Hey, I was wondering what to do in this situation....

My ex (we parted mutually I thought) seems to be stuck on me. All we ever did is argue and she drinks way too much. She is also way too dramatic all the time and a spoiled rich girl.

She came over to the house today and said she just wanted to score some "J" and talk. I allowed it. She then went into the restroom and came out in Lingerie and Heels...then did a very erotic dance for me, stripping down to nothing (looking damn fine, a sexy pale redhead)....she walked into the hallway and motioned with her finger to follow. I told her I needed to get something out of my car, so I went outside...she said "Hurry back." I was really arroused, but know that she is a nut case and if I had sex with her, she would be hard to get to leave...As I was outside smoking and thinking over my options...the gorgeous young lady I am talking to sent me a text that said someone was on my yahoo f%$king with her and asking her questions...so, I ran into the house to find my ex on my bed with my laptop. I picked up her clothes and her backpack and tossed it to her and asked her to leave. She cried really bad. She was the mother of my little girl...even though she was nutty I felt bad for her. She did leave, and I felt sorry for her, plus had a case of the blue balls. Dang!

Did I do the right thing, or was I just mean?

you did the right thing, trust me. for the blue balls, handle them yourself. but no my friend you did the mature thing and im proud of you. give yourself a pat on the back

u did the right thing...i have so much i could say...but it's too much to type and it's 3:30 am...lol... don't feel bad...she deserved it...

DEFiNiTELY THE RiGHT THiNG...

cool...I was so worried that I was mean. I still have some feelings for her...and she is hot. However, I cant deal with her drinking and her drama. Wish she would just get some help.

u have to put ur foot down and show her that u mean business or else she will just continue to be the reckless person she is...have u tried getting custody of ur little girl?

Oh...um, she passed away from an illness when she was 2.

i'm sorry... and i know this will sound bad...but now u have no reason to be tied to ex... at least ur angel is safe in heaven.

dirtdogg for that, i am sorry

yes, you did the right thing. whether she thinks that was mean or not, to you shouldn't be the issue. with cases such as her, she needs very in your face actions. you have to be consistent with your choice to not be with her anymore. stay with it, and it shall get better. either she will move on or change. but you have to be CONSISTENT. above all that, that isn't a healthy relationship at all.

someone has to be the adult here, and im glad its you.

Obviously your ex was attempting to manipulate you. Good for you that you didn't fall for it. The fact she was using your IM to harrass the other girl says alot too. Txmama is right. You need to be consistent in your behaviour toward her, or she will grasp at any chance to continue your relationship.

Sounds like the right decision!

send a brick through her windshield

From a guys perspective? You did the right thing. I've been in that same exact situation and did the same exact thing. Please leave. Might leave you with mixed emotions now but you will not have the stresses later. Good job.

You maintained your boundaries.... Bravo....

You did the right thing. No need to mislead her if you don't see a future. Good job.

Well...

I agree, you did do the right thing. If you would have let her do what she wanted, that would have been leading her on. Why would you want to do that?? As far as the blue thing, take care of it yourself, it's safer that way...

You did the right thing

Maybe when you let her score she took that as an easy signal you were okay with her. You didn't stop her up front as she commissioned you afterwards with possible sex.

Dude! I know the power of a woman and also needing to get some so hard to resist.

Next time you'll have to shut her down earlier but you basically did the right thing.

Hard when you got an ex. I refuse to deal with the ex its either all is good or we aren't talkin'.

I'd call her and talk to her about her life and your position. Maybe she'll change... For most, not likely but maybe.

Much respect though,

J