Then, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yBpL1-Jia9A Couldn't resist, CC. (Crimson Cutie)

Biscuit85 Joined Sun 03/22/15 Posts: 142	Mon 04/27/15 02:24 PM
Biscuit, help me. Oh, no, yeah, I am having trouble with taking off my boots. Oh, ooh, no... Well you asked, & i gave a straight answer :)

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21396	Mon 04/27/15 03:26 PM
or you have really high expectations and he feels like he cannot live up to them? and he doesn't want to change to make you happy. exactly And he's tired of being told he doesn't live up to what you "really" want and think you "deserve".

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Mon 04/27/15 03:27 PM
Sounds like you're speaking from experience there...

Biscuit85 Joined Sun 03/22/15 Posts: 142	Mon 04/27/15 04:20 PM
It's common sense though, if anyone says "you deserve better than me", they either meet that exactly or they simply don't like you for what ever reason it may be. No need to get defensive about it or take it personally, like others stated, it could be any number of reasons. At the end of the day these things happen & they obviously wasn't right for you, keep looking & maybe you'll find that special someone.

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Mon 04/27/15 04:25 PM
You're just a meanie

esebulldog Joined Wed 08/05/09 Posts: 22342	Mon 04/27/15 04:32 PM
you (the same as everyone else) were given talents. use your talents wisely, don't exploit them. i guarantee i guarantee that no matter the gender, no one want's to be around someone who exploits what they have (bulldog double guarantee - patent pending)

IamwhoIam1 Joined Sun 01/01/12 Posts: 6400	Mon 04/27/15 04:34 PM
So the stripper job? Yay or nay?

Biscuit85 Joined Sun 03/22/15 Posts: 142	Mon 04/27/15 04:34 PM
You can't ask a question & expect people to tell you lies & only what you want to hear. Like most who have posted here, i have not said anything remotely mean. I gave you a simple response as to why guys as a whole might have given you that response to end a relationship.