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Topic: What Are Your Thoughts On This
Goofball73's photo
Thu 09/01/16 06:16 PM
If I meet a girl that soon, and she wants to sniff my neckline cause she just loves the smell of a good man????? Yeah. I am so moving to another state. scared laugh

sparkyae5's photo
Thu 09/01/16 07:09 PM
Edited by sparkyae5 on Thu 09/01/16 07:09 PM

I would like to know what your thoughts are on meeting someone from this site face to face after just exchanging emails on here for a couple of weeks...

Both of us live in the same area and I'm talking about meeting in a public place for a drink during the day.

we haven't talked on the phone or exchanged personal email...

would a person be crazy to meet me or am I crazy to even ask someone to meet me in a public place without talking to them on the phone first???


WORDS ARE ONLY 94% OF A CONVERSATION THE REST IS BODY LANGUAGE ...TALK TO HIM ON

THE PHONE...............

no photo
Thu 09/01/16 07:15 PM

If I meet a girl that soon, and she wants to sniff my neckline cause she just loves the smell of a good man????? Yeah. I am so moving to another state. scared laugh



Just because I want to meet face to face doesn't mean I want to smell them...lol

the most I do is shake their hand and say nice to meet you....lol

no1phD's photo
Thu 09/01/16 08:25 PM
Well personally I would talk to them at least once on the phone...
Last thing you want to do is show up and find out he has a voice like a little girl.. or she has a voice like a man..
Creepy..lol.. but outside of that meeting each other face-to-face is kind of the end result of being online..
It's the finish line.. the prize in the box of cereal.. the o in..orgasm..
If you catch my meaning..lol

no photo
Fri 09/02/16 06:46 AM

Well personally I would talk to them at least once on the phone...
Last thing you want to do is show up and find out he has a voice like a little girl.. or she has a voice like a man..
Creepy..lol.. but outside of that meeting each other face-to-face is kind of the end result of being online..
It's the finish line.. the prize in the box of cereal.. the o in..orgasm..
If you catch my meaning.. lol





You are right about it being the finish line meeting face to face...

I guess I just like to bring the finish line closer to the beginning to see if it is worth finishing the race...lol
so far I have just found friends...



lol....I never gave to much thought to the voice, but now I'll be thinking of that all of the time....lol and yes that would be creepy, especially if the lights were out....lol




mysticalview21's photo
Fri 09/02/16 08:47 AM
Those I have gone out with on a dating site ... we always talked on the phone a bit ... either your perception of them... when you meet them may change or may not ... go for it they may just not have a phone ... but stay in public with them for a while to get some kind of emotional flag warning ... good or bad ... and if you can try not to have any kind of expectations may also work ...

no photo
Fri 09/02/16 09:30 AM
your thoughts are on meeting someone from this site face to face after just exchanging emails on here for a couple of weeks

My thoughts are a meet should have taken place within the first few days.
10 minutes in a nice, public, convenient coffee or whatever place, with clearly marked exits, and lots of people around.

My thoughts are your options for dating are either going out into the real world and randomly meeting a stranger, talking for a few minutes, then give them your number or vice versa, then set up a date, or go online and randomly agreeing with a stranger to set up a time and place to meet that stranger, to talk for a few minutes, exchange numbers, then set up another date.

My thoughts are sitting and talking online only builds a false sense of security and belief the other person is not a stranger when you actually meet.

would a person be crazy to meet me or am I crazy to even ask someone to meet me in a public place without talking to them on the phone first?

Personally, that would be my preference.
IMO the only use online dating sites offer is setting up the random encounter.
Once you meet in person, then you interact via phone to set up future dates, you don't go back to the dating website unless you decide not to see them again.

You are right about it being the finish line meeting face to face...

Meeting face to face is not the finish line.
It's the beginning.
Until you meet nothing else really matters.
Getting someone to meet you from the internet being treated as a prize is kind of a huge problem with internet dating.

I mean
It's the finish line.. the prize in the box of cereal.. the o in..orgasm..

What do most people do when reaching the finish line? They stop.
What do people do after they get the prize in the box of cereal? Throw away the box and go get a new box with a new prize.
What do people do after they have an orgasm? They go to sleep.

The first meet being seen as and treated this way simply exacerbates and feeds into all the other problems with internet dating.

motowndowntown's photo
Fri 09/02/16 11:09 AM

Well, if you meet first and don't like them, they don't have your number to bother you... not a bad plan.

Just make sure there is good food where you go so you are guaranteed a nice meal if they are not what you think based on messages sent... laugh


^^^^^^^^^
This, don't give your number out too easily unless you don't mind getting phone calls in the middle of the night from some drunk with bad teeth.

04trailblazer's photo
Sat 09/03/16 11:26 AM
i think if the guy lets you make the call on when and where to meet thats a good sign..if he offers a daytime meeting in a public place then he is interested in you feeling comfortable

no photo
Mon 09/05/16 09:01 PM
I've met someone without a phone call first. It was in the middle of the day at a starbucks in the middle of a shopping center. Then again it was just a meet and greet and neither one of use excepted anything more out of it. So there was almost no pressure and no expectation to make anything out of it.

Annierooroo's photo
Mon 09/05/16 09:15 PM
Good advice has been given.

I followed the advice of people on here and yes it worked put for me.

Hand over no details
Meet in a public place
Have someone to ring you so you can use them as an excuse if need be.
Have someone watching from a distance.
Stay where there are a lot of people.
Take your own transport.
Never give them a ride to anywhere
Take a small can of spray. Works a treat if they come on to strong.
One more learn how to knee or kick hard right in the middle then when they are down hit them hard on the back of the shoulders.

Oh come on guys a girl has to know how to look after herself. Lol

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