How does comprise work without one person or the other giving in?

It is different with each situation all depends what it is...

But to comprise you are actually taking the situation and agreeing on something that you both are happy with....

Neither is actually giving in just finding a happy medium~~~that both can deal with...

you give in and then deny that you gave in.... learnt that in man 101

Is that lying?.. yes it is.. but so what. she knows it.. you know it.. she give you a dirty look and you ignore it

In the morning all is forgotten

Compromising is when both sides give in enough to meet in the middle.

I don't make compromises it's my way or the highway..lol... but I will compromise and let you decide what car door you get out of..lol

Note to self: Buy 3 robot vacuuming machines .

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I think it's based on wanting things to work out so you're willing to meet the other in the middle, or even all the way at times.
As long as you don't go over you own boundaries in doing so, what's wrong with it?
You can stubbornly hold on to your own way, which is the short cut to getting a relationship to fail. A relationship is about relating. Meaning it's give and take, not about you getting your way. It's not a battle.

If you're afraid of giving in and compromising you may be insecure. Like someone said, it's a sign of strength, not weakness.
Giving in doesn't equal letting someone walk all over you.

I totally agree. Compromising is about coming to a mutual agreement to settle differences and enhances relationships. It's about respecting each others differences and wishes, and meeting each other half way...two halves form a whole! Any relationship that thrives, is strong, and sustainable will have negotiables (compromises) and non-negotiables (boundaries).

Otherwise it becomes a power struggle and is more about ego rather than forming a bond. Those type of relationships become toxic and generally end in an all out war!

The basic requirements to achieve compromise without "giving in," are self-knowledge, and self-discipline.

You need to know what you CAN do, without losing your sense of self, and you need to make sure you only agree to things that maintain that.

It's difficult to make up much more of a general rule about good and bad compromises than that, because the exact circumstances and the details of each person involved, are unique to each case.

The ideal compromise, is usually neither one or the other person getting everything they want, nor is it both being unhappy (as many people who fear to compromise complain).

The best compromises, are where everyone involved gets together, and rethinks the decision to be made, after coming to understand each other's concerns. Then they both make a new mutual choice, that includes everyone's concerns, rather than just one person's alone.

There can be an entirely separate issue involved as well. I have been with people for whom I ALWAYS had to compromise, and if that goes on for too long, my sense that we share any commonalities will fade. In some cases, it can get so bad, that even though EACH compromise is satisfactory, the fact that I NEVER get what I want, eats away my confidence in the relationship.

I held off commenting on this topic because I thought it was just another person trying to justify themselves. Till I read that.

My problem was I compromised too much. It was a situation where I never really got what I wanted. It affected my sense of ownership. We did what she wanted, ate foods that she liked, lived where she decided, spent our money on what she wanted. When I got sick and couldn't give her what she wanted her true nature came out and it was the end.

Its a lesson I learned the hard way and it took a long time to manifest but as I look back, it was inevitable. In my drive to make her happy, I lost a vital part of myself. I created a relationship where I was the robot.

I now understand that there are times when there should not be compromise. I also understand that compromise must be shared by both. Its easier just to go along with whatever the other wants but sometimes that is not what is best for the relationship.

It all matters what it is you are compromising about. It also matters how much you are forced to compromise compared to how often compromise is natural to the relationship.

Am I agreeing because I agree?
Am I agreeing because it isn't really important to me?
Am I agreeing to prevent an argument or a fight?
Am I agreeing in hopes of getting something else I want?
Am I agreeing because I have no choice?
Am I agreeing because I understand and accept their reasoning?

It depends on when you ask me and how you ask me to compromise.

Inherent to the definition of "compromise" is "giving in."
Making concessions.
You cannot compromise without "giving in" to some degree.


It doesn't.
If both people don't "give in" to some degree it's not "compromise."
It's one person conceding.



Unless you actually do mean the word "comprise" and are using the definition in a pedantic sense, possibly because English isn't your first language?

So the question becomes "how do you make up without giving in? How does making up work without one person or the other giving in?"

Or IOW "how do you get back together without allowing them to feel like they have control over you? That you need them more than they need you, opening up the possibility they take advantage of the situation and do things like elicit demands for you to change for their benefit?"

Then it's about reestablishing boundaries and expectations.

first you need to know what the hell you want.. and then the both of you try to work to that point... and if you cant then you make a compromise..
You want pizza I want German food
So.. we compromise.. and go out for East Indian food..wow !!..