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Topic: Shallow Hal
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Thu 05/19/16 05:52 PM
Edited by no1phD on Thu 05/19/16 05:59 PM
What constitutes being shallow..?

I ask because I know someone..
They have come to me with a particular problem.. that they are having ...a inner struggle...
Here's the dealio..lol..
This person who has come to me !

He said To me ..I have met someone!..
She is amazing.. she has everything going for her.. I have been dating her for over 3 weeks now.. we have the same sense of humor, we make each other laugh we make each other feel good.. I thought she was perfect..

I said to him ..what do you mean you thought?..
He says ..I have seen her for over three weeks now.. things were going great... then the time came for us to be intimate.. he said he took off his clothes she liked what she saw..!
Then it was her turn to undress
She removed her bra.. and her boobs dropped to her knees..... at that moment he felt crushed.. and no! not by her boobs..lol.. he said he was disappointed.. he could not get over how droopy her boobs were...
He said to me.. every time they went out together she highlighted her breasts in a beautiful bra.. they seemed absolutely perfect... he didn't think there was an issue...

At this point.. I said to him no one's perfect
I said to him !well that's a little shallow of yourself...

He said yes! I think the same thing I feel horrible about it... but I just can't get past the fact that her boobs droop... it really bothers him.!. I can tell that he truly likes this person.. he says
He would like to make it work between them.... but no matter how hard he tries he just can't get over.. her droopy boobs... he feels like he was deceived a little bit.. because she always seemed to make her breast seem so firm and perky. Within her bra and clothing. at least from what he could tell.....
He doesn't know what to do now..
He says he feels like he is being Shallow.. but he also knows that he wants to be with somebody... that doesn't have this issue..so..is he.?.
You know! Shallow Hal..lol..

motowndowntown's photo
Thu 05/19/16 05:56 PM
Ya know what the average bra size is in the over sixty set?

38 long.

mariaclaracruz23's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:03 PM

What constitutes being shallow..?

I ask because I know someone..
They have come to me with a particular problem.. that they are having ...a inner struggle...
Here's the dealio..lol..
This person who has come to me !

He said To me ..I have met someone!..
She is amazing.. she has everything going for her.. I have been dating her for over 3 weeks now.. we have the same sense of humor, we make each other laugh we make each other feel good.. I thought she was perfect..

I said to him ..what do you mean you thought?..
He says ..I have seen her for over three weeks now.. things were going great... then the time came for us to be intimate.. he said he took off his clothes she liked what she saw..!
Then it was her turn to undress
She removed her bra.. and her boobs dropped to her knees..... at that moment he felt crushed.. and no! not by her boobs..lol.. he said he was disappointed.. he could not get over how droopy her boobs were...
He said to me.. every time they went out together she highlighted her breasts in a beautiful bra.. they seemed absolutely perfect... he didn't think there was an issue...

At this point.. I said to him no one's perfect
I said to him !well that's a little shallow of yourself...

He said yes! I think the same thing I feel horrible about it... but I just can't get past the fact that her boobs droop... it really bothers him.!. I can tell that he truly likes this person.. he says
He would like to make it work between them.... but no matter how hard he tries he just can't get over.. her droopy boobs... he feels like he was deceived a little bit.. because she always seemed to make her breast seem so firm and perky. Within her bra and clothing. at least from what he could tell.....
He doesn't know what to do now..
He says he feels like he is being Shallow.. but he also knows that he wants to be with somebody... that doesn't have this issue..so..is he.?.
You know! Shallow Hal..lol..


He should not feel that way hmm.
So all along its just the boobs that kept him coming for weeks?
If he is old, he has no right to be disappointed with a droopy bust. Lol

Robxbox73's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:05 PM

Ya know what the average bra size is in the over sixty set?

38 long.


Whoa, she's a brick, pom pom pom pom pow, house. She's mighty mighty, just lettin it all hang out!

Candiapples's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:09 PM
Everyone is shallow..some maybe not as much as others. It's human nature no matter what anyone says. If he can't get past it then it is what it is. Yeah she deceived him in a way but she was also making the most of what she has. They make those bras for a reason. Just too bad for him since he thinks she's perfect in every other way.

Hmm wonder what he would do if the one he loved one day lost a beast to cancer? Gotta think about that but then again love and lust are very different. :smile:

no1phD's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:15 PM
Edited by no1phD on Thu 05/19/16 06:16 PM

Everyone is shallow..some maybe not as much as others. It's human nature no matter what anyone says. If he can't get past it then it is what it is. Yeah she deceived him in a way but she was also making the most of what she has. They make those bras for a reason. Just too bad for him since he thinks she's perfect in every other way.

Hmm wonder what he would do if the one he loved one day lost a beast to cancer? Gotta think about that but then again love and lust are very different. :smile:
.. yes I understand the point of view you are making..
But once you are in a committed long-term relationship you're in for a penny in for a pound so to speak..
But in his case it has only been 3 weeks.. and like he said he does have feelings for her..but..lol

no photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:16 PM
Edited by RebelArcher on Thu 05/19/16 06:23 PM
The friend sounds like royal dlck. I hope he dumps her, she finds the real love of her life who accepts her as is...and she surprises HIM by getting a boob job that's SPECTACULAR

no photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:17 PM
Edited by 2KidsMom on Thu 05/19/16 06:21 PM

Yes..Hal is being shallow...smh..
If Hal really loves her...get over it.
Hope she isn't as shallow if Hal has an accident and his diccck.falls offwhoa

I would hope my heart attracts..I want to be attractive from the inside out..looks fade.
Love doesnt

no1phD's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:20 PM
It would be the same as getting to know someone developing real feelings for them they develop real feelings for you... and then a few weeks down the road you discover they don't and can not hold a passport.... and you yourself really want to go travelling.... is that cause enough to end the relationship..?..
And how does one end a relationship..
On such morally Shaky Ground

mariaclaracruz23's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:20 PM

The friend sounds like royal dlck. I hope he dumps her, she finds the real love of her who accepts her as is...and she surprises HIM by getting a boob job that's SPECTACULAR


Hahaha. Exactly.
I wonder what the woman thinks about Hal after he takes his clothes.
There must be a bad comment too.pitchfork

no1phD's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:22 PM

The friend sounds like royal dlck. I hope he dumps her, she finds the real love of her who accepts her as is...and she surprises HIM by getting a boob job that's SPECTACULAR
... yeah he is kind of a dick..
Butt it doesn't change the fact a person has to be true to their own self..

no photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:23 PM

It would be the same as getting to know someone developing real feelings for them they develop real feelings for you... and then a few weeks down the road you discover they don't and can not hold a passport.... and you yourself really want to go travelling.... is that cause enough to end the relationship..?..
And how does one end a relationship..
On such morally Shaky Ground


Just say it..be honest about your reasons.
And leave them alone.

RustyKitty's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:23 PM
is that kinda like noticing a guys 'bulge'.. but when revealed, there's a wee weenie..? ya think big tall fella got a big one? not necessarily...just sayin..
As for Hal.. he's came across a deal-breaker.. he should move on. Let her down gently...
We are all shallow in our own way - it is just a line between what we can accept and not accept..
Toe nail fungus would be a dealbreaker for me.. call me shallow.

no1phD's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:24 PM


Yes..Hal is being shallow...smh..
If Hal really loves her...get over it.
Hope she isn't as shallow if Hal has an accident and his diccck.falls offwhoa

I would hope my heart attracts..I want to be attractive from the inside out..looks fade.
Love doesnt

.. you're such a romantic..wink

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:29 PM
Edited by IgorFrankensteen on Thu 05/19/16 06:30 PM
"Shallowness" is one of the concern factors of dating which has always been on my "most annoying stupid concepts" list.

Mainly, because it's one of several of what I think of as "cover-up" concepts. People use "shallowness" as a cartoonish way to refuse to directly face up to real world concerns and worries. Worse, once the idea of a person being "shallow" became popular, it was turned into a manipulative label to try to force people, or guilt trip them into forcing themselves, to live in a way what was non-stop uncomfortable and wrong for them.

So. In this case, I see a couple of mistakes being made. First and most obvious, is to try to "fix" it by addressing it as a question of "shallowness." By doing so, the possible choices for this guy are reduced to

* lie to himself and the woman by PRETENDING to like saggy breasts;

* label himself as a "shallow" person, and thereby excuse himself from learning anything about real life.

The other thing I see wrong here, is that you are describing our friend as thinking that she led him on, when what really happened, was that he made assumptions about her which proved incorrect. I would encourage you to point that out to him, mainly because there's the danger that I see so many people fall in to, where they BLAME the other person for their own disappointments, and either are rude to them, or mistreat them, or try to guilt trip them in some way.

Candiapples's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:33 PM


Everyone is shallow..some maybe not as much as others. It's human nature no matter what anyone says. If he can't get past it then it is what it is. Yeah she deceived him in a way but she was also making the most of what she has. They make those bras for a reason. Just too bad for him since he thinks she's perfect in every other way.

Hmm wonder what he would do if the one he loved one day lost a beast to cancer? Gotta think about that but then again love and lust are very different. :smile:
.. yes I understand the point of view you are making..
But once you are in a committed long-term relationship you're in for a penny in for a pound so to speak..
But in his case it has only been 3 weeks.. and like he said he does have feelings for her..but..lol
I understand that

peggy122's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:35 PM
I think Shallow Hal should do the honorable thing and tell her that he is not mature enough to handle a committed relationship (which he isn't), and that he doesnt want to go any further because she deserves better ( which she does)

And free her up to be with a devoted man who acts his age , instead of his shoe-size indifferent

TxsGal3333's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:38 PM
You know it is what it is. We all have somethings that we just can not deal with.. We are all a little shallow in our own way... And yes I have my deal breakers too when it comes to a guy...


Signed
Boobs looking Southbigsmile

no1phD's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:41 PM
Edited by no1phD on Thu 05/19/16 06:42 PM

"Shallowness" is one of the concern factors of dating which has always been on my "most annoying stupid concepts" list.

Mainly, because it's one of several of what I think of as "cover-up" concepts. People use "shallowness" as a cartoonish way to refuse to directly face up to real world concerns and worries. Worse, once the idea of a person being "shallow" became popular, it was turned into a manipulative label to try to force people, or guilt trip them into forcing themselves, to live in a way what was non-stop uncomfortable and wrong for them.

So. In this case, I see a couple of mistakes being made. First and most obvious, is to try to "fix" it by addressing it as a question of "shallowness." By doing so, the possible choices for this guy are reduced to

* lie to himself and the woman by PRETENDING to like saggy breasts;

* label himself as a "shallow" person, and thereby excuse himself from learning anything about real life.

The other thing I see wrong here, is that you are describing our friend as thinking that she led him on, when what really happened, was that he made assumptions about her which proved incorrect. I would encourage you to point that out to him, mainly because there's the danger that I see so many people fall in to, where they BLAME the other person for their own disappointments, and either are rude to them, or mistreat them, or try to guilt trip them in some way.
.. you make some very interesting and practical points.
. But I'm sure maybe yourself and some other men out there will agree..
Women do have a way of highlighting their attributes and covering up there
... what to say here... issues..lol..
So in a way they do .. deceive men..
Starting with makeup.. then there are their high heel shoes to make them look taller.. girdles push-up bras..
False eyelashes.. implants even...
Maybe my friend's girlfriend should make him pay for implants.. tell him if you don't like my boobs buy me new ones..lol.. he will just say great!.. I just met her and already she wants me to buy her new boobs.... typical woman..jk

no1phD's photo
Thu 05/19/16 06:42 PM
Lol.ok.. if you thought you read pathological instead of practical oops damn autocorrect..lol

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