So ladies I had a lady friend tell me the other day that I was just to nice of a guy so I don't know how to take that any suggestions would be appreciated?

This is a courteous way of telling that she would keep you at an arms distance...possibly, just as a friend, no more.

She means you're nice & all but not really her type & she wouldn't exactly 'get' with you

When I say it. It's because you are a real gentleman who looks out for other people and it's not about themselves.
It's not about looks. Its your personality, how you treat people and your attitude.
If its your looks I would say you're cute.
I hope this gives you some idea.

I agree with Romeo I think you may be barking up the wrong tree, keep your options open.

I would agree that it's probably the kiss of death if you are wanting a relationship,but a good thing if you are happy to be just friends...

Had to think about that one for a few mins. Cos I have been known to call a guy I'm into 'cute', and the guy not really being happy about it, lol.

But if she really said "too nice" I agree, you're barking up the wrong tree.
It's the equivalent of the "You deserve better" that men often use.
Nothing but an attempt to gracefully dump someone, or tell them they're not into them.

I think being called cute is okay because it's a physical attraction

your cute

The exact context is important too. Especially if the person doing the listening is in the middle of eagerly fantasizing about the one doing the talking.


" You're too nice a guy" can be an encouragement, in some situations, and be the exact opposite in others.

Like the "You deserve better" comment mentioned the some guys say. That can mean "you deserve better than ME," or it can mean "you deserve better than WHO YOU HAVE" (in other words, him).

But I agree, that unfortunately, the word "nice" in modern usage almost always means "bland," or "uninteresting, but inoffensive." No matter what it's used to refer to.

It means,' I hope you find a good woman. That good woman is not me.' And/ or ' I'm concerned you may be or end up being a door mat, or get taking advantage of taken for granted'

Sorry...Your screwed.

Women don't want 100% nice guys. They want nice guys who know when and how to be bad... when that is warranted.

What devildog said. I was being too nice with my previous comment

this is what I mean when I say similar things like that.

for me its a polite way of saying I am not interested.

spot on romeo

well it might mean you let women walk all over you

How do you want to take it?


Depends on a lot of things.
The nature of your relationship, the context of the conversation, what's going on at the time.

It's her way of saying you've been friend-zoned. She likes you but not in that way.

Maybe she was hoping you was a bad boy instead

I like nice men. I detest bad boys. Major turn off. Pretentious and arrogant tools.

I have been told by men who were crazy about me that I was too good for them. I believed them because they were not as intelligent as myself and kept telling me that and they had other insecurities, such as being intimidated by a woman who has looks, brains, personality and who is popular with men especially. Nothing scares and thrills a man at the same time than to have a desirable woman. Their insecurities and fear of falling in love with her and then losing her makes them push such a woman away. It depends on the woman. I wouldn't generalize about the reasons why men tell a woman she is too good for him. Depending on the woman, they mean it. They can't handle her. See ya, tools.

"You're too good for me" = preemptive strike. This is the act of an insecure man. Dump the desirable woman before she eventually and inevitably dumps him. He wants to avoid the pain of getting in too deep so he makes the first move early on. Weak dumb azz.