Find it interesting how people who justify dating older people see them as convenient or disposable. You get tired of them, or their usefulness, or their condition; you just move on. Some will promise commitment but the run like rabbits when reality strikes. Too often if they come from out of country they are chomping at the bit to divorce the minute the ink dries on their citizenship status.

Many think that they can adapt to anything. That their view of the world is going to exist in the peers of and older person when in reality many who buck the system have very few friends or family that support them and it can be a HUGE cultural shock where they are extremely lonely or miserable life.

Especially if the older person turns out to be irresponsible, selfish, domineering, or as is often the case abusive; even mentally ill. I have seen many younger "wives" find themselves in terrible circumstances and their families can not or will not help them "escape". The greater society is not that helpful either. This is ESPECIALLY true of minority men who think they are coming over here for one kind of relationship and find out they are little more than the most horrific life as sex slaves or just slaves in general. And the greater society is not unwilling in the least to throw the book at someone who they perceive as a borderline opportunist and you can end up in prison or worse. Especially if the family finds out you might be threatening the resources they expect to inherit. I have seen younger spouses kicked to the curb when and older spouse dies, and that is not a lot better here than anywhere else in the world.

Never has impressed me that many of those who say they want older are more than willing to move across the world for what they see as the "milk and honey" life leaving behind their families (ageing parents), their country (many never served a day defending or in service to their country and have zero interest in serving the new one), or even stuck with any kind of schooling or employment. Many are only remotely connected to their faith but they are the first ones to line up for any freebies from the faith community and it does not matter which one as long as it is free. What does that say about their commitment to anything?

Or how you are going to be able to contribute in a relationship? If you come here and no one will hire you, your certifications and educations are worthless, you can't finance a car, can't get into school or anything else for years behind the people already on waiting lists?

And for all the chatter about maturity. If you were mature would you not be self supporting, self educated, able to afford your own travel? Would you not have already had some first person experiences under your belt that would make for good conversation? I am not talking about "Hard luck" stories or some half baked philosophical blather they red in some out of date publication or read in snippets on line. I am talking about the kind of maturity that having lived some life brings to the table. It is really easy to talk about subjects you haven't lived in person but if you are setting in on a conversation with someone who has that experience under their belt and it is more than philosophy you are constantly playing catch up and often showing how ignorant you are.

Personally I do not want to live some of the "normal" experiences many younger people are interested in again. Even if it was "fun" the first time. And certainly not if it was a lot of work and or maybe particularly painful; such as unemployment, learning about credit, dealing with a rebellious child, dealing with the death of parents are a few but there are many. I REALLY do NOT want to be a Mentor in a relationship. I want to be and equal. And that doesn't include demoting myself to a partner that has to run to keep up with where I am at.

And face it do you want to spend your life slowing down; so and older person can keep up with you? Lot of balogne floating around that people have great health and vitality and are great company even into their senior years and that may be true in 1% or less of the population but the reality is old is old and it is often not near as easy or fun as it might sound.

interesting how many of these guys looking for " Aunties" are not American. Just an observation. Do we have people here that are out to use and exploit other human beings? why yes we do but they do not seem to be advertising on here quite as much


and I would agree..do not fall under the assumption that you are young and clever and can out manipulate or control someone who is older than you are unless you mean someone senile who has lost some of their mental capacities


oh and a bit of FYI if we wanted someone young and dumb who is uneducated, unemployed, wants to escape from his family or hates where he lives and wants to shack up with someone who will take care of him and pay all the bills??


hahahaha there are plenty of those kind here already

Let's tell the rest of the truth here. These young guys here that want older women to date, Want sex with an older woman. Truth be told, It's about sex, and nothing more. They think that sex with older women is better. But here is the thing in most cases. A younger man will sex an older woman till a younger woman that catches his eye the right way comes along. Then he will dump the older woman like yesterday's trash. Unless she is rich. Then he will just slip around behind her back.

Ohhh but once you are matured...and ripen....some older guy might jump at the chance...

I don't think I want to ripen...Have seen bananas that have ripened...It is not a pretty site

I agree.

I do not mean to say anything bad about this topic. But I am wondering what would younger guy and older women have in common with I just wonder how it would work? What would you all have talk about? Beside the obsession.

You would be surprised. My ex bf is 20 yrs younger and we got along wonderfully. But he brought small children into the relationship so it only lasted about 4 yrs.

You do with us old perverts who like young immature girls. JK

Yep, all the old(er) men will be interested. 50+, 60+
And even many in their 40s that are going through penopause ...That's why us gals in our 40s have to resort to the younger blokes.
Not a totally bad deal, in some areas they erm ... do a real fine job
You may miss out on that, but hey, you get the great conversations!

Well am cool about older women I would to date and woman is older than me at least 7 to 10 years deferent I see nothing wrong with all that matters is trust

But there in lies the real fly in the ointment. Trust and confidence is hard to come by when one partner is significantly younger than the other. For a while a younger partner may be enraptured with their choice but living in and environment where they hear day after day "I know you really don't love me it is about my money or I helped you do this and now I am old and ugly and I know you are cheating." and it begins to feel futile. The fussing starts and the distance grows. Maybe originally there was no temptation great enough but after a while the parallel life chips away and the resolve begins to crumble. When someone is so significantly older there can't be much of a feeling you are "in it together". But the rage and disappointment festers and it becomes cruel to all. Especially if one partner can't adjust to what is ordinary life for a younger partner like having to deal with children's needs and the needs of and older partner. We joke about being in a sandwich but it is not a lot of fun when you are the person in the middle being torn apart by the two sides.

As I already said a true love never see any age bar + distance +color + money etc. .it just needs two beautiful people who touch each others hearts and when they see that they honestly trust each other and its strong enough then yes that time they don't see age .Good Luck

Sorry to have to say this, but I don't like today's chart music, for starters.. I get that you young people do, but I come from a completely different generation. I could never picture myself, sitting around a younger guy and his friends. I wouldn't know what to talk about. And it wouldn't be of any interest to me what so-and-so did at college, when blahdy-blah saw the teacher in the hallway. How would I even begin to join in with such a conversation? I also don't like nightclubs. Wonder how you'd fair, but not willing to find out. What do your family and friends think of you dating older women? I can guarantee they won't be supportive of it. Especially not your parents. That's the way the cookie crumbles.

The heart wants what it wants... Attraction has no age limit.. The law does though..lol