People without out photos scare me...I avoid them...Especially the ones who say they are having "technical difficulties" getting a photo on here...Also the ones that ask for my email so they can send me a photo!!!

No photo no chat... the reason being..
So let's say you spend a week getting to know this person.. you like them you make each other laugh... you start to think wow maybe this is the person for me... and then the other person finally post a picture of themselves...
.. and holy guacamole Batman..
They look like they fell out of the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down.... okay I realize what I'm saying is not politically correct.... but let's face it! People like to be attracted to each other..... so now anyways.!.. you are in a tough spot.... how do you tell this person you spent a week getting to know... that you now no longer wish to communicate with them ..because they simply aren't what you were looking for in the looks department....
This is why I have a strict policy..
No photo no chat chat... why put yourself in a awkward position...
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I have contacted the faceless, turns out they are front and center, in dealing with the general public, and are really attractive , so they only send a pic if they are interested. The other faceless could be scammers... Just saying..

When I first came on the internet many years ago due to my contract with work I couldn't put one up. I had photo's that were private and if I contacted someone I would enclose one.

So I guess I am more lenient than most due to not having one in the beginning.

Now if I am talking to someone and I start to get interested a bit more than email buddy then I will ask for one.

I actually find the scammers have some of the best photo's those are easily found out by doing a image search.

So I personally don't care either way I have had some wonderful conversations with a people way before ever seeing what they look like.

Everyone does what they feel comfortable with.

I also have a iron clad rule. There will be a video session before I do a meet and greet just to make sure whom I have been talking to is the person I will be meeting.

For the people who come here only for friendship, I would imagine that a pic doesn't matter that much, but for those who are here for romantic reasons, visuals do matter. And I agree with Sitka. There is no way I would agree to meet with a person unless I had enjoyed several Skype encounters with them first. I will not be travelling thousands of miles, only to discover that I have the hots for a 70 year old toothless man.

Not if given either of those reasons.
Those are bad excuses.


- At best either too lazy to deal with technical difficulties, too stupid to deal with simplistic technical difficulties, and/or too impatient to deal with technical difficulties and inability to delay gratification until they're dealt with.


- At best they've already judged me shallow or they've just labeled me in with everyone else so they are avoiding a general type.
Which means they've either figured out I'm shallow or that general type from my profile but contacted me anyway, they just don't see me as an individual which means they've ultimately just randomly contacted me and most likely due to my picture, or they are really insecure control freaks constantly over thinking and analyzing things to try and keep themselves from getting hurt in any way possible, avoiding even the most minor risk.

None of that says anything all that positive about dating them or really talking to them on a one on one basis if you're trying to actually date.

So, if given those reasons I would just ignore their note.


If you don't really care if you date or not, there's no real reason to have a picture on a profile.

If you actually want to date, there is no justifiable or positive reason not to have a picture on a profile.
Except maybe if the entire site is comprised of all photoless profiles. I haven't seen one of those since dial up went away, though.


They're usually scammers if they're trying to get your email.
Used to be this was a better way to go, though.
Used to be you could set up a free disposable email, that had no connection to you via ISP, or phone number, or name, or anything.
You could scan any attachment for viruses or malware or anything.

Now it's difficult to find a reputable email service that doesn't ask for at least a phone number to text confirmation, although a burner phone would work for that, but if you have other social media sites it can phish around and build up a database on all your stuff.

And if you use a smart phone, you're screwed if you've ever downloaded an app over like 5 mb, as it's pretty much guaranteed to contain tracking and snooping software.

...I think I got off track.

Lord I just about spit coffee all over my screen..
I did travel only about a 150 miles one time for a meet and greet I had to be there anyway...
That meet and greet is the reason for a video chat before I agree to meet. He was just nasty... ewww nasty no shower... I couldn't get out of there fast enough...giggle

Although I personally don't use Skype I use Viber anymore....

Thank you...

I agree A few Skypes and phone calls.

No1 you wrote what I was thinking. Lol even wrote how I would say it.

I do have to admit I have been chatting to a couple of guys and when they sent a photo they weren't that bad, very pleasant to look at. It was the meet in person that killed it lol.
So I have added Skype to the list.

Oh God Sitka!!!! How much time did you spend on the date with that grime... cough... I mean guy???

no profile pic
no talkie

i wont talk to nobody who dont have no photo

The only thing I want to add, is that it's a mistake to think you KNOW anything about someone, just because they don't have a pic up. Or a really recent one, for that matter.

As Sitka says, for practical reasons, it's logical to make sure you DO know who (or what) you are dealing with before you take any risks.

But there is no need at all to make any declarations about someone, based on this.

I point this out, because possible THE most common behavior I see people exhibiting in these kinds of forums, is to think they have to make pronouncements and deeply personal decisions about each and every person they deal with.

I recommend an approach sort of loosely based on an old wine commercial I saw. Their tag line was "we will sell no wine, before it's time."

My application here is, don't make any hard decisions about another person, until you HAVE to, in order to proceed. This helps cut down on your fears or prejudices turning you into an inadvertent hermit.

Funny I have chatted with those with photo's and those without them.. I assure you some of the biggest azzes are those at times with a pic up.. Even with a pic up you have no clue the person behind it till you chat with them..

But then I'm here for the forums and the ones I chat with along the way so to me it does not matter since it is just friends..

Now if I'm looking for more yea I expect a photo and a bit of research.. Seems many with pics even though they seem normally damn if it don't come down to them expecting a private photo with skin showing~~

All I ask is for a normal every day conversation.. If they can pass that then yes I do want to see a pic before I was to agree to meet them and they must be local. I'm not travel to meet others cause I'm planted in Texas and not moving... And would not ask it from anyone else..

How do you know their attractive? In this "matrix" you must take someone at their word,that the pic is theirs. I talk to people without a pick, but I am more on guard.

All in all pictures are great to see to put a face with the words..

What gets me is those that fall for those perfect pictures.. Here they are with a pic right out of a magazine and they have others falling all over them..

My only suggestion is even if they have a pic up research and let google be your friend.. People can post pictures all the time it does not mean it is really them...

And even pictures do not tell you how that person is face to face.. I have met those with pictures up and went WTF... cause they did not look like the pic or they were totally different once you meet them, then what you had gathered through e-mails..

I don't do the Viber/Skype due to it is local where you can actually meet them face to face or it's a no go for me. And this is normally after approximately two weeks of e-mails getting to know a bit about them first.. Normally by that time it gives you a bit more insight if you really want to meet that person or not ...

No photo no chat. You might be hooking up with family members or perhaps your ex(which would turn out to be a nightmare. Lol)

I am taking the same stance... no photo, no talkie..