Lifes a biitch and shiit happens.
But when you been through a lot of shyte & finally think that ' hey this could be it, maybe the one' it fks up worse leaving u so damaged.
So altho not completely over it, i'm somehow getting over it (Thank God) & i hope i'l be 100% healed very soon, but not a mess i was 2 months ago.

If you give yourself 100% to someone, all your love, care, & every part of you & a lot more to the one u think u will spend your life with but in return u get, lack of appreciation, being taken for granted & make u feel unwanted & other sht then its no use. It may hurt when u seperate but with time one can realize it was for the better

Coming on mingle2 & sharing things with all you wonderful indivuduals really hepled things & thank u for that.

In life theres always someone that will truly love u and cherish and accept all your imperfections & be crazy about you....don't accept being hurt, taken for granted & just being used

I totally agree. It's great to have a community, and don't let anyone treat you awful. Life's too short to put up with that!

Hey thanks

Been there so many times. Now I can see the signs quicker and wondered what the heck was wrong with me for not seeing this earlier or putting up with it for so long.

You will heal Romeo...that's the truth and yes ain't life a bit**

I always give my best when I'm in a relationship, very focused and devoted. My world revolved around with my partner that's why I hated myself if I'm inlove ha ha . It took me long time to move on, I'm not the type having a new partner is the best remedy. I need to clear my heart first, to be in a relationship once again.

Being on net, is a big help for me. . . It makes me smile ,

..yup.. kind of like when a dog grabs your leg and starts humping it..
It might feel good but at some point you have to shake him off your leg..lol

thanks all.

Here's how I see it. If there were good parts of the relationship, if it made you happy for the time it lasted, if it brightened your life for a time, it was worth it. Like in the song, "The Dance" by Garth Brooks."I could have missed the pain, but I'd have had to miss the dance".

If you realize what you've given and compare it to what you got back, then you never really gave it to them, at best it was a loan you wanted interest on.


All of these are just means of communicating something.
And they could be communicating all sorts of things.
Such as:

- they realize they aren't being given anything, but shown a lot of behavior with strings, expectations, attached.

- they fear they aren't being show true emotion, just rote expressions that aren't really felt, but demanding true reciprocation, and are trying to manipulate a genuine response.

- communication in the relationship sucks. Both are trying to communicate love and appreciation, but neither understands as such the gestures either is making, leading to frustration and more negative behavior to engender a response that is understood.

Lack of appreciation could be a cry out for lack of understanding what should be appreciated, being taken for granted could be an attempt at communicating not knowing what to value, making someone feel unwanted could be an attempt to get them to show their own feelings and real wants.


Not forever and ever, 24/7, 365, constant.
All relationships will have problems.
And no one will appreciate, value, never take for granted every aspect of you at all times every day forever and ever.
That's pretty much god worship.
No one is not going to use things that hurt you in order to communicate something to make sure you understand their feelings.
If that's what you're looking for then unless you're a cult leader you're kinda screwed.