Topic: What makes a good partner
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Wed 07/29/15 09:56 PM
What are some of the key character traits you look for an apartment. Some examples that I think I would like our honesty, outgoing, faithful, and good communication

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Wed 07/29/15 11:03 PM

What are some of the key character traits you look for an apartment. Some examples that I think I would like our honesty, outgoing, faithful, and good communication


i'd like an apartment that clean itself and keep burglars out...

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Wed 07/29/15 11:06 PM
I'd like one that pays for itself.

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Wed 07/29/15 11:38 PM

What are some of the key character traits you look for an apartment. Some examples that I think I would like our honesty, outgoing, faithful, and good communication
I'm going to agree with the OP. An apartment that's honest,so doesn't steal a sock after i've put a pair in the washing machine,or my car keys when i need them quickly. Outgoing: a balcony would be nice. Faithful: doesn't open it's doors and windows to others while i'm out. Good communication : reliable wifi laugh

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Thu 07/30/15 03:29 AM

What are some of the key character traits you look for an apartment. Some examples that I think I would like our honesty, outgoing, faithful, and good communication


Ahahaha. Waiter! I'd like to order whatever it is he's having!

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Thu 07/30/15 03:36 AM


What are some of the key character traits you look for an apartment. Some examples that I think I would like our honesty, outgoing, faithful, and good communication
I'm going to agree with the OP. An apartment that's honest,so doesn't steal a sock after i've put a pair in the washing machine,or my car keys when i need them quickly. Outgoing: a balcony would be nice. Faithful: doesn't open it's doors and windows to others while i'm out. Good communication : reliable wifi laugh


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Thu 07/30/15 03:43 AM

What are some of the key character traits you look for an apartment. Some examples that I think I would like our honesty, outgoing, faithful, and good communication


I fully agree. Were both looking for the same apartment. laugh laugh

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Thu 07/30/15 06:31 AM
I'd like an apartment with quiet or non-existent neighbors

and steps I do not need to climb just to bring in the groceries happy

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Thu 07/30/15 09:54 AM
What are some of the key character traits you look for an apartment

You mean partner?
She checks her typing and doesn't rely on auto correct or auto fill?

Other than that, I don't look for specific traits.
I only look for attraction.
Then, if I manage to get a date and date them, I try really hard to find out what traits they do happen to have, what traits about themselves they value, and how they work together.

IMO "key character traits you look for" is no different than prefabricating what you want other people to be, in your head, and then looking for that.
IME trying to find someone that fits who you want them to be will always lead to failure and ultimately settling with an escalating lack fulfillment or contentment.

IMO these aren't very good "examples" of traits since they aren't really explained. They're too broad:
Some examples that I think I would like our honesty, outgoing, faithful, and good communication

Honesty - How honest? Directly? Brutally? Without any kind of filter whatsoever?

IME what this usually translates to in practical use when based on a vague feeling or ideology of "honesty is good" is "I want a guarantee that anything I might care about, that affects me in ways I care about, I will know about, they will know what I need to know and be upfront with it always, even if it's against their best interest, and not in line with their personality."

Outgoing - How outgoing? Constantly flirting with everyone? Has a looooot of male friends? Constantly competing and watching football?
IME what this usually translates to in practical use is "I don't want to try that hard, and I want some obvious indicators they want and desire me."

Faithful - Everyone you get into a relationship with believes they are going to be faithful, will be faithful, are faithful people.
Might as well say "a good character trait is being a 'good' person."

Good communication - for relationship purposes the compatibility of communication between the people in the relationship is far more important than any one persons communication skills.
So they may have GREAT communication, but you may not, you may simply not understanding what they are communicating.

IME in practical reality this usually translates to "I don't want to learn to communicate. I don't really want to think. I just want to know what's going on in their head, by their actions, I just want it easy and clear and handed to me."
Sometimes with the idea "I'm already a good communicator because I know what I mean, I know what I mean by what I do and say, it's simple and rational, therefore it's easy for them. Problems in communication are their fault."


The biggest traits you use are "honesty" and "good communication."
IME people are honest and communicate.
They can't help it.
Simply because people can't help but communicate what's going on with them.
Most communication is not what is spoken but indirect communication.
IMO it's not really the responsibility of other people to be honest or "good" communicators nearly as much the responsibility of me/their partner to figure out what they're being honest about and communicating.


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Thu 07/30/15 10:59 AM
Off topic.

rofl jk

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Thu 07/30/15 11:39 AM

I'd like the feel of real leather! The kind that says your home now.
When you sit down you want to stay forever. The action that your
want to hold on for dear life but let her rip! The passion of emotion. The smell of cool waterfall blowing in your face!

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Thu 07/30/15 11:48 AM
Not looking for an apartment at all. I got a house, intend to keep it that way :tongue:

A partner can join me if in life if he's got a sense of humour, is emotionally mature, stable, strong, sociable, confident and reliable, not a pushover, an open mind but still a mind of his own, and is by no means a boring f@rt.

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Thu 07/30/15 12:42 PM
One that doesn't leak

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Thu 07/30/15 12:50 PM
Edited by TMommy on Thu 07/30/15 12:51 PM

Not looking for an apartment at all. I got a house, intend to keep it that way :tongue:

A partner can join me if in life if he's got a sense of humour, is emotionally mature, stable, strong, sociable, confident and reliable, not a pushover, an open mind but still a mind of his own, and is by no means a boring f@rt.

agree: sense of humor is must
confidence in himself
intelligence
steady as a rock
man of his word
be nice if he was taller than I am

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Thu 07/30/15 01:04 PM
One that's not too cracked, but not too perfect, a bit of character is always nice.

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Sat 08/01/15 07:54 PM
Has to have a sense of humour
What TMommy and crystal said
Heart of gold
Knows his mind

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Sat 08/01/15 09:36 PM

Off topic.

rofl jk


I agree. And I am not j/k. He is obfuscatory and never answers the topic questions.

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Sun 08/02/15 02:19 AM
I consider using words like obfuscatory off-topic as I have to Google them grumble Even the forum board puts a red squiggle underneath... so I'd say very off-topic :tongue: