Do you believe you have the right to ask ...
someone possibly on your first date ...
how many sexual partners they have had...
in the past ... and would you expect the truth ...
or even tell the true ... if asked ...

No I don't think it's appropriate on the very first date.
And how can you be sure if they are telling the truth anyway?
That's pushing the issue if you ask me and sexual innuendo's right from the starting gate turn me off. Next!!!

I wouldn't, but I do require a blood test and a pap smear...

The Roster?... You want us to reveal the Roster?

know ...
I had just saw a chimerical...
of a show ... that will ask this ? ...
and will be on a lie detector test ...
and will revealed... to see...
if you believe these tests ...
and of coarse ... I know you can beat...
them ... but I would not be a shamed if asked...
did not ask for details... just how many ...


and welcome nettyblue ...
You will find a lot more ...
intelligent people on this site ...
that you will not decide next ... maybe for u...bye bye...

Thank you I sure hope so.

Sure you have the right to ask!

You just don't have the right to expect them to think positively about you for it, answer the question, answer the question honestly, not be upset or annoyed, and not to judge you for asking.


Probably.
There's a huge grand canyon between expecting the truth and knowing that I've got it though. And they're not responsible for leading me from one side to the other.

Even if they tell me the absolute truth there's nothing that says their tone, body language, attitude, facial expression, and mannerisms aren't going to be misunderstood by me.
The question may have just made them uncomfortable, but I interpret that as being closed off and dishonest.

Other than that what are the potential consequences to their answer?
1. They answer honestly.
Then it's either:
A. It becomes a point of contention and insecurity and argument and judgment and withdrawn defense.

B. It doesn't really matter, but I've waded into a mine field where a million other questions could have served the same purpose without the associated danger of miscommunication missteps.

C. They give me factual information that has no context.
So they had 30 sexual partners.
Was 27 of those from when they were 16 and due to a bout with drug dependency and alcoholism?
Was 29 of them dryhumping, private cam shows for college tuition, and hand jobs but they define that as sexual partners?
Were they all one time deals, with people they dated for 6 months before sleeping with them, and 15 of them died, since they live on an army base in the middle of a war?
Were a bunch of them all while they were married to someone in a coma?
Did sleeping with them lead to some sort of epiphany where they changed their life and they haven't had sex with anybody for 10 years?
Did they have 29 one night stands, and the last person they slept with lead to a committed monogamous relationship lasting 15 years and that's the only one they care about but think about constantly?


2. They answer dishonestly.
Then it's either:
A. I don't know they are being dishonest until later, after I've built a bond with them, then the truth comes out, and I get to question "what else did they lie about?"

B. I immediately know they are being dishonest.
If B. it then leads to either:
a. I just look for an escape from the dirty liar.
b. I accept that they lied and/or look to argue with them until they tell me the "truth," putting me right back where I started, because who knows if that is really it since they already lied to me once, maybe they're doing it again.




Lots of people ask the question though.
It just doesn't offer any useful information.
At best it's used for self righteous judgment or confirmation bias.

whoa, whoa, whoa little horsey. Do you know what kind of poo poo Strom you will start with that onee?????

May I make a suggestion? You have a doctor, they have a doctor? You make app for blood test for him/her with your doctor. She/he makes app for blood test for you. Everyone is happy. No one has to pullout guns. Otay, bak to drinkin.....

Are you asking them how many sexual partners they've had in the past..
So you can get a gauge on how experienced they are?..

I really do love u guys


now I said nothing about a
blood test and pap smear lmao

and cireton always so logical...


thanks ...
now I wander how the show will go...
who needs reality tv...
when you can come in here

now look here Mr... you just spoiled all my fun ...

An inappropriate question asked by a socially inept voyeur...

Sophistication is the art of knowing when to appear naïve ...

The best answer is: I hope you are the last...

very sweet

It is definitely no-ones business but my own, as to with whom I have had sexual relations with .... And you do not
have a 'right' to ask..
What happened before you is moot.
You should not expect the truth because it is NONE of your business...

well that is your opinion and you are in titled to it ... now how many was that

In a way I agree, it always pisses me off too, but on the other hand side... if he's been shagging hundreds of women, I'd kind of like to know:
High risk factor
Says something about that person

Whether they lie or now, I guess you'll never know. Matter of trust.

No, I don't think it's the appropriate time. In any case, you probably won't get an accurate number.

absolutely the man was coming off a cheating relationship ... so this was his ? now to women ... on this show ...