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Topic: dating without commitment is more fun or not?
wasqas12
Joined Wed 07/01/15 Posts: 18 |
my life says its more fun
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wasqas12
Joined Wed 07/01/15 Posts: 18 |
QUOTE: smile and share smile ;)
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wasqas12
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no1phD
Joined Tue 01/07/14 Posts: 27445 |
Sure when you are first .. single..
Going out on numerous casual dates is fun and exciting..ohhh.. look at me Mr or Mrs popularity . But once that constant need.. for self validation and you've had your feel of meaningless.. casual one night stands.. all be it exciting.. and life affirming.. you will eventually find yourself wanting something real you will find yourself longing for more substance.. a true and honest and full time committed relationship that does not revolve around your own self gratification..yup. and when this day comes and believe me it will! it always does... you will seek out a person to have a loving full-time relationship with... but years later when you are old and a dry withered person.. you will at least be able to look back on your younger days ..when you dated.. anyone who would say yes to you.. and look back on those days fondly..lol
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no1phD
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RustyKitty
Joined Fri 05/15/15 Posts: 1601 |
Dating without a commitment is good for me at the moment anyway....
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ciretom
Joined Wed 06/18/14 Posts: 4855 |
QUOTE: dating without commitment is more fun or not? Dating should be fun either way. If dating isn't fun at all, then it doesn't really matter if there's a commitment or not...you're not having fun. Other than that, commitment doesn't really have any kind of relationship with the amount of fun you have dating or on a date. If it does, if having a commitment, or avoiding a commitment, makes you feel better you probably shouldn't be dating as you're ultimately either trying to avoid responsibility or build social reciprocity/selfish fulfillment in some way. |
adivorcedone
Joined Wed 08/12/15 Posts: 7591 |
I think I can get used to the idea of being on a perpetual date. As dating is fun and exciting and we are always on our best behavior, or we are always at our best...lol...just saying...
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dnhblue
Joined Tue 07/08/14 Posts: 1109 |
QUOTE: Sure when you are first .. single.. Going out on numerous casual dates is fun and exciting..ohhh.. look at me Mr or Mrs popularity . But once that constant need.. for self validation and you've had your feel of meaningless.. casual one night stands.. all be it exciting.. and life affirming.. you will eventually find yourself wanting something real you will find yourself longing for more substance.. a true and honest and full time committed relationship that does not revolve around your own self gratification..yup. and when this day comes and believe me it will! it always does... you will seek out a person to have a loving full-time relationship with... but years later when you are old and a dry withered person.. you will at least be able to look back on your younger days ..when you dated.. anyone who would say yes to you.. and look back on those days fondly..lol Not always true, just ask Hugh Hefner. |
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PiquantPeter
Joined Fri 01/22/16 Posts: 17 |
It seems to me that dating should logically begin without commitment. It is not unreasonable to date more than one person at first. How can you commit to someone before you know them. Commitment grows with the relationship. The important thing is to always be honest with them and always carefully consider their feelings. Why would you do otherwise with someone who may become very important to you?
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Maximax05
Joined Sat 01/23/16 Posts: 1 |
Hi
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mackengift
Joined Fri 04/18/14 Posts: 30 |
QUOTE: It seems to me that dating should logically begin without commitment. It is not unreasonable to date more than one person at first. How can you commit to someone before you know them. Commitment grows with the relationship. The important thing is to always be honest with them and always carefully consider their feelings. Why would you do otherwise with someone who may become very important to you? |
peggy122
Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525 |
QUOTE: Sure when you are first .. single.. Going out on numerous casual dates is fun and exciting..ohhh.. look at me Mr or Mrs popularity . But once that constant need.. for self validation and you've had your feel of meaningless.. casual one night stands.. all be it exciting.. and life affirming.. you will eventually find yourself wanting something real you will find yourself longing for more substance.. a true and honest and full time committed relationship that does not revolve around your own self gratification..yup. and when this day comes and believe me it will! it always does... you will seek out a person to have a loving full-time relationship with... but years later when you are old and a dry withered person.. you will at least be able to look back on your younger days ..when you dated.. anyone who would say yes to you.. and look back on those days fondly..lol Oh my God! I have to frame this! It's so untypical of you to make tempered or heartfelt comments. HAWT!!! 
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Cracker813
Joined Sun 10/16/11 Posts: 218 |
QUOTE: my life says its more fun I am confused by your question. Isn't dating without commitment the whole idea at first? Isn't dating without commitment the reason someone goes on dates; to see if you are compatible with the other person. Isn't dating without commitment cheaper than a divorce both financially and spiritually? When I read a profile where the lady is looking for marriage makes me want to run the other way. I always thought the commitment came after dating casually. I never understood why people rush to having sex without getting to know each other, especially before putting the ring on the finger. |
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peggy122
Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525 |
Dating without a commitment is definitely more fun and possibly a wise choice for half the planet. The " statistics" don't show encouraging evidence that humans are that great at commitment.
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peggy122
Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525 |
QUOTE: It seems to me that dating should logically begin without commitment. It is not unreasonable to date more than one person at first. How can you commit to someone before you know them. Commitment grows with the relationship. The important thing is to always be honest with them and always carefully consider their feelings. Why would you do otherwise with someone who may become very important to you?  
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Goofball73
Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33900 |
Here is the problem with dating.....mixed messages. For example.....
One person wants to start out slow, so the other person respects that and doesn't persist...they take their time. The person who said they wanted to start slow then becomes impatient. WTF???? It goes both ways...men and women do this sort of thing, and it is the one thing that causes dating to give you a migraine.   A wise person once told me that if you are really into a person then you will go for that person....you will be persistent....even if said person enters your life at that moment when you least expected it. I advice date freely until you meet someone who just makes you wanna do silly stuff that you wouldn't normally do. |
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Goofball73
Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33900 |
Here is the problem with dating.....mixed messages. For example.....
One person wants to start out slow, so the other person respects that and doesn't persist...they take their time. The person who said they wanted to start slow then becomes impatient. WTF???? It goes both ways...men and women do this sort of thing, and it is the one thing that causes dating to give you a migraine. A wise person once told me that if you are really into a person then you will go for that person....you will be persistent....even if said person enters your life at that moment when you least expected it. I advice date freely until you meet someone who just makes you wanna do silly stuff that you wouldn't normally do. |
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peggy122
Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525 |
QUOTE: Here is the problem with dating.....mixed messages. For example..... One person wants to start out slow, so the other person respects that and doesn't persist...they take their time. The person who said they wanted to start slow then becomes impatient. WTF???? It goes both ways...men and women do this sort of thing, and it is the one thing that causes dating to give you a migraine. A wise person once told me that if you are really into a person then you will go for that person....you will be persistent....even if said person enters your life at that moment when you least expected it. I advice date freely until you meet someone who just makes you wanna do silly stuff that you wouldn't normally do. And even after you commit to that person who inspires you to do those silly things, still double up on your panadol and advil because the migraines keep on coming.! :)There's just no way to half-*** this thing. Relationships take WORK ! But hopefully with the right person , it will be a highly rewarding work. :) Oh God ... There I go killing everyone's morning buzz. My apologies... |
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Goofball73
Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33900 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: Here is the problem with dating.....mixed messages. For example..... One person wants to start out slow, so the other person respects that and doesn't persist...they take their time. The person who said they wanted to start slow then becomes impatient. WTF???? It goes both ways...men and women do this sort of thing, and it is the one thing that causes dating to give you a migraine. A wise person once told me that if you are really into a person then you will go for that person....you will be persistent....even if said person enters your life at that moment when you least expected it. I advice date freely until you meet someone who just makes you wanna do silly stuff that you wouldn't normally do. And even after you commit to that person who inspires you to do those silly things, still double up on your panadol and advil because the migraines keep on coming.! :)There's just no way to half-*** this thing. Relationships take WORK ! But hopefully with the right person , it will be a highly rewarding work. :) Oh God ... There I go killing everyone's morning buzz. My apologies... And this is where having great sex and communication help. 
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peggy122
Joined Sun 12/27/15 Posts: 6525 |
QUOTE: QUOTE: QUOTE: Here is the problem with dating.....mixed messages. For example..... One person wants to start out slow, so the other person respects that and doesn't persist...they take their time. The person who said they wanted to start slow then becomes impatient. WTF???? It goes both ways...men and women do this sort of thing, and it is the one thing that causes dating to give you a migraine. A wise person once told me that if you are really into a person then you will go for that person....you will be persistent....even if said person enters your life at that moment when you least expected it. I advice date freely until you meet someone who just makes you wanna do silly stuff that you wouldn't normally do. And even after you commit to that person who inspires you to do those silly things, still double up on your panadol and advil because the migraines keep on coming.! :)There's just no way to half-*** this thing. Relationships take WORK ! But hopefully with the right person , it will be a highly rewarding work. :) Oh God ... There I go killing everyone's morning buzz. My apologies... And this is where having great sex and communication help. Truer words gave never been spoken
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anote
Joined Mon 12/09/13 Posts: 1715 |
No fun
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