Sigh... The most interesting ladies in mingle land are all unavailable.

What now?

What's interesting about the unavailable ones Do tell

Being a trusted friends is really worth it.

all ways new people joining

And the available ones are to far to actually have a personal experience with.

It is not necessary to speak of it. One needs but read a while and they stand out like shining stars.

That makes them unavailable. Not because they actually are but because I would not put them through the drama which would result should I pursue them.

Indeed... hope is an eternal constant that transcends even the reality of life itself.

True... Yet I would hope that my friends understand where I am coming from and remain my friends.

Very true,but there are many hidden treasures here,watching from the sidelines,the quiet observers.Stay in the firing line and they will find you.Best wishes.

Do you think that it might be because they're not putting on an act to impress people because they're not looking for a partner on this forum? That's kind of how I feel about it. I'm not myself and I just post whatever I feel like posting. No need to keep repeating ad infinitum every time there's a new thread what my list of requirements is and no need to keep pompously declaring that I have morals.

interesting observation and one that may actually hold merit.
It may also be that these particular women are a bit more comfortable and at ease and they may also be funny, smart, attractive which is what drew their partner to them in the first place

It could be. Makes sense. Much better than thinking I am attracted only to what I can't have... :)

You are attracted to what you can see and what you can see is only 1% (a guess) of what is available.They are attractive because you can see their attributes.Put yours on display and I have no doubt you will attract the right people.I'm sure it is the the intelligent,thoughtful,warm,caring ladies that have attracted you.They are not loud,ostentatious or putting on an act,they are just being themselves.You don't have to put on a show to be noticed.You just have to be out there.

I find there are a lot of interesting women on here that "are "available...
.. I learned a long time ago to be realistic don't pursue what you can't obtain... sure sure I would like to sprout wings out of my ears and fly..
But I'm not going to do well on it.. probably not going to happen..hmm.. unless .. yes do well instead of dwell on it... I like my way better

What are your options in this scenario?

1. Give it time. More than likely the relationships will fail.

2. Give it time. New people can sign up.

3. Find somewhere else on the planet other than "mingle land" where "interesting ladies" might exist.

4. Take time to figure out it's just wanting what you can't have, with loneliness putting lots of vaseline on the lenses of your perspective, and turn your sight to others.

5. Take time to figure out if you are focused on what's unavailable so you don't have to seriously try with those that are available because you don't really want to date you just don't want to feel lonely, and figure out you get the sense of "belonging" to a group via forum interaction so don't feel lonely, really, you're just holding onto it as part of your identity that brought you here.

6. Sublimate your disappointment with food, beer, and/or masturbating.


There you go, 6 options for you to choose from. Although, most don't allow for immediate gratification.

Hmmm, you do yourself no favors by stating such.
Some will be offended by the unfairness and
untruthfulness of it.

As everyone in this world is different from the next
each carries their own attributes.

If you choose to label, methinks you will get
that back in spades.

I think that you need to look at what these women that draws your interest and apply it to the single women out here. Since honestly there are some fantastic single women out here.

Also I have to wonder what your motive was to post this type of thread. I would think that it could backfire on you and make the single ladies think they are second best and will make your quest a bit harder.

I wish you well in your search..



To bluntly honest I didn't come out here to put on an act. I came out here years ago to be just plain ole me. And I am one that isn't single and well I will still be just plain ole me. To much work the other way.

Move beyond Mingleland.

I can only speak for myself. They're not interesting because they all want the moon on a stick. What woman comes on here and says that she just wants a nice guy? Well, some but supposedly nice guys are as rare as hen's teeth and it's just their romance novel idea of what a nice guy is anyway.