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I would disagree actually for it was not enough is sex necessary between you and your spouse? depending on health issues, age, etc most would say yes how often, how much? up to the couple involved when it is absent in a relationship does it takes it's toll on it? yes over time it does and one or both partners do miss it can a couple stay together without it? of course many abstain for periods of time due to reasons such as child birth or illness or they are separated due to work |
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Edited by
peggy122
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Fri 01/29/16 09:43 AM
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Sex along with marriage are very important, but is not the anchor that will keep it together.. Like Dodo, when there is a health issue, the other connections you have with your spouse take over and sex is on the backburner. I am married 34 years and hubby has alzheimers/dimensia..sex is out the window..I am not a wife anymore, just his caregiver.. poor guy, our anniversary is actually tomorrow, and he doesn't even know :(  You and DodoDavid are AMAZING examples of marriage commitment and love. We could learn a lot from you guys! 
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I think the older you get the better you get at sex
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Friendship combined with love is the strongest glue, with it you can get through a lot but you need the full package to really succeed in a long marriage.
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Edited by
BHawkins
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Fri 01/29/16 10:47 AM
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Basically, great sex is the glue to keep the relationship together... All I am saying... ....& here I was thinking you were like that dos equis guy. You're a mere mortal after all. That glue comes in many forms, sex being the most temporary imo, for something to last Is the dos Equis guy a God or something ...he drinks a beer I don't...another difference between him, as I am a mere mortal, who happens to like that particular glue.. All I can say... He's "the most interesting man" guy from the commercials. The last pic you were using reminded me of the guy & I've found 90% of your posts I've read, well worded & full of wisdom ......therefore I've dubbed thee dos equis. It's a compliment |
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I totally agree with what you say and the woman' s point of you is relevant . .... All I am saying.
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We are sexual beings and that is why sex has always been, is and will be a matter of great importance, especially because it is a common desire in everyone. Sex is also one of the greatest tools of intimacy between the couple and that is why it has a great influence in the mood between the two. Unfortunately, sex has been seen as something bad, impure, tiring, selfish and even fleshly for many couples who stop having sex after marriage.
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Sex along with marriage are very important, but is not the anchor that will keep it together.. Like Dodo, when there is a health issue, the other connections you have with your spouse take over and sex is on the backburner. I am married 34 years and hubby has alzheimers/dimensia..sex is out the window..I am not a wife anymore, just his caregiver.. poor guy, our anniversary is actually tomorrow, and he doesn't even know :( 34 years... Wow... Congratulations..while I understand the reasons for sex taking a back burner under certain circumstances, but under normal healthy circumstances??? Anyway, I am just a guy and my brain tends to focus on one thing at a time... Some say , the only thing.. ha ha ... Yet all the other stuff gets done .. Yes including taking out the trash , washing up the dishes and oh oh .. cleaning up the bathrooms.. A healthy relationship should include sex, passion, exploration, and whatever is comfortable between the two...helps the bonding processes, the ties that unite... |
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Most people cheat based on sexual issues. Is sex the anchor of marriage or its an excuse for horny immoral people? no, most/all people cheat because they have no self control... a marriage based on sex is bound to end because of sex... |
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Eyy
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Sex and marriage? A groom waits at the altar with a huge smile on his face. His best man asks, "Why do you look so excited?" The groom replies, "I just had the best blow job I have ever had in my entire life, and I am marrying the wonderful woman who gave it to me." The bride waits at the other end of the aisle with a huge smile on her face. Her maid of honor asks, "Why do you look so excited?" The bride replies, "I just gave the last blow job of my entire life." Ouch !!!??!! |
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Most people cheat based on sexual issues. Is sex the anchor of marriage or its an excuse for horny immoral people? no, most/all people cheat because they have no self control... a marriage based on sex is bound to end because of sex... Mightymoe stated my feelings 
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Most people cheat based on sexual issues. Is sex the anchor of marriage or its an excuse for horny immoral people? I don't buy that most people cheat based on sexual issues. If you ask a cheater if he was having sex with his partner 9 times out of ten he will say yes and that even the sex was good. Many even had sex on the same day they cheat. But cheating is rarely about the absence of sex, or even good sex, it is the psychological dysfunction of the cheating spouse needing the chase or the drama buzz of doing something illicit. Occasionally it is to spite the spouse but more often than not it is self spite or spiting someone else such as parents, siblings, friends, or even children they are jealous of. It is a power play or the manipulation of a temporary partner or and addiction to any sex satisfying or otherwise or access to other things (often alcohol, drugs, even gambling ) that makes cheating a compulsion. The majority of cheaters when interviewed in depth admitting to cheating multiple times and that spouses had to know if they were even remotely paying attention. Spouse often report to knowing that the cheating behavior was pre-existing to the relationship and frequent through out the relationship. Many times cheaters have no desire to leave the relationships they are in and will beg for forgiveness, try to buy forgiveness, or even make the dependent spouse even more dependent rather than exit to the their freedom to "do" who ever. They may do this with physical or financial threats but often it is the threats of alienation of children but they clearly don't care that much about the children who are often neglected. Often they loose all attraction for whom ever they are cheating with if they do acquire or are abandoned to their "freedom" and it is no longer cheating. Or they simply replace the "fling" with another side "fling". |
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" Sex is also one of the greatest tools of intimacy between the couple and that is why it has a great influence in the mood between the two. Unfortunately, sex has been seen as something bad, impure, tiring, selfish and even fleshly for many couples who stop having sex after marriage. "
I'm not sure I understand all of what you mean here. I don't see sex as a 'tool' of intimacy. This implies that you use your other tools of intimacy to build to sex. Therefore thinking your missing your partner's best quality's while trying to achieve greatest intimacy. My wife and I, at a party, separated to speak to individual friends. After a short still across the room from eachother, our eyes met and we had a lengthy non verbal conversation that had nothing to do with plans for later that evening. Afterword I was drunk and did not please her very well that night. Our intimacy was better then the sex, that night. She and I (and lovers I have been with after her) have had great sex without intimacy at all. Your last point of sex being seen as something bad (examples) "for many couples who stop having sex after marriage" I don't get at all. What does fleshly mean? Even if they stopped having sex why do they consider it bad? Impure? Maybe I'm just not smart enough. May I ask you (and others) to explain? |
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