I am just thinking the same

I agree why are good honest people so hard to find

I just don't know

Possibly because you don't really need a bagel you just want a bagel.

Kind of like when people aren't really hungry, they just want something to eat, so they open up the fridge and stare at the contents.

They don't really see anything that "grabs" them, excites them enough to eat it.

Then they start thinking about it and come up with an idea like "oh, you know what sounds kinda good right now? You know what would tease my desire for appetite fulfillment, give me a nice experience? A bagel. I'm going to go get a bagel. Mmmm...a big, chewy bagel, with a bunch of cream cheese."

So then they go online to look up local bagel places, or go to random grocery stores, or go to ladies night at the bagel club.

But the same problem exists as they stared into their fridge.
"Hmmmm, all they have are 4 1/2 inch bagels, and too much cream cheese, and it's the generic cream cheese. I pride myself on working out and staying fit. I don't need the calories. Next!

Hmmm...they only have onion or jalapeno or poppy seed and they're so tiny at 3 inch, plus lite cream cheese, plus they're priced the same as the jumbo bagels. I work for a living, I'm not paying more for less. Next!

Hmmm...these are frozen bagels by the half dozen, and I'd have to take them home, open the package, cut them in half, get crumbs over everything, wait while they toasted, provide my own cream cheese, spread that myself, plus if I don't constantly eat them they'll just sit and rot, wasting time and money...it's just not worth the effort, I am a busy woman, I have work, and workouts, and responsibilities I have to deal with, I don't want to mess with all that.
Oh well, now I'm out of coffee, and without coffee a bagel is just a bland donut. I'll just stop at the drive thru on the way home, get an egg mcfwb or something.

Why is it so hard to find a perfect bagel? Why can't there just be one place I can go where I am guaranteed to get the exact bagel I want exactly how I want it and have it ready for me exactly when and where I want to consume it?"


Why exactly are you looking for the "right" person to spend the rest of your life with.
Is it just to fulfill your desired appetite by consuming "love?"
Actualizing of your own emotional fulfillment and pleasure?
Or is there some sort of purpose to it?

Is it "I've got the job, a house, all the accessories of success, now I need the ken doll to stick in my barbie dream life in order to make the set complete," or is it "I've focused my life on my career and found it shallow and ultimately meaningless as it's mostly about selling my efforts to people who for the most part wouldn't give a crap about me if I wasn't exploitable, I want to focus on building a family, a reciprocating emotional support system, and people caring about each other, I need to start with a partner for that."

If you're just looking for an accessory, you are just shopping.
Only your moods and needs and wants for the accessory are changing each different time you go shopping, each time you sign online, each time you go out, each date. So fulfillment is harder to find.

If you actually have purpose and it's true, then you start behaving according to how you want to ultimately be. Your purpose and goals are communicated indirectly in consistent fashion as you slowly change your lifestyle into something that accommodates what you truly want, which draws the type of people you want to you.

Easy..it doesn't exist.

Yea, if it was easy, this site may not exist, my thing or my thinking, before we go "out there", give us that chance, better to be comfortable with our self, does helps. Then ask and understand what you want, against what are you finding, meet in the middle. My thing, anyone can have intercourse, not everyone can keep a relationship.

One of these days!

That's right we just have to find who really didn't exist

Why is it hard to find the One? Because nobody knows exactly who they really want to find. They make up an image of their second half in acccordance with fashion, adverts, different films, so-called stars etc. Plus everybody wants someone "with kind heart, no drama, good sence of humour, who loves me the same I am" etc. BUT nobody gives a question to yourself: "Do I have a kind heart? Am I prepared to love a person the same that person is?" etc.
To find the One you should start with yoursef :))

well at times you may be the one blocking Mr right. Based on your presentation, demand and attitude people with honest plan may find it difficult to reach you. Go with your mind open ( please not by giving in to sex) welcome people with honesty and watch things unfold.

Easy isn't the standard in my world.

its more understandable when posed this way

"Why is it so hard to find the 'one' {amongst billions)?"

trust is earned

One of these days

I think it's not hard to find but it's took time to choose a correct person for your life

It's hard coz we at times set our expectations too high.

Hello to all men. It is hard to find a true man that he will visit me in my place. It is hard to believe and look for a true and fixed decision that have a determination to visit and meet me in the Philippines

It is always hard for an idependent woman, it is a challenge... but I have faith someday "the one" will be the winner. Hope the same for you!

Not true... so which suggestions can you give? Resign herself just because??