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There are many reasons, for which a couple become sex starved . Sometime, it is work pressure, sometime it is because of any decease... there may be a lot of reasons. If one partner gradually become less sexually aroused or even start denying any sexuality, should the other one get into an extramarital affair with other lady or guys? Is having sex with another lady , in that case a real guilt ? What you say ?
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did the couple take vows to love and honor each other?
in good times AND bad times? what steps can you take as an individual and as a couple to make the marriage last? how does seeking adultery help to keep the marriage strong? how does cheating help with the difficulties within the marriage? where is the honor and decency of a spouse who wants to cheat? |
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^ Exactly. I will add that cheating is for the weak of character and it's a copout not to deal with life's adversities.
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There are many reasons, for which a couple become sex starved No there isn't unless of a medical reason.. . Sometime, it is work pressure, sometime it is because of any decease... there may be a lot of reasons. If one partner gradually become less sexually aroused or even start denying any sexuality, Again I think said couples should get their priorities straightened out... IF someone isn't getting sexuallya roused any more there would be a come to Jesus meeting and thing would be discussed and problem solved. should the other one get into an extramarital affair with other lady or guys? Is having sex with another lady , IF they are in a relationship me and decides this is an option then problem solved they won't need to worry about what I think. in that case a real guilt ? What you say ? If they have any compassion and capabilities in their souls there should be alot of guilt... I am a firm believer if I would feel uncomfortable doing in infront of my BF then I have no business doing it in the first place... What say I?? Real simple want to cheat that is fine, just let me cut the cord first because I value myself way to high to be in a cheating relationship |
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that all depends on the couple
only those can say what is and what aint right buy some toys / self pleasure |
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Edited by
Deep_Joy
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Sun 05/31/15 11:39 AM
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Well, to some extent , you are right. But, lets have an example :
I know a couple, both of them earn very high salaries, they love each other, they care about each other. The wife ( a bank manager ) leaves home at 8a.m in the morning and comes back tired at 8 p.m. The husband works in an MNC leaves home at 10 p.m and come back at 10a.m next morning. Even on Sundays , they remain busy for some reason. Problem is, they just don't have sex. The guy has a very high sex libido. He has recently met a lady , who is divorced . The guy and the lady has fallen in love with each other . Even if , the guy manages his sexual urge, will he be able to manage his emotional aspect ? If he is not cheating his wife, don't you think, he is actually cheating himself ? He has got just one life , why should not he go ahead ? |
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If they "love each other" then the guy would not have been attracted to the other woman in the first place: he would have sat down w/his wife & said we need to schedule a time that we can have sex on the weekend...(yes, just like any other event in their weekly schedules). If the wife "loved" her husband she would initiate such a conversation herself, if the lack of sex was an issue for her.
Obviously this couple has lost their physical desire for each other...they should not be married any more unless they are BOTH okay with no sex & BOTH okay with finding a sex partner outside of the marriage, which would more likely be opposed by the wife. It seems they are roommates & not husband & wife. Divorce would be a simple solution, then they could both devote their time to their jobs. I do think that when they are both single again, they will be surprised to find that they want to go out on dates & have sex. They just don't want to have sex w/each other anymore. It happens, love turns to companionship w/out sex & that's not a happy marriage, unless both parties are completely okay with the no sex part. |
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Well, to some extent , you are right. But, lets have an example : I know a couple, both of them earn very high salaries, they love each other, they care about each other. The wife ( a bank manager ) leaves home at 8a.m in the morning and comes back tired at 8 p.m. The husband works in an MNC leaves home at 10 p.m and come back at 10a.m next morning. Even on Sundays , they remain busy for some reason. If the relationship is important enough they will make appts what ever to keep it going.. Problem is, they just don't have sex. The guy has a very high sex libido. He has recently met a lady , who is divorced . The guy and the lady has fallen in love with each other . This is the worst type of cheating IMO...Emotional cheating... He is already cheating as far as I am concerned. Even if , the guy manages his sexual urge, will he be able to manage his emotional aspect ? If he is not cheating his wife, don't you think, he is actually cheating himself ? He has got just one life , why should not he go ahead ? He is cheating on his wife...Emotional cheating is so much worse and the physical is bad enough... But this face it sex is sex cold blooded at times to fullfill sexual needs why he can't take care of his needs in the shower by himself is not my business. He is already in another relationship.. You have stated he is in love with someone else. Time to file papers and get it over with and the let the wife find someone that she deserves who will treat her with honour.. And let him continue on with the woman he is cheating with... I am also wondering now if he is afraid to leave because of assets... |
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Edited by
Deep_Joy
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Sun 05/31/15 02:29 PM
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If they "love each other" then the guy would not have been attracted to the other woman in the first place: he would have sat down w/his wife & said we need to schedule a time that we can have sex on the weekend...(yes, just like any other event in their weekly schedules). If the wife "loved" her husband she would initiate such a conversation herself, if the lack of sex was an issue for her.
Obviously this couple has lost their physical desire for each other...they should not be married any more unless they are BOTH okay with no sex & BOTH okay with finding a sex partner outside of the marriage, which would more likely be opposed by the wife. It seems they are roommates & not husband & wife. Divorce would be a simple solution, then they could both devote their time to their jobs. I do think that when they are both single again, they will be surprised to find that they want to go out on dates & have sex. They just don't want to have sex w/each other anymore. It happens, love turns to companionship w/out sex & that's not a happy marriage, unless both parties are completely okay with the no sex part. This is the best answer so far. Thanks for your comment 
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Well, to some extent , you are right. But, lets have an example : I know a couple, both of them earn very high salaries, they love each other, they care about each other. The wife ( a bank manager ) leaves home at 8a.m in the morning and comes back tired at 8 p.m. The husband works in an MNC leaves home at 10 p.m and come back at 10a.m next morning. Even on Sundays , they remain busy for some reason. If the relationship is important enough they will make appts what ever to keep it going.. Problem is, they just don't have sex. The guy has a very high sex libido. He has recently met a lady , who is divorced . The guy and the lady has fallen in love with each other . This is the worst type of cheating IMO...Emotional cheating... He is already cheating as far as I am concerned. Even if , the guy manages his sexual urge, will he be able to manage his emotional aspect ? If he is not cheating his wife, don't you think, he is actually cheating himself ? He has got just one life , why should not he go ahead ? He is cheating on his wife...Emotional cheating is so much worse and the physical is bad enough... But this face it sex is sex cold blooded at times to fullfill sexual needs why he can't take care of his needs in the shower by himself is not my business. He is already in another relationship.. You have stated he is in love with someone else. Time to file papers and get it over with and the let the wife find someone that she deserves who will treat her with honour.. And let him continue on with the woman he is cheating with... I am also wondering now if he is afraid to leave because of assets... may be.. may not be. |
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No maybes...cheating is cheating.....roommates will end in disaster...
The connection has been broken.....to stay together for the assets is just wrong... A fresh start by both parties is the only solution... |
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Like Whitney & Bobby...
I'll pass! |
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Edited by
TMommy
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Sun 05/31/15 03:16 PM
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Family and history and mortgage and what will everyone think..
typical reasons for not wanting to actually committ to the divorce. some convince themselves an affair is a safe alternative..eventually gonna bite ya in azz in my opinion |
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Well, to some extent , you are right. But, lets have an example : I know a couple, both of them earn very high salaries, they love each other, they care about each other. The wife ( a bank manager ) leaves home at 8a.m in the morning and comes back tired at 8 p.m. The husband works in an MNC leaves home at 10 p.m and come back at 10a.m next morning. Even on Sundays , they remain busy for some reason. Problem is, they just don't have sex. The guy has a very high sex libido. He has recently met a lady , who is divorced . The guy and the lady has fallen in love with each other . Even if , the guy manages his sexual urge, will he be able to manage his emotional aspect ? If he is not cheating his wife, don't you think, he is actually cheating himself ? He has got just one life , why should not he go ahead ? because he will dishonor his commitment. And the other woman is a fool to have anything to do with him. If he falls in love with someone other than his wife, he needs get a divorce and end things honorably. If his culture won;t permit that, then he needs a new culture |
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Well, to some extent , you are right. But, lets have an example : I know a couple, both of them earn very high salaries, they love each other, they care about each other. The wife ( a bank manager ) leaves home at 8a.m in the morning and comes back tired at 8 p.m. The husband works in an MNC leaves home at 10 p.m and come back at 10a.m next morning. Even on Sundays , they remain busy for some reason. Problem is, they just don't have sex. The guy has a very high sex libido. He has recently met a lady , who is divorced . The guy and the lady has fallen in love with each other . Even if , the guy manages his sexual urge, will he be able to manage his emotional aspect ? If he is not cheating his wife, don't you think, he is actually cheating himself ? He has got just one life , why should not he go ahead ? because he will dishonor his commitment. And the other woman is a fool to have anything to do with him. If he falls in love with someone other than his wife, he needs get a divorce and end things honorably. If his culture won;t permit that, then he needs a new culture |
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Well, to some extent , you are right. But, lets have an example : I know a couple, both of them earn very high salaries, they love each other, they care about each other. The wife ( a bank manager ) leaves home at 8a.m in the morning and comes back tired at 8 p.m. The husband works in an MNC leaves home at 10 p.m and come back at 10a.m next morning. Even on Sundays , they remain busy for some reason. Problem is, they just don't have sex. The guy has a very high sex libido. He has recently met a lady , who is divorced . The guy and the lady has fallen in love with each other . Even if , the guy manages his sexual urge, will he be able to manage his emotional aspect ? If he is not cheating his wife, don't you think, he is actually cheating himself ? He has got just one life , why should not he go ahead ? Bullsh|t by any other name, is still just bullsh|t. You're digging for every reason under the sun, to justify cheating. When your "friend's" wife finds out, I hope her attorney rapes his assets. |
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Well, to some extent , you are right. But, lets have an example : I know a couple, both of them earn very high salaries, they love each other, they care about each other. The wife ( a bank manager ) leaves home at 8a.m in the morning and comes back tired at 8 p.m. The husband works in an MNC leaves home at 10 p.m and come back at 10a.m next morning. Even on Sundays , they remain busy for some reason. Problem is, they just don't have sex. The guy has a very high sex libido. He has recently met a lady , who is divorced . The guy and the lady has fallen in love with each other . Even if , the guy manages his sexual urge, will he be able to manage his emotional aspect ? If he is not cheating his wife, don't you think, he is actually cheating himself ? He has got just one life , why should not he go ahead ? Bullsh|t by any other name, is still just bullsh|t. You're digging for every reason under the sun, to justify cheating. When your "friend's" wife finds out, I hope her attorney rapes his assets. Yep, I'd go along with that |
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Seriously? Don't bring a 3rd party in to fix the problem
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Seriously? Don't bring a 3rd party in to fix the problem Not unless a pipe bursts or something like that, in which case hire a plumber 
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I get stfu'ed whenever I respond to threads on this particular subject. I guess I'll just see how long this will last up here.
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